Green Washed

By far the strangest phenomenon I’ve encountered while living in the big city is the unholy wedding of environmentalism and consumerism.

Last year a law was passed requiring businesses to charge their customers at least five cents for every plastic shopping bag. In response to this law, more and more businesses are selling reusable plastic and cloth bags so that people who don’t want to pay the fee or accumulate more plastic bags have another option while shopping.

Some of the bags are black and plain, others are covered with bright colours and whimsical animal, plant or geometric patterns. Grocery stores often sell incredibly sturdy reusable bags that have the store’s name printed on the side of them. There is one style of bag that has various phrases printed on the side of it. For example, it may say this is a green bag or this is not a plastic bag.

Snide phrases like these irk me.

The Irks

  • I’ve never heard of any these bags (or the companies that make and/or sell them) extolling the idea of buying and consuming less as a permanent lifestyle change.
  • Unnecessary purchases are not made one whit more necessary by the type of bag in which one carries them home.
  • Sermonizing does nothing to endear other people to one’s cause.
  • Ethically speaking, it seems so strange for one to purposefully draw attention to his or her own virtue. It is far better, IMO, to let your actions speak for themselves.

Other Examples

This is only one example of the melding of environmentalism and consumerism. Back when Drew and I still had cable our local news channel would occassionally feature stories in which the host talked about various ways of living a more green life.

In many cases, this involved buying new stuff that had been grown or produced in more eco-friendly ways: appliances, homes, cars, clothing, toys, shoes. Anything that could be repackaged as earth-friendly was repackaged as such and much of it was far more expensive than what one would typically pay for such a thing.

Are organic, locally grown/made, fair-trade products better? In many cases yes. At other times I’m less sure. I do feel a twinge of guilt when I buy something that was probably picked, sewn or assembled by someone working for abysmally small wages in dangerous conditions.

Sometimes there are no alternatives, though, or the conscious-friendly option isn’t even in the same solar system as my budget. This is what I do instead:

  • Use it up.
  • Wear it out.
  • Give away what I no longer need.
  • Gratefully accept what others pass along to me.
  • Only purchase the absolute necessities.

For certain items I’ll also consider buying used although the North American bedbug epidemic makes me wary about bringing home anything in which they could hitch a ride. A set of dishes, cookware or cutlery would be acceptable things to pick up at a secondhand store or garage sale; an upholstered couch, on the other hand,  is something I’d insist upon buying new. 😉

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Suggestion Saturday: December 4, 2010

Here is this week’s list of blog posts, videos, photos, comics and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

Candy Making 2010. Last month I pestered….er, encouraged my friend Teresa to blog about her experiences making homemade candy. After reading her post I’m unbearably curious to see if I could whip up some dairy-free versions of them one day when I have a bigger kitchen!

Strip Searches and Blaming the Terrorists. The funniest comic I’ve seen  yet about the TSA and highly invasive search techniques.

Walking to Nowhere. The problem with evaluating neighbourhoods based on how easily one can walk to, say, the grocery store or post office is that it does not take into account something very important. Click on the link for more information!

Wild. This comic alludes to a novel’s worth of questions. Why is she standing alone, (tastefully PG) nude in the woods in the middle of the night? At what are her wolves howling?

Unlikely Prophets. What is the first thing you think of when you come across someone who displays bizarre behaviour? I thought I was the only one who responded in a certain way but the author of this post has the same reaction to this!

From A Little Selfishness Never Killed Anyone:

Selfishness is not a negative term unless we make it out to be. If you call someone selfish, they will automatically take it as an insult. Why? There is nothing wrong with being selfish if it is done properly and if you don’t trample on others in the process. Really.

Finding Wildness. There is an amazing video of starlings flying in the evening sky at the end of this post that I’ve watched over and over again.

What have you been reading?

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Zombies, Altruism and the End of the World

By far my favourite new TV series this year is The Walking Dead, a post-apolyptic zombie tale based on a series of comics by the same name.

