Suggestion Saturday: March 14, 2015

Here is this week’s list of blog posts, jokes, and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

Spring Is Just Around the Corner. Did you spot it?

Rhymes with Cat via K8Tilton. All you have to do is think of 38 one syllable words that rhyme with cat in three minutes. It’s tougher than it looks.

Bad Reasons For Going Vegan via JillDeTrabajos. This is the funniest thing I’ve read in a long time.

Young, Black, and Victorian via DangerMindsBlog. Who else is fascinated by old pictures? If only there were a way to know the names of these women or what they did with their lives.

He Doesn’t Wanna Be Here. What a heartbreaking, beautiful essay. It makes me so glad that both of my siblings are healthy and doing well in life.

What Really Happened to Baby Johan? Some of the details of this case are disturbing. It was a fascinating read, but I wanted my followers to be prepared for some unpleasantness before they click on the link.

What have you been reading?

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6 Signs of Spring

1. For those of us with seasonal allergies: ACHOO!

2. Dogs no longer need to wear boots outdoors.

3. It’s suddenly too warm to walk down the street with your winter coat zipped up.

4. Stores are beginning to advertise their new summer collections.

5. Street preachers, performers, solicitors, and scammers are back.

6. So much snow has melted that the sidewalks are almost back to their original size. You can walk alongside someone now without bumping into people walking in the opposite direction.

For all of my readers in the northern hemisphere, what are the signs of spring you’ve noticed in your area?

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The Walking Cure

The weather here in Toronto has warmed up enough to remind us that spring is coming but not so much that walking around outside was at all comfortable. Knowing that this is my peak time of year for cabin fever helped, but I still felt restless and frustrated.

I had a headache that lasted for almost the entire weekend. I could almost make it go away with over-the-counter painkillers, sleep, and many cups of herbal tea, but it kept raging back to life.

In short, it was a grumpy weekend at my house. When I feel that way, I respond by saying as little as possible. My bad mood is one hundred percent my responsibility. No one else should be expected to handle it.

You have to stay in shape. My grandmother, she started walking five miles a day when she was 60. She’s 97 today and we don’t know where the hell she is. – Ellen DeGeneres

Still, I did wonder at first what Drew was thinking when he invited me on a walk. He’s even less thrilled with this kind of weather than I am.

It was 2 C outside and sunny, though, which is much better than it’s been lately. I said yes. The medicine was working again, and I wanted to see if it could finally clear away all of my discomfort.

The nice thing about talking a walk is that you don’t have to carry on a conversation while you’re doing it. You can, of course, but there’s also something to be said for silence.

The streets were a little more crowded than I expected for a Sunday afternoon. Large piles of dirty snow had been shoved to the edge of the sidewalk. Long-forgotten garbage was poking out of some of them. Several frozen puddles of vomit dotted the sidewalk.

There was also a dazzlingly white poodle trotting down the street, though. If she were human, I would have sworn she was smiling.

I also noticed two parents taking a walk with their son. A stranger stopped them to guess the boy’s age.

“Eight?”

“No,” the parents laughed. “He’s tall for his age.”

Walking is my main method of relaxation. I don’t go over my lines or try to solve the world’s problems, I just enjoy the scenery and the wildlife. – Kevin Whately

True, most of the wildlife in downtown Toronto is pigeon-shaped, but occasionally you’re surprised with something else. I’ve seen raccoons, rats, and butterflies.

There are always dogs of every shape and size you can imagine. Their impeccable manners never fail to impress me. The dogs I grew up with were never dangerous, but they were liable to jump on you in excitement or bark at a stranger. Toronto dogs don’t do that. At most, you might find one who nuzzles his or her way into a petting session.

Walking is good exercise, but I’ve found that it’s also good for the mind.

I love walking down the street and seeing faces and drama and happiness and sadness and dirt and cleanliness. – Ric Ocasek

It’s hard to stay in a funky mood when there are so many interesting people and animals to watch. You catch tidbits of conversations. You see couples argue, fathers kissing their babies, trees rustling in the breeze, and dogs pausing to sniff buildings that have been around for a hundred years.

Walking is incredibly relaxing. I’d almost forgotten just how good it makes me feel. By the end of our trip, my headache was gone and I was no longer feeling irritated.

I know most of my examples are of things that normally only happen in urban areas, but walking through the woods or down the main street of a small town is just as nice. If you have any stories about walks you’ve taken in any environment, I’d love to hear them!

Remember:

Everywhere is within walking distance if you have the time. – Steven Wright

 

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Suggestion Saturday: March 7, 2015

Here is this week’s list of blog posts, poems, tardy passes, and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

On the River. This looks like one of the final scenes of a fantasy adventure novel. The heroes have slayed the dragon and buried their dead. All that remains now is to paddle up the final river and see what awaits them at home. Will their families be standing on the shore to greet them? How will they adjust to an ordinary, safe life after all they’ve seen and done? Sometimes it feels like the fantasy genre spends so much time focusing on the mission that it overlooks these kinds of questions.

Guerilla Tardy Passes Appear on the TTC. I found one last weekend and took it home. Funny stuff.

