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Photo by L. Shyamal. Animal courtesy of Saleem Hameed.

If I were a turtle, this is the face I’d make when there are too many words.

Don’t get me wrong – it’s not that I don’t like people. I love being social, there just comes a time when I need a break from all of the words tumbling around me. Sometimes there are a lot of them!

Silence is refreshing. Some conversations need a lot of it afterwards so I can have a chance to absorb everything that was said.

Did you know that punctuation marks used to be used sporadically (or not at all in with certain writing styles and cultures), and that many early forms of writing never put spaces between words?

thatwouldbelikewritingthiswayallofthetime

My brain hurts just thinking about it.

Earlier this month I got little twitchy because I wasn’t getting enough time alone. I think I’ve come up with a good solution for it, but as I was brainstorming ideas I stumbled over these facts. (Never try to figure me out based on what I’ve googled recently. It’s an eclectic jumble of stuff I need to know for my short stories, bizarre questions that pop into my mind, and random words I’m not sure how to spell. Only about 10% of it actually reflects my real mental state. Haha!)

I used to imagine words tumbling out of the sky when I’d had enough of them. Now I think I’ll be picturing them crowding closer and closer together until I can’t where one ends and the next one begins.

How do you visualize these things?

Here is this week’s list of blog posts, short stories, comic strips, games, and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

Gender Chaos…Sorry, I Am Not a Man via StephNeighbour. This sounds like such a frustrating experience.

Coming Out Simulator 2014. It’s really difficult to describe what it feels like to come out to your parents. Even though I knew my parents weren’t going to react the same way that this guy’s parents did, I was still nervous about how those conversations would go. I’d kept my bisexuality very private up until then, and I honestly didn’t know if they had any idea that I wasn’t straight. This game is a great opportunity for anyone who’s never experienced something like this to get a small taste of what it feels like. I highly recommend it to all of my readers.

Confirmation Bias for Everyone! Ha!

Conversation with a Kitty. If I wasn’t so allergic to them (and wasn’t married or related to people who are also allergic), I’d have a house full of cats. They’re such funny creatures.

Infidelity – The Exception or The Rule? via PatriciaMann11. A fascinating discussion about infidelity, forgiveness, and whether every couple should expect to deal with these issues once they’ve been married a while. I don’t agree at all that cheating is inevitable, but I really enjoyed silently observing what everyone else had to say on this topic.

From The Woman Who Had No Shadow via prnancarrow:

The pastor’s new wife was afraid of having children.

Other women are afraid they won’t have children, but she was afraid of having them. She felt completely alone in this fear – she could share it with no one – and therefore it consumed her.

Grist is one of the best books I’ve read in 2014.

The narrator lives in a time and place where it was extremely difficult for women to live on their own. She had long since resigned herself to eking out a living as a teacher when a man she barely knows proposes to her. This should have been her happily ever after, but instead it was the beginning of decades of emotional abuse.

What surprised me the most, though, was how beautiful this story was. I never would have expected that given the subject matter, but I strongly recommend it to anyone in the mood for something unforgettable.

What have you been reading?

Photo by MShades.

Happy Blogiversary to On the Other Hand! It’s hard to believe I’ve been blogging here since 2010. The years have flown by.

if we all lived in the same city, I’d invite you all over for dessert. I like simple cakes like the one on the left. It’s much better to have a thin layer of frosting and some fruit than to be stuck with too much cloyingly sweet frosting and not enough cake.

My writing is chugging along. I have enough short stories now to compile into a book. I don’t know when they’ll be published, but I’ll keep you all updated. Do you remember that novel, After the Storm, that I posted here in sections last here? I’m rewriting it as well, although it’s taking longer than I thought it would. Sometimes characters listen to you…sometimes they don’t. 😉

My personal top 3 posts from last year are as follows:

Old Is a State of Mind

Is Pastor Bruce Gerencser a Theonomist? 

3 Reasons Why Authors Shouldn’t Hide Their Religious and Political Beliefs

What posts have you loved? What kind of cake do you like? Let me know in the comment section!