I’ve always enjoyed the heart-pounding excitement of horror and end-of-the-world stories.Gore or violence don’t makes these things worth watching but how the characters react to what is happening and how they come together to fight it (or occasionally lose all social cohesion and don’t do anything at all.)

What If?

There’s something to be said for wondering if a bump in the night is an indication of something other than just a strange sound, for being prepared for the worst even as one fully expects nothing at all or only good things to be waiting around the corner.

When we go out to eat my Dad has always preferred to be seated at a corner booth where he can sit and observe everyone who walks past us. To the best of my knowledge he’s never been harmed in any way while eating out. 😉 He simply prefers to know his surroundings and to never be caught unaware.

There’s also something to be said for facing the ugly truth within each of us. Scary movies and tv shows can and often do portray painfully sexist, racist, homophobic, and classist views. This is not a good place for those who want to believe that we live in a world in which these things no longer taint how people perceive one another. Things are improving, yes, but prejudice and discrimination aren’t going away any time soon.

If the economic, social and national ties that bind us together were unwoven and people had to fend for themselves (or die trying) the world that the survivors re-created would still be birthed out of all of our old assumptions. In this I cannot disagree with the creators of The Walking Dead and similar shows.

The Walking Dead, like most post-apocalyptic tales,  assumes that this new world would be quickly overtaken by sociopaths.

This is Where We Disagree

I understand why someone would assume that a post-apocolyptic world would heavily favour our most selfish tendencies. In a world full of limited resources it would make a certain kind of sense to battle over them in the short term. An individual who goes to bed with a full stomach every night, after all, is going to have that much easier of a time remaining healthy and strong.

Altruism is a better strategy for long-term survival, though. Eventually even the strongest person is going to need help with something: setting a broken limb, having a baby (and at least occasional assistance in looking after him or her for at least the next dozen years), solving a problem, building a home, fixing a broken tool. No one remains young, healthy and independent forever.

It is in these moments that relationships win out. Someone with a history of altruism is much more likely to find the advice and practical help that they needed. Would some selfish or sociopathic people survive? Of course. There will always be those among us who eschew social mores and try to get something for nothing.

I don’t agree, though, that they would define who we are as a species any more than they define us now. Every day I see people looking out for one another in gestures as small as opening a door or offering a subway seat to someone who needs it more to as monumental as a stranger risking his own life to save another. There is so much good in this world, in each of us. (If you don’t believe me, click here.)

Even with our prejudices and deep imperfections people are good. There would undoubtably be conflicts in an emergency situation like the one portrayed in The Walking Dead but I do not, I cannot believe that our future would defined by the grim.

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Between Teetotallers and Tipplers

Growing up as a preacher’s kid in a fairly conservative community my family didn’t keep alcohol in the house. Mom and Dad didn’t drink outside of the home, either. It wasn’t part of our life in any way for many years. Other church members would sometimes say it was a sin but I don’t remember my parents ever mentioning it at all. Even in their most evangelical, conservative days Mom and Dad were never that interested in telling other people what was right or wrong for them.

Cue the Fall Festival

Most of the people we knew were non-drinkers so it was surprising and a little daring as a young teenager to attend the annual fall festival that a local Catholic church hosted and see devout grownups drinking mugs of beer. For many years I had understood drinking in rather black-and-white terms. One either abstained or drank to excess. There was no middle ground in part because of my conservative religious upbringing and also because I was so young. It’s much more difficult to see social or behavioural shades of grey at certain developmental stages of life.

Over time I became used to their libertine ways, so to speak. Once I was old enough I even drank myself on rare occasion. Most of the people I associated with were still fairly traditional on this issue, though. It was just a little odd that my family was comfortable with this. The moderate people we hung around believe that alcohol, while not a sin in and of itself per se, was a slippery slope to the act of doing something wrong if one wasn’t particularly careful.

I’ve mentioned this story before, but while in college I took a fitness and health class in which a special speaker told us that anyone who drank any amount of alcohol while under the age of 21 had a drinking problem. She worked in the substance abuse field and was no doubt surrounded by people who started drinking early  in life. On a certain level it made sense that she was so cautious; on every other level she was wildly misinterpreting what was generally a benign social activity for non-addicts.

