Suggestion Saturday: November 3, 2012

Here is this week’s list of blog posts, comic strips, videos and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

From Illumination:

There’s light everywhere, even in these darkening days. You just have to look for it.

Do I Look Fat? I often get uncomfortable when other people bring up weight loss/gain. It’s too easy to unintentionally offend someone so I end up saying nothing at all.

Open Thread: Book Recommendations. Someday I’d love to invite all of my readers out to dinner. We’d eat and drink delicious things and talk about books all night. Who’s in? 🙂

How an Invitation to Tea Curbed a Slew of Suicide Attempts. What would you do if you moved to a new house and realized that it was across the street from a cliff where desperate people often chose to end their lives?

Marriage Was Not Designed to Make You Happy. This isn’t to say that marriage was designed to make you miserable, just that there’s no such thing as being completed by another person. Love is wonderful but it isn’t a magical potion that fixes all of your problems.

From Silhouette of a Sparrow:

I was born blue. Life ripped me early from my safe place and thrust me into the world. It was all so astonishing that I forgot to breathe.

My mother gave me life that day, but I was the one who decided to take it. I claimed it for myself.

What have you been reading?

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The History of the World

Today I learned my friend Bruce Gerencser is shutting down his blog. While I completely understand his reasons for doing so I’m really going to miss his voice in the blogosphere.

There’s only so much time in an hour, a day, a lifetime and sometimes you have to prioritize to fit the important stuff in.

Just after I read Bruce’s final post I stumbled across this video of the history of the world. It compresses 13.75 billion years into 1 minute, 37 seconds of wonder. Somehow this seemed like a fitting tribute to all of the things Bruce has shared over the years.

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Wild Card Wednesday: Halloween Games

Mike Hanttula recently shared some Halloween links on his site. This one was my favourite:

Halloween Hangman created by The Dimension's Edge, Inc.

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Sometimes Fate is Like a Small Sandstorm

 Sometimes fate is like a small sandstorm that keeps changing directions. You change direction but the sandstorm chases you. You turn again, but the storm adjusts. Over and over you play this out, like some ominous dance with death just before dawn. Why? Because this storm isn’t something that blew in from far away, something that has nothing to do with you. This storm is you. Something inside of you. So all you can do is give in to it, step right inside the storm, closing your eyes and plugging up your ears so the sand doesn’t get in, and walk through it, step by step. There’s no sun there, no moon, no direction, no sense of time. Just fine white sand swirling up into the sky like pulverized bones. That’s the kind of sandstorm you need to imagine.

And you really will have to make it through that violent, metaphysical, symbolic storm. No matter how metaphysical or symbolic it might be, make no mistake about it: it will cut through flesh like a thousand razor blades. People will bleed there, and you will bleed too. Hot, red blood. You’ll catch that blood in your hands, your own blood and the blood of others.

And once the storm is over you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, in fact, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.

– Haruki Murakami, Kafka on the Shore

To this quote/metaphor I’d add the following:

Sometimes the storm has nothing to do with you. You’re in the midst of it because you happened to be standing where it ended up. Remember that as the sand stings your skin and do what you can to protect yourself.

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What would you add to it?

 

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Suggestion Saturday: October 27, 2012

Here is this week’s list of blog posts, pictures, websites and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

Some People Are Going to Leave. I’d love to hear the story behind this.

Social Consumption Pyramid. If my family lived nearby I’d have a much easier time living this way.

Don’t Call Me Baby. Comedy gold.

We Are Atheism. An “It Gets Better” project for Atheists. It’s amazing to compare the wildly different experience non-theists have depending on where they live. Here in Toronto there’s so much religious diversity that most people don’t make any assumptions about this topic and don’t care what you believe. I have friends living in other communities who are social pariahs because they choose to be honest about their non-theism.

Civilized Politics. Here’s an interesting link for those of you who like debating controversial subjects. This message board was created by the same people who run Etiquette Hell and is designed to be a polite place to talk about politics.

Click Here to Win Autographed Books From Susan Hill. Ok, this is exