Suggestion Saturday: December 6, 2014

Here is this week’s list of blog posts and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

How My Anger Helped Me Find Peace. This is great.

It’s Amazing What the Living Expect of the Dying. Be prepared for a long read with this link. I really appreciated how honest the author was about death, grief, and emotionally unhealthy families.

Why I Won’t Work for Publicity. I agree with this 100%.

Alice and Morley via ElaineStirling1. A tale of two famous Canadian writers. This really should become a series!

The Ugly Duckling via snowglobeman. The fairy tale this title come from was one of my favourite stories growing up. I can’t tell you much else about it without giving away spoilers, but I really enjoyed seeing what the author did with it.

From All of Us, Together via jharrington:

Critics who say that the optimistic utopia Star Trek depicted is now hokey and outmoded forget the cultural context that gave birth to it: Star Trek was not a manifestation of optimism when optimism was easy. Star Trek declared an impossible hope for a future that nobody stuck in the present could believe in.

Birth of a Vixen CoverThis week’s book recommendation is something you can read for free!

My friend Colleen will be giving copies away of Birth of a Vixen on Kindle on Monday, December 8. 

All of the details are on her blog, so be sure to mark your calendars and check it out if you like urban fantasy.

What have you been reading?

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Why Some People Find Exercise Harder Than Others

 

This is well worth the 15 minute investment of time.

It’s not just about exercise – it’s about how to meet any kind of goal using information from recent scientific studies. Fascinating stuff.

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The 5 Best Christmas Stories

Schnee1My longterm readers are probably scratching their heads right now, as I’m not exactly known for being a fan of Christmas.

Here’s the thing: reading about this holiday is nothing at all like actually celebrating it. Stories don’t require you to go shopping, or navigate agitated crowds, or cook all day, or decorate anything.

They’re just words on a page, and even I can handle that much festivity.

1. The Selfish Giant. Two words: Oscar Wilde. He usually wasn’t this sentimental, but I still like his work.

2. Christmas Every Day. I disagree with the author’s point now just as much as I did when I first encountered it. This is still a good story though.

3. The Burglar’s Christmas. The twist is a little predictable but still fun.

4. The Little Match Girl.  Some people dislike this tale because of how it ends, but I think it’s the only logical conclusion. Although it did make me cry as a kid!

5. Little Bun Rabbit. 90% of the reason why I’m recommending this one is because it’s about rabbits. Y’all know how much I love bunnies.

I will now return to my regular bah-humbugging. 😉

What Christmas or other holiday stories do you like?

 

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Suggestion Saturday: November 29, 2014

Here is this week’s list of blog posts, poems, and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

When My Mom Was an Astronaut. This should be fleshed out into an entire book. I was haunted by the author’s wish to know something, anything about her biological mother.

House of Strays. To be honest, I’m not entirely sure what this is about. It’s still beautiful.

This Is What the Skeletons of Famous Cartoon Characters Would Look Like via ShykiaBell. When I was a kid I used to wonder about Sheldon, a cartoon chick that decided he never wanted to hatch. One time he put a big crack in his shell while hanging up a picture on the inside of it. That scene irritated me because it broke so many rules about how baby birds actually develop.  It looks like I’m not the only one who takes cartoon animal physiology seriously. Ha!

Honoring Those You Love: Blessings of the Thanksgiving Season via cjnapoet.  I almost didn’t click on this link because I’m usually not into holiday-themed poems. This was a good one though.

From Zygodactylous via This_Is_Talon:

Mythology claims

one can rise from the ashes

of a fiery re-birth

From Better Girls From Broken Parts:

Jasmine stood with her arms clasped behind her back, leaning forward a little, weight on the balls of her feet. She wanted to look like a cat ready to spring. Don’t think I forgot what happened in the pine grove, she thought, loud and clear inside her own head. Don’t think I forgot even a bit.

A friend recently recommended The Bad Beginning to me. I’d heard of Lemony Snicket’s Series of Unfortunate Events books before, but had never bothered to pick them up.

Now I wish I had given them a try much sooner. The gist of the first book in the series is this: three young siblings are orphaned and then sent to live with a dastardly relative. The narration is what makes this story so much fun. It’s told from a third-person perspective that already has a lot of knowledge about how young adult novels are supposed to go. If you can think of a trope from this genre, it’s almost certainly mentioned here.

Of course, a lot of those rules about what is (and isn’t) supposed to happen to plucky orphans are broken by the characters for reasons that I’ll leave up to my audience to uncover.

It was a delight, though, and I’m eagerly waiting for the library to deliver the sequel to me.

What have you been reading?

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Thanksgiving Stories

Happy U.S. Thanksgiving!