These were the cultural influences and circumstances of my first couple of decades on this planet. Depending upon who was speaking alcohol was:

  • Dangerous
  • Exciting
  • Controversial
  • Potentially Sinful, but Probably Ok
  • Actually Sinful
  • Addictive
  • A Recipe for Disaster
  • A Recipe for Fun

And then I thudded into adulthood. I’d tasted small amounts of alcohol before then but had never developed much interest in it. As friends began to very occassionally invite us to barbeques, the pub or other places where alcohol was regularly served I decided to give it another shot.

My conclusion:

Meh

Drinking is boring.

I’m not uncomfortable if other people want to drink around me. Once or twice a year I might even join them for a glass of something sweetly flavoured. I really don’t understand the cultural tradition of going to a bar or pub for the express purpose of becoming intoxicated, though.

When a new friend suggests this once, no big deal. When they suggest it almost every time they want to get together I begin to think that we have fairly different ideas of what it means to have fun. In a city as large as Toronto, why go out drinking when there is so much else to see and do: festivals, parades, museums, restaurants, national parks and campgrounds, city parks (e.g. the kind with playgrounds and benches),  beaches, the bluffs and a massive zoo to name just a few alternatives.

There are other rare-drinkers here but it seems to be much more common, at least in secular circles, for young people to go out drinking as a common method of having a good time or celebrating happy news. I don’t judge anyone else’s choices in this matter; it’s simply funny that I’m now just a little odd for not drinking enough instead of for imbibing at all. 😉

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Suggestion Saturday: November 27, 2010

Here is this week’s list of blog posts, poems,  stories and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

Love and Control. What is the difference between being religious and being spiritual? This post has an intriguing explanation.

The Problem with the Origin of Evil. Over the last few weeks, Drew and I have been listening to a sermon series about questioning God and the existence of suffering and evil. This is his response to one of the points brought up in the latest instalment of the series. In the near future I will be posting my own thoughts on the series here.

The Enneagram or What Being a 4 Means. After reading this blog post I just had to take two internet quizzes to determine my Enneagram type, as I’ve long since forgotten which one sounded the most like me. The shorter quiz said I was a type 6 (The Loyalist) and the longer one said I was a type 5 (The Investigator.) The questions were tough, though! I don’t know if I answered all of them correctly. It was hard to determine which actions I do the most for certain ones. Click here to take a Enneagram quiz for yourself. I’m curious to hear your results.

The Most Precious Thing. This is a great story. It reminds me of something my maternal Grandfather would tell after a big family dinner (except that all of the stories he shares have actually happened!)

From Elder 1:

When I looked at him, the glow from his pipe turned his face into angles and shadow like what you’d expect the face of a shaman to look like. I kept waiting for him to say something, to offer a deep meaningful teaching or a story but he never did.

What he did was honor my silence. We sat there night after night and he told me just by his presence that he was there for me and that he always would be.

Poop with Purchase. A light-hearted tale about gummi worms and free toilets.  (The link is work-safe.)

Last but not least The Creation. A poetic retelling of the Christian creation story by James Weldon Johnson. It reminds me heavily of a different creation story sung in The Shelters of Stone.

What have you been reading?

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Wondering About The Ooze 2.0

Nine years ago this winter I stumbled upon a link to The Ooze on the message boards of a now-defunct postmodern magazine called Re:Generation.

By the time I found The Ooze I was seriously contemplating de-converting from Christianity. There were too many things we disagreed upon, too many questions about how things were done that floated to the surface of my mind every time my shadow fell across the doorstep of a church.

For anyone who hasn’t heard my story before, I grew up a preacher’s kid in a series of small, predominantly midwestern communities.  God was part of the fabric of our lives from my earliest memories but as I grew older I began ask some serious questions about the ways in which I was taught to practice our faith.

Over the next seven years The Ooze was a safe place to explore these questions and to re-imagine some of the ways in which I understood and thought about God. Much of what I had grown up believing was the truth sounded more and more like cultural preferences or traditions instead.

