The Dangers of Internet People

I started badgering my parents to sign up for internet service in the mid 1990s. In early 1999 they finally gave in. ūüėȬ†At the time there was a great deal of conversation about the dangers of the Internet. People worried that they’d be taken advantage of online through Internet People ™ who lied about who they really were or who were running scams.¬†We were cautioned against meeting these folks or giving them too much personal information.

The Truth

What is insanely fascinating about this is that for many crimes Рsexual assault and murder to name a few-  the average person is far more likely to be hurt by someone they know than a stranger. Embezzlement by definition happens within personal or professional relationships. Even 43% of identity thefts are thought to be committed by someone the victim knew.

These things happen in every community. No one is immune to becoming the victim of violence or theft. Yes, there are online scammers out there. Yes, caution is a good thing. From the statistics (and depending on the crime), though, we are as if not more likely to be harmed by people we know.

Question:¬†Why is there so much focus on crimes committed by strangers? Shouldn’t there be as many, if not more, conversations about how to avoid or mitigate the harm done in person?

Internet People

When I first leapt online I was wary of sharing my real name or location. Pseudonyms and purposefully vague references to where I lived were the way to go.

A funny thing happened in the last decade-ish, though. Some of these Internet People ™ became longtime friends. When I’m frustrated, afraid, lonely, happy or need advice they’re only an email or¬†phone call¬†away. I’m as close to many of them as I am to those I see in person far more often.

In my experience the fear of online friendships often comes from the idea that there’s only one way to do it. Either you have local friends or you have Internet People ™ who live states, provinces, countries away. There seems to be little sense of how much gray area there is between the two or how the medium matters less than what we do for one another.

I wonder if part of this is a cultural or generational difference. People who grew up with BBSing or the Internet seem to be more comfortable with the social aspects than those who were introduced to it later. (There are many exceptions to this, of course! They’re ¬†just general group trends I’ve noticed.)

These are my fragmented thoughts about the communities that are forming and have formed online. What do you see?

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  1. I know far more people from many parts of the world as a result of the Internet. My life is far richer as a result. There are times I yearn forth human touch but all in all I am grateful for the cyber friends I have.

  2. Anonymous

    As an introvert I really work better most of the time with cyber connections–e-mail and now blogs, twitter, and Facebook. I think it is true that I would have reached this point faster had I grown up with it, as I see with my students, and yes it took a long time for me because of a whole bevy of fears. That being said, I think you are quite right that it isn’t the medium that makes the relationship, and, like Bruce, I am very grateful for the cyber friends I have and for the development of these friendships.

      • Anonymous

        well, all the usual cyber fears we were given about predators and identity theft. Also, finding out that someone I thought was one thing was just one of those nasty type fake people (witness the number of times on say Facebook someone has pretended to be another gender/age, etc), but then you can also find that in live interaction. And then the biggest for me was not wanting to put myself out there in case I was found to be stupid or lacking, something I’ve been told for much of my life and I am now trying to see was false. Still the fears do linger at times, but I’m healing.

  3. I think the main fear of the internet is the unknown aspect of it. A person can easily present a face that isn’t anything like who the person is in real life. Some people can get sucked in by this and I’m certain there are many people out there who are victimized by it.

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