I recently had a funny conversation with a friend about the boring realities of being an adult.
Growing up I had certain expectations of adulthood: freedom; the ability to go to bed and wake up when I wanted to; the possibility of eating nachos and ice cream for dinner.
I knew adults had to do various things to keep a household going, of course, but I didn’t dwell on that part of it very much. The houses I lived in were always clean, warm, and filled with good things to eat. How they got that way was only dimly as important as the fact that I’d be the one making the rules someday.
Both my friend and I pictured a life filled with the freedoms of adulthood. Neither one of us realized all of the other stuff that happens behind the scenes when you’re the one in charge.
By now I’m sure you can guess what we actually did this past weekend:
- Grocery shopping.
- Running errands.
- Replacing things that had worn out.
- Fixing a water heater (this was on his list, not mine).
These weren’t exactly the glamorous or exciting things I pictured as a kid.
When you grow up, suddenly you become the house-elf working behind the scenes to keep everything running smoothly. This is true whether you have 0 kids or 12 of them and regardless of where you live or what you do with the rest of your time.
There’s always more adulting to do, and most of it doesn’t have anything to do with nachos or ice cream.