A few years ago I began to identify as Agnostic. For every one question answered several more popped up and after a time I came to suspect that the process was far more important than the act of discovering a final answer (or lack thereof.) It was not a path I had intended to follow yet it was to where my questions and concerns ultimately lead.

This changed my relationship with The Ooze. After a time it no longer seemed helpful or right to continue to so deeply associate with a Christian organization as someone who had stopped relying on the Bible or church tradition to guide my decisions. A few years ago I began to gradually detach from The Ooze’s online community.

There’s something about The Ooze and the people I grew to know and love there that continues to stick with me, though. I still consider myself to be an Oozer even as my identity as a Christian has slipped away.

Recently I learned that The Ooze is going to be relaunched early next year. I’m curiously watching and waiting to see what will come of it all. I wonder if this is the birth of a new denomination, if it will evolve into some sort of training ground for church leaders or  if, much like earlier incantations of The Ooze, it will thrive in unexpected ways and among the least likely people.

And I wonder why I still care so much. None of the other religious or spiritual groups I’ve ever known have remained lodged in my mind like this one.

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Sane Personal Development

Becoming a better person is something of great interest to me but focusing so intently on improvement isn’t necessarily the best way to approach personal development.

“There are things about ourselves that we need to get rid of; there are things we need to change. But at the same time, we do not need to become too desperate, too ruthless, too combative. Along the way to usefulness and happiness, many of those things will change themselves, and the others can be worked on as we go. The first thing we need to do is recognize and trust our own Inner Nature, and not lose sight of it. For within the Ugly Duckling is the Swan, inside the Bouncy Tigger is the Rescuer who knows the Way, and in each of us is something Special that we need to keep.” – from The Tao of Pooh by Benjamin Hoff

This is by far my favourite quote of all time. I tend to be too hard on myself when I make a mistake or do or say something that I later regret. It isn’t that I want to be perfect so much as I hate the idea of hurting other people even unintentionally.

Conscientiousness can be a wondeful character trait. Like anything, though, it can be taken too far. Reading this quote – indeed, the entire book – was like coming home after a long afternoon outdoors in the middle of January, peeling off several layers of cold, damp, wool clothing, inhaling a big gulp of warm air and suddenly realizing how heavy your arms and legs felt wrapped in all of those layers.

This has been one of my most important lessons of 2010. I’ve by no means finished learning to take everything a little less seriously but I am growing better at noticing when I’m being too hard on myself. It turns out that grace isn’t just something one has for other people! 😉

Respond

What was the most important thing that you learned in 2010? How do you go about making healthier decisions or growing emotionally, psychologically, or spiritually?

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Suggestion Saturday: November 20, 2010

Here is this week’s list of poems, blog posts, interactive spreadsheets and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

I, Being a Woman and Distressed. I’ve never read any of Edna St. Vincent’s work before. This is quite the poem.

If Only! A thought-provoking post about people who interfere in the affairs of others because: “If you would only see/do things my way, all of your troubles will be solved!”

Budget Puzzle: You Fix the Budget. What programs would you cut to balance the U.S. budget in the short and long-term? I’m grateful that I don’t have to make these decisions in real life!

Core Value – Faith. Come check out this discussion I joined about faith. One can have faith in God, of course, but that isn’t the beginning or the end of it.

Rolling on the River. This is one history lesson that is anything but boring. If only stories like this could be included in high school history lessons. 😉

What have you been reading?

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Plato’s Youth Group

When I was in my early teens one of our church youth group leaders told us the most incredible story.

Imagine

“… that you are in a cave,” he said. “You were born there, as were your parents and grandparents before you. There has never been a time when any of you have left the cave because you are chained to the floor. As far as you know, the cave is the beginning and end of the world itself. There is a wall in front of you. Shadows dance upon it. You don’t have the right knowledge to understand what is creating those shadows so you begin a tradition of telling stories based upon they types of shadows that skim over the wall. Now imagine that your chains are loosened and you stumble out of the mouth of the cave into the real world.”