Locked up from Gabriel Grapperon on Vimeo.

Is the moral of this short film something like “don’t try too hard”?

I don’t think it is, but the thought did cross my mind while watching it. Ha!

Photo by Srinath66.

This summer is flying by so fast! I can’t believe it’s almost August already.

I haven’t sent out any more snail mail packages since my last update in this series, but I have been messaging and emailing other people more often than I did before beginning this experiment. Store-bought cards feel less personal to me than sending a tailored message to just one or two people. There are many other people who will be receiving that card, but no one else will ever get that specific note again.

Last month I said I was going to start trying to respond to every email within a week of receiving it. I’ll be honest – I completely failed to meet this goal at first. It’s so easy to let an email sit in your inbox for just one more day. Before you know it, it’s been several weeks…or longer.

I am slowly reducing my response time, though, which is good.

Along with writing back to people more quickly, my August goal is to assemble another care package. I sent a small one to my grandparents back in June. The package was filled with various types of candy that is sold in Toronto but not in the U.S.  It’s fascinating to see how people’s tastes in candy vary from one region to the next, and some of the stuff I sent was a big hit. This time I’m picking a different family member, but I’ll share the details of that next month.

In the meantime, how have you been keeping in touch this summer? (Also, what on earth is going on with the winged letter above? I’m so perplexed by it!)

See also:

How Do You Keep In Touch?

Keeping In Touch Update #1

Here is this week’s list of blog posts, short stories, and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

My Life in Law (a short story). I love this.

Summer Is For Skinny People via mediocreventure. Do you agree? Disagree? I’ve always been skinny to average sized, so this is a new thought to me.

14 Brilliant Pieces of Literature You Can Read in the Time it Takes to Eat Lunch. Would you believe that I’d only read about a third of these before stumbling across this list? It sure surprised me because I read so voraciously!

Staying Present and Grounded in the Age of Information Overload. Originally I was planning to quote something from this interview to whet my reader’s appetites for more, but the whole thing is incredible.

From I Can’t Even:

The other day, while reading some old horror stories, I realized that we’re sitting on a gold mine of such linguistic gambits. One hundred years ago, an American fiction author embarked on a mission of exploring precisely this aesthetic territory—the collapse of language in the face of an emotionally unhinging reality.

From Papers, Please: Why Human Civilization Makes No Sense via CantrellJason:

Let me see if I’ve got this straight.

If I want to become a part of human society and follow the prescribed path most people follow, first I need to fill out this piece of paper.

My reading list has grown thin this summer. What have you been reading?

Photo by Alex Furmansky.

I’ve known Bruce Gerencser for several years now. As fellow ex-Christians we have a lot in common.

He’s  jumped in and out of blogging over the years. Every time he goes away again I feel sad, but I’m also pretty sure that he’ll be back once he’s gotten a better handle on the things that cause him to step away.

Bruce has always publicly responded to his critics. Recently it happened so much that one of his readers told him to stop giving them so much attention. (No, that reader wasn’t me. I don’t tell other bloggers what to write about unless they specifically ask for ideas. 🙂 )

All of his posts make me think, but that one in particular has been rattling around in my mind this past week. My personality is quite different from Bruce’s. He (usually) enjoys jumping into the fray. I stay the heck away from it.

But even the angriest comments or emails are an invitation, not a summons.

You can respond to them in a public post.

You can write back privately.

You can ignore them entirely. (Well, unless it’s a Howler).

I don’t blame Bruce for responding to his critics. If I received as much hate mail as he does, I’d be really tempted to get sucked into it as well.

There’s real freedom to be found in exploring all of your options, though, and silence is always one of them.

One of my readers emailed me recently to see if I know anything about a film about Fred Sloman. It was made by Kodak and commissioned by the relatives of some of his students.

This is a long shot, but do any of my readers happen to know where to find this film today? If so, leave a comment on this post or use my contact form.  I’ll pass on anything you know to the person who was asking about it. If you both give me permission to do so, I’ll also get you in touch with each other.