We met on a now-defunct Christian message board called The Ooze in late 2003 or early 2004. I don’t remember the specific day or month anymore, only that his posts made me laugh almost as much as they made me think.
He smelled nice. The pauses in our conversations were never awkward, even though I can be pretty quiet when I meet someone for the first time. We wanted the same things out of life – no kids, no pets, and a quiet, simple life in the best city I’ve ever known.
A year later we got married. I’ll save the story of how that happened for our proper 10 year anniversary. As far as I know, all of the time you spent dating somehow stops counting once you’re married 😛
I read a lot of books about marriage and relationships when I was younger. Why? I read everything, and sometimes books are more interesting if you don’t agree with them. It’s boring to stick to one genre or school of thought.
To each their own, but it never made sense to me to distill something as complex as a relationship into bullet points and a one size fits all mentality, though. It still doesn’t.
People aren’t machines. You can’t get what you want from them by pushing the right buttons. What works for me might be a dismal failure for someone else.
So far, so good. 🙂