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Suggestion Saturday: May 7, 2016

Spring ChickHere is this week’s list of poems, blog posts, short stories, and tidbits from my favourite corners of the web. The photo on the left has nothing to do with this week’s links. I’m sharing it because I think it’s cute and I’m so thrilled that spring has finally arrived in Ontario.

A Complete History of Beyoncé and Jay Z’s Relationship.  I find it utterly fascinating that someone actually took the time to compile such a long and detailed list of what sounds like every time this couple has mentioned each other in public. Putting that much energy into someone else’s private life isn’t something I understand. If any of my readers are into this sort of thing, I’d love to know why you find it so amusing. It would also be interesting to interview you if you’re willing to answer a few questions. I want to know how your mind works. Ha!

Raise Your Wands via JackieSmith114. This is for all of the Harry Potter fans who follow my blog.

4 Ways to Help Your Adopted/Foster Child Through Mother’s Day and Other Holidays via MarriageReset. My thoughts are with everyone who finds Mother’s Day hard for any reason. This is one of many reasons why some people struggle with this holiday.

3 Healthy Coping Strategies via teachaholicblog. It’s nice to hear how other people cope with bad days.

Opting Out of Coastal Madness to Live a Low-Overhead Life. If small towns were more accepting places, I’d consider this idea. It’s something I’d recommend to people who are heterosexual, cisgender, white, and religious, but once you start moving outside of those labels things can get pretty complicated. There are excellent reasons why certain minority groups tend to move to cities. I hope this will change one day soon because this article really does make some good points about adjusting your lifestyle to save money.

From 1957:

It was a bright day in May, and the clocks were striking twelve. I had no idea why I’d been summoned to the Head’s study. Dr. Treadwell had four clocks there, each a present from a grateful pupil. We heard the chapel clock everywhere in Dean House, deep and reverent, ordering the school day. Treadwell let each of his little clocks chime together on the hour, but Old Ned drowned them.

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It’s Never Too Late to Start Again

The high school I attended was small and rural, but it was large enough to have two options for students who wanted to study a second language. I chose Spanish over German without a moment of hesitation. It seemed far more useful given how many people there were in that area who spoke Spanish as their first language.

Getting to know our new teacher was exciting at first. She seemed to love the Spanish language, and she spent a lot of time showing us why she felt that way. We spent one class period picking out psuedonyms for ourselves from a long list that she’d given us. I chose Lucia because it was the closest approximation to Lydia I could find.

The cracks were whispers at first. There were rumours of our teacher having health problems, although no one knew exactly what was ailing her. One day she disappeared without warning. I thought it might be a temporary absence at first, but she never came back. As an adult, I completely understand why the school administration protected her privacy so completely. At the time, though, it felt like they were ignoring us and stonewalling all of our reasonable questions about what happened and why we weren’t learning anything anymore.

None of our substitutes spoke Spanish. Most of them were only around for a few days before the next one showed up, so everything ground to a halt as the months flew by. We studied the same sections over and over again. When we did move onto a new section, the temporary teachers didn’t know how to pronounce any of the words we’d already learned, much less the new and unfamiliar ones. Eventually a longterm substitute was found just before the year ran out, but she didn’t speak the language either.

We had a fluent teacher the next year. She was nice, but she didn’t seem to understand how fragmented and disorganized our first year of study had been. Her lessons sometimes included words and grammar rules that we had never been taught. This would have been totally fine if the lesson had been about showing us how to use them, but they often assumed we already knew all of that information. That made it difficult to understand what she was asking us to do.

More and more classmates dropped the class as the semesters rolled by. I stayed until the end of my Junior year, but I only ended up retaining a few words and phrases.

I’ve been studying Spanish lately, so these memories are coming back. It’s never too late to start again. Maybe this time I’ll actually learn how to read and write the language!

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How Many People Can The Earth Hold?

I wish this video would have been longer. It touched on so many different issues that humanity will face in the near future.

It will be interesting to see how we cope with them.

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Silence Isn’t Always Negative

StormySilence can be a good thing. All is well with me, but I have nothing to say today.

I hope and plan to be back on Wednesday with something interesting.

In the meantime, enjoy your Monday.

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Suggestion Saturday: April 30, 2016

Here is this week’s list of poems, essays, and tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

What Literacy Can Do for Children in Institutions:

But can we, in our developed world of medical and social care, begin to imagine their anguish when doctors advised them that the only way they could ensure the twins would be cared for and properly educated was to give them up to an institution for children designated “irecuperabil”(impossible to recuperate)?

Somewhere Between A-three and A-four via JAHesch. Like Joe, I’ve been feeling nostalgic lately. One of the towns I grew up in had a few different rivers that met in the middle of it. I used to love walking past them and seeing how high the water levels had risen when I went to the library. There were some times in the summer when so much water had evaporated that you could actually climb down onto the side of the riverbed and walk on dry ground beside the temporarily smaller stream.  I never actually did that, but it sure was tempting during the mugginess of July and August. This poem reminded me of those experiences.

Hobo Cat or Super Tramp? via catsstories. Posts like this make me wish that I wasn’t so allergic to  cats. They seem like they’d be great companions.

Bisexual Doesn’t Mean Polyamorous via Living_Queer. It amazes me that people are still so quick to assume that these terms are synonyms. While some people do identify as both, they’re two completely different identities.

A Positive Life: How a Son Survived Being Injected with HIV by His Father. This story brought tears to my eyes.

I Am Becky With the Good Hair.  I still wonder if the whole thing isn’t a publicity stunt, although the music itself on Lemonade is great.