Chewing on Art via geofflepard. Before you click on this link, think about how you react to seeing a wad of used, dried out gum on the street.

Life is Not a Test via ChristyBarongan. There’s something to be said for knowing what you aren’t.

Sing Me Your Scars. One of the most interesting science fiction stories I’ve read in a long time. It does include some elements of the horror genre as well, but it isn’t gory.

From Faux Dentifrice via joshuamneff:

i will set this day on fire with the curiosity of a cat

the day oh this day with a fruitful fire

What have you been reading?

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One Scary Thing

Photo by ColKorn1982.

Photo by ColKorn1982.

Procrastination has been something I’ve struggled with for a long time. It was something I started doing for a long list of reasons: perfectionism; not wanting to be embarrassed by something that wasn’t quite right; worrying about what other people would say about what I’d finished.

I’m slowly getting better with it. Ten or fifteen years ago I fell into it much more quickly and spent way more time getting out of it.

Now I’ve condensed the entire process into a week or two instead of months on end.

One of the things that has really helped me as I work on this is the idea of one scary thing.

Almost anything can be broken into a series of steps: open an email, make a phone call, read a document.

The trick is to focus on only one of those steps at a time.

All I have to do today is complete one step. I set an alarm ahead of time. When the timer dings days or weeks later, I work quickly to finish that step and only that step. Tomorrow is a chance to tackle the next one. There’s no need to do it right now until I have a strong urge the finish the whole thing right now.  This rarely happens, but I take advantage of it when it does.

The amazing thing is how often it works. Of course I still have times when there are setbacks, but I’ve seen a lot of personal growth in this area recently.

What habits are you currently working to correct? What works best for you while trying to change them?

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Sweet Cocoon

This is a short film about two bugs who help a clumsy caterpillar get into her cocoon.

It has background music but no (human) dialogue. You can watch it with the sound turned off, although I really enjoyed hearing the bugs grumble and mutter in their insect language.

This story made me think of all of the ways people try to help each other. While I definitely have the occasional snarky moment after a brusque encounter with someone who was rude or unkind, I also believe that most of us are good most of the time.

The main characters in this film seem to agree with me on this point. I loved seeing them do what they could to make their world a slightly better place. Don’t let the animation fool you – this is written for adults more than it is for kids. In fact, I wouldn’t recommend it for very young children at all. It’s really not something that was ever created for them, as cute as the bugs themselves may be.

Oh, and the ending was absolutely fantastic. I can’t say anything about it without giving away spoilers, but be sure to stick around for it. It was well worth the six minute investment.

What do you think? Are people naturally good? Why does everyone seem to think that animated films are always meant for children? How annoyed are you when someone shares spoilers before you get a chance to watch or read something?

 

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Suggestion Saturday: February 28, 2015

Here is this week’s list of blog posts, poems, comic strips, and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

The Black Knight’s Deed via brudberg. Read this aloud to get the full effect of the rhyme scheme.

Is therapy worth it? Seven personal stories about the price of mental health. This is fascinating.

My Eulogy via SwiftInkEditor. Too funny.

Spring. You’ll (probably) never guess the twist here, but I still don’t want to give away spoilers. Go check it out for yourself.

Damage. An essay about how one woman’s life was changed by female genital mutilation. It’s graphic, so don’t click on the link if you’re easily disturbed.

The Dunning-Kruger Effect: Are the Stupid Too Stupid to Realize They’re Stupid? via CrossExamined. It wouldn’t surprise me if this were true. From what I’ve observed, intelligent people are much more likely to be aware of their own shortcomings.

What have you been reading?

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What Nice Is(n’t)

What it is:

Those who make compassion an essential part of their lives find the joy of life. Kindness deepens the spirit and produces rewards that cannot be completely explained in words. It is an experience more powerful than words. To become acquainted with kindness one must be prepared to learn new things and feel new feelings. Kindness is more than a philosophy of the mind. It is a philosophy of the spirit.—Robert J. Furey

“That best portion of a good man’s life; His little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and of love.”—William Wordsworth 

It doesn’t involve:

  • Ignoring your own needs. 
  • Allowing others to make decisions for you.
  • Being afraid to say no.

It’s simply about paying attention and helping people when you can and how you can.

 

 

 

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The Case for Emotional Hygiene

Taking care of your mental health is just as important as taking care of your physical health. Here’s why.

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Be Anything You Want, but Be Nice About It

If I ever wrote a self-help book, the entire gist of it would fit into one page.

Be a critic.

Be talented.

Be a coffee snob.

Be a talented critic.

Be a devout Atheist.

Be a weekend warrior.

Be an incorrigibly skeptical Christian.

Be a couch potato the other five days of the week.

Be a hipster, but only when you can pull it off ironically.

Be one of those weird people who regularly strikes up a conversation with the person sitting next to you on the subway.

Be one of those even weirder people who enjoys talking to strangers on the subway. Lean in and ask questions to keep the conversation rolling when someone comments on your cute dog.

Be anything you want to be.

Just be nice about it.

What does being nice mean?

I’ll tell you on Thursday. 😉

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