So I won’t be having the big turkey dinner today for two reasons:

1) I already celebrated Canadian Thanksgiving last month, and

2) I’m not actually that big of a fan of most of the foods that are traditionally served for this meal. They’re ok. I’ll eat them with gratitude if someone else wants to make them. Filling my sink with dirty dishes to make them though? No, thanks.

What I will do instead is share a few fun holiday stories. I’m 90% sure that both these events happened during Thanksgiving. (It was either then or at Christmas. For the sake of good storytelling, I’m going to assume it was the former. 🙂 )

Story #1

Many years ago my parents had three small children, lived thousands of miles away from extended family, and were planning a holiday dinner that wouldn’t require them to spend any more money at the grocery store. Simply put, there wasn’t anything budgeted for special food that year. Suddenly there was a knock at the door.

We were surprised to see our neighbour standing there because she was normally so reticent to leave her house. (She thought the government was spying on her and had come up with a long list of rules to keep herself safe.). She gave us a bird and a few prepackaged side dishes. She rarely made pleasant – or any – small talk with anyone in the neighbourhood. And yet somehow she sensed a need and filled it.

Is this what he saw?

It was a delicious meal. Even more than two decades later I’m touched by her generosity. We wouldn’t have starved, but we sure would have eaten a lot of oatmeal until the next payday!

Story #2

Not quite so many years ago my family was once again living in Ohio. The drive to my grandparents’ house was only about half an hour, which meant that we finally got to see them for the holidays again every year! Most of that drive happened on back country roads surrounded by forests. This is important for reasons you’ll soon learn.

My brothers and I were the closest things to city kids that existed in northwest Ohio. We lived in one of the bigger small towns there and spent most of our free time doing things that weren’t at all related to hunting, fishing, or farming. All three of us preferred things that had motors, screens, and/or buttons.

So it wasn’t that much of a surprise when one of my siblings pointed at the woods suddenly exclaimed, “I see a wild thing!”

(I’ll leave it up to the sibling in question to reveal himself…if he chooses to do so. 😉 )

Mom and dad caught a glimpse of the wild thing before it drifted back into the woods. I think it might have been a wild turkey, but I’m not 100% sure that’s what our wildlife-experienced parents actually said.

Either way, it was a funny experience.

What are your favourite Thanksgiving stories?

 

 

 

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Life Expectancy Calculator

I have no idea how accurate this calculator is, but I found it pretty interesting.

My results:

Life Expectancy: 93.50 years
Lower Quartile: 87.00 years (75% chance you will live longer than this)
Median Lifetime: 95.41 years (50% chance you will live longer than this)
Upper Quartile: 102.70 years (25% chance you will live longer than this)

Two of my biological grandparents are still alive (and fairly healthy), and I’ve had several relatives live well into their 90s. I’ve always thought it would be cool to live to see my 100th birthday if I could make it to that milestone with my mind and body  intact.

What were your results?

 

 

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Deconversion Twinges

Der_SpiegelIt’s been well over a year since I blogged about what it’s like to deconvert from Christianity. (New readers, click on the Deconversion tag on the righthand side of this page for the whole story. It’s a long one).

At first it was sort of like phantom limb syndrome. A part of me was gone. Sort of. I wanted to go back to the way things were, but at the same time I couldn’t fit into those boxes anymore.

It took years to settle into my new reality. Blogging helped. Reading how other people adjusted to their deconversions was soothing as well until it wasn’t anymore. After a while there’s not much else to say about the transition between Christian and Atheist/Agnostic/Apatheist (or however else they identify).

You can’t form a new habit overnight. It takes time to not only get used to this new thing but to begin to forget what life was like before such massive changes took place.

My blog has been getting a lot more hits for phrases like deconversion and depression than it did in the past.

Stuff like this makes me wish I knew who created the search terms I see in my analytics. I’d love to take all of the lonely apostates out for hot chocolate. There’s a big difference between reading a screen and sitting next to a living, breathing person who is a little further up the trail. I wish I’d had that kind of mentorship when my doubts first spilled over.

It’s peaceful here. Yes, there were twinges for a while, but they’ve steadily become more and more rare as I’ve made new friends who have no connection to the life I knew 10+ years ago. Things have changed so much that it really isn’t relevant anymore.

There might come a time when I don’t identify as anything at all. To be honest, this isn’t something I spend a lot of time thinking about until or unless someone else triggers that part of my brain. It’s just is what it is.

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Suggestion Saturday: November 22, 2014

Here is this week’s list of blog posts and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

Top 10 Topics My Sons Are Bickering About via GinaValley. I once had an argument with one of my brothers about the pronunciation of the word salmon. (I’ll leave it up to the sibling in question to reveal his identity if he chooses to do so).