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How to Be a Good Apartment Neighbour

So you’ve moved into an apartment building or complex. Congratulations on your new, environmentally-friendly home! There are a few things the people living underneath, beside, and/or on top of you would like you to know about this kind of living arrangement.

  1. If there is a communal laundry room, empty your machines as soon as possible. Your clothing will start to smell like mildew in your quiet, dark closet just as quickly as it would if you let it sit in the same washing machine for days on end.
  2. Do you feel like juggling bowling balls in your living room? Fantastic! Please save your juggling practices for the daylight hours, though. They’ll make the same delightfully raucous noise in the middle of the day as they would at 10 pm, and they’ll be much less likely to irritate the people living below you then.
  3. Open a window if your overcooked dinner sets your home fire alarm off. If you open your front door, the smoke will drift into the hallway and set off the main fire alarm. When the main fire alarm goes off it will loudly blare into every single apartment in the complex until the fire truck arrives. This is the sort of thing that should only happen when there is an actual fire spreading from one apartment to the next. See also: The Boy Who Cried Wolf.
  4. Speaking of fire alarms, smoking cigarettes also sets them off. Yes, this still counts if you open a window or sneak a cigarette in the emergency staircase. Be sure your sin smoke will find you out.
  5. Please tell me how your dog has learned to identify the floor he lives on by sniffing the elevator door. I am fascinated every time I see him figure out exactly when you will be disembarking and barking his approval of it.
  6. If you allow a canvasser to slip behind you into the building, we’re sending him or her to your house.
  7. Let the preschoolers press the ground floor button on the elevator. It will make their day.

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Croaked

This is the story of a young girl who finds a dead frog and decides to bring it back to life. It’s one of the strangest and most creative short films I’ve seen in a long time. To be honest, I still don’t know what to make of it, although I did love the ending.

What did you think of it?

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Why You Don’t Have to Respect Your Elders

This post was originally published in October of 2011.

Respect your elders!

We’ve all heard this.

But why should anyone be afforded more (or less) respect because of something as out of our control as the date and time we entered this world?

If I told you Bob is 60 years old and Susanna is 15 could you tell me which one of these people is kinder? more compassionate? wiser? more loving?

Yes, sometimes people do grow wiser with age but it isn’t an automatic process.

I’ve known “Bobs” (both male and female) who lived the same year over and over again, never applying lessons learned from one day to the next. There have also been “Susannas” who tumble out of childhood with more wisdom and common sense than most people three or four times their age.

Story Time

Drew and I spent a week visiting my parents and siblings a few summers ago when our nephew, Aiden, was a toddler. At the end of the visit I asked for a hug. He said no. Our last visit had been when Aiden was an infant and it was completely understandable that he’d be a little shy. These things happen when families are geographically scattered.

I also couldn’t imagine pushing this issue simply because I happened to be a couple of decades older. Being a child doesn’t mean that one has to do everything adults want. Yes, there are times when Aiden’s parents made and make decisions that he isn’t developmentally ready to take responsibility for yet but even a toddler is still his or her own person.

And a funny thing happened a few minutes later: he leaned over and gave me a hug after all.

Respect

…is for everyone: the Prime Minister, the homeless person sitting on the corner, your 88 year old grandmother and your two year old son or daughter all deserve a basic level of respect simply because they are fellow human beings.

It makes no sense to withhold this basic respect (or dribble out more of it) based on how old someone is or what has happened in their life so far.

…is earned. But, yes, respect is also something we can earn more of based on what we do and how we treat others.

Someone who is courteous, kind and generous is almost always going to be more respected and well-liked by those around them than someone who who is rude, selfish and cruel.

…cannot be demanded. In fact, demanding that someone respect you (outside of a rare handful of situations) is one of the fastest ways to lose it. It would be like walking up to a significant other, close family member or friend and saying, “I demand that you love me!”

Whatever emotions or behaviours that are dredged up may give the appearance of love or respect but you can never attract the real thing through force.

Am I saying that we should disrespect our elders?

No.

But don’t let something as out of our control as age determine who deserves your respect.

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Suggestion Saturday: April 23, 2016

Here is this week’s list of tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

Ruth Coker Burks, the cemetery angel. Someone needs to make a movie out of this story.

Devil’s Food Cake and White Lies via LindaKSienkwicz. I’ve never had this dilemma. Have any of my readers?

When a Fear Demands to be Faced via MaryannePope. I have had moments like this, though.

Why It’s Important to Filter What We See, Read, and Accept Into Our Lives via happy seriously. One of the reasons why I avoid advertisements as much as I possibly can is so that I don’t have these kinds of thoughts.

In a Perpetual Present. What an interesting case.

From I Was an Men’s Right’s Activist:

Later, I discovered I suffer from clinical depression. There’s lot of literature on how socially extremist groups — such as men’s rights or white supremacy — exploit young men whose lives are in turmoil, their beliefs in conflict. Spreading Misandry was a recruitment piece and I was an easy target.

From What Happened to Wildlife When Chernobyl Drove Humans Out? It Thrived:

In fact, this study demonstrates that, regardless of potential radiation effects on individual animals, the Chernobyl exclusion zone supports a thriving and abundant mammal community despite nearly three decades of chronic radiation exposure.

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Earth According to Rocks

I almost never blog on Fridays, but I wanted to share this short film with my readers in honour of Earth Day.

It follows the adventures of a few sentient rocks who watch the Earth change over many millennia. I absolutely loved the storytelling in it, especially once humans began showing up.

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