He continued, “It is painfully bright and it takes you some time to grow accustomed to all of the new sights and sounds. Eventually you realize that the shadows you used to tell stories about belong to all sorts of things that you never could have imagined while you were trying to understand the meaning behind their shadows. You want everyone in the cave to know the truth about their shadow-stories and so walk back into the darkness to find them. The people in that cave are those who don’t know God. It’s your job to show them the truth behind the shadows they follow.”

I’d never heard a story like this one before. As I listened to what he had to say I could feel the gritty surface of the cave floor, hear the creak in my joints as I stood and walked away, wince with pain as my eyes adjusted to unnatural brightness outside, and drink in all of the unimaginable sights and sounds outside of the cave.

Five Years Later

I was sitting in a philosophy class at community college when the instructor mentioned Plato’s cave allegory.

“Cool, another cave story!” I thought. “I wonder how similar it will be to the other cave story I know?” And then she proceeded to tell us the  same story that my youth group leader had shared years earlier. The only real difference: Plato’s story was about the difference between reality and our perceptions of reality. It was never intended as a metaphor for Christian witnessing.

Having assumed that this was either a story that our youth group leader had made up himself or something written specifically to explain the importance of witnessing as a Christian I felt deceived. It was a brilliant story on its own in my teenaged mind; it didn’t need to be portrayed as something that it wasn’t originally meant to be to hold our attention.

Stories Matter

Sometimes when I write short stories I weave niblets of truth into them. Maybe the scene is based on a building, landmark or piece of property that exists in real life or a somewhat similar event once happened to me or someone I know.  I take these niblets and build something new with them, though. If someone who knew the geography or event that loosely inspired the story was to read it, though, they’d never confuse it with a factual account of that place or event just as I would never attempt to pass off my imagined worlds as anything other than fiction.

Context matters. The origin of a story matters. It would have been so much more thought-provoking for my youth group leader to tell us that his story was a re-telling of a far more ancient one.  To quote Anna Quindlen:

Every story has already been told. Once you’ve read Anna Karenina, Bleak House, The Sound and the Fury, To Kill a Mockingbird and A Wrinkle in Time, you understand that there is really no reason to ever write another novel. Except that each writer brings to the table, if she will let herself, something that no one else in the history of time has ever had.




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Ceiling Walk

I have a homework assignment for you today.

Wherever you are, whatever you’re doing: lie down for a minute. (If you’re unable to do that lean back in a comfortable position instead.)

What do you see?

Do you spy a cottage cheese ceiling? Are there crown mouldings in the corners of the room that you’ve never noticed before? What sort of lighting is up  there? Are you looking up at trees or clouds?

Most importantly: what obstacles would be in your path if the world turned upside down and the ceiling became the floor?

My Apartment

would have a rough cottage cheese floor. The windows would begin about six inches off the floor and there would be ungainly steps to every other room in the house. The walk to the front door would be especially treacherous with a light, fire alarm, smoke detector and carbon monoxide detector all crowded around the step to the hallway. The door handle would be a little difficult for me to reach without some sort of step stool.

It wouldn’t be as difficult as hanging onto the nubs of buildings or the spindly fingers of trees outdoors, but I can imagine tripping a time or two before I grew used to the change. Luckily, we wouldn’t have any staircases to navigate at home in the event of a topsy-turvy world. Learning to slide down what was once their smooth, gradually-sloping ceilings would be rather tricky.

Why Do This?

“Why, sometimes I’ve believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast.”——The White Queen, from Through the Looking Glass by Lewis Carroll.

I like these types of exercises because they stretch the mind, encouraging one to think not only outside of the box but of a world in which the box may not always sit nicely on the floor, have the same number of sharp corners or actually be a box at all from one day to the next.

More importantly, it’s entertaining. One of the worst things about becoming an adult is how serious life becomes all of the sudden. Play is pushed to the dankest, most remote corners of our lives if it is even allowed to continue at all. Yes, sometimes the bills need to be paid, the house cleaned, the laundry folded, the toilet fixed, the groceries purchased and put away.

At other times, though, one needs to play.

What hurdles are on your ceiling?

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