The Case for Being a Terrible Person via UncredibleHallq. I’m not familiar with the groups discussed in this post, but I really like the author’s approach to personal development.

Blood Pepper and Brave Meat. This is one of the most interesting short stories I’ve read recently.

It Belongs in a Museum: Artist Adds Sci-Fi Characters to Thrift Store Paintings. These paintings were incredibly well done. Normally I’m not at all fan of rustic, rural scenery in art, but I’d buy a few of these remixes in a heartbeat if I had the funds for it. They really ignite my imagination!

The Case Against Positive Thinking via JeffreyGuterman. Good stuff.

From On Kindness:

When I think of my mother’s life up to this point, what I find most revealing is how much of the abuse hurled at her throughout the years came about solely because she showed care and love to the wrong kinds of people.

Texts from Jane Eyre: And Other Conversations with Your Favorite Literary Characters was a hoot.

Whether you’re a fan of King Lear, Nancy Drew, or Harry Potter, imagine what it would be like to text them. The concept is so simple I’m not entirely sure what else I should say about it. This was a very fun read, though, and I’d highly recommend it to all of my readers.

What have you been reading?

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10 Things to Like About Winter

Photo by Mdf.

Photo by Mdf.

Yes, I know that winter technically doesn’t begin for another month. Toronto has had a cold snap and a few light snowstorms this past week, though, so it’s difficult for me to look out the window and think autumn.

Pumpkin season has come and gone. It’s winter for the next 119 days as far as my mind and body are concerned.

Many years I grumble a little about all of the things I don’t like about the cold.

This year I decided to make a new list. This might not be my favourite season, but there are still good things to discover in it.

1. Watching snow fall is hypnotic. My youngest brother used to sit quietly on the couch and watch the snow fall down through our living room window. Kindergarten only took up half the day, so he had to wait a few hours before the rest of our elementary school was dismissed.

2. Being sick is a good excuse for a nap. It’s a nice escape from all of the sniffling.

3. Winter drinks taste better than summer ones. Hot chocolate. Apple cider.  Egg nog.  All delicious.

4. There’s no humidity. Anyone with naturally curly or wavy hair knows just how nice it is to have a break from the poof.

5. The New Year is a fresh start. It feels good to say goodbye to last year and embrace the new one. To me it’s kind of like turning to a fresh page in a blank book or rebooting your computer.

6. Baked goods are everywhere. Mmmm….Christmas cookies.

7. All the ragweed is dead. I’m sure there are some people who have horrendous winter allergies. (My sympathies are with you!) November-April is wonderful for my allergies because they rarely if ever cause an issue for me. It’s lovely.

8. A hot bath feels great. Nobody wants to soak in the tub in August, but it can be very cozy in January.

9. There are no mosquitos, wasps, or bumblebees. It’s refreshing to go to a park and not risk getting bitten or stung.

10. The sun (probably) won’t wake you up. A 5:30 am sunrise can wake me up during the summer. I’m naturally an early bird, but sometimes there’s a little too much of a good thing in June when the sun doesn’t set until 9 or 10 pm.

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Let’s (Not) Talk About Sex

Photo by Alberto Alonso G.

Photo by Alberto Alonso G.

The topic of sex came up at lunch last week.

Well, technically I lead the conversation in that direction when someone else sitting at the table made a comment that could either be taken innocuously or….otherwise.

Of course I chose the second option.

I might be quiet most of the time in real life, but there’s always been a deep-seated ornery streak in my personality. 😉

I’d spent the last few hours of that meal tamping down everything that might have ruffled feathers at that table: my (lack of) religion; my sexual orientation; my political views; my cheerful childlessness.

(Whether or not doing this is a smart idea in the longterm might be fodder for another post someday, but I digress).

The funny thing about doing this kind of exercise is how easy it is for the mask to slip off, especially when you’re not used to wearing it.

So back to the sex talk. You’d be surprised by how much communication can be accomplished with a raised eyebrow and a few carefully-selected words. Anyone who didn’t know what we were talking about would have had to strain to hear what I was saying. Even then I had plausible deniability thanks to all of the wonderful double entendres in the English language.

Oh, the blushing. The faintest rumbles of it might have even been felt in Thunder Bay. It wasn’t the reaction I was expecting. The people I was sitting closest to at that table aren’t exactly known for being easily embarrassed.

Mission accomplished, I grinned and changed the subject. There’s a different between teasing someone and making them actively uncomfortable.

Although it did make me wonder why it is that (some parts of) western culture are comfortable dancing around the topic of sex but get flustered if you wander too close to it?

What do you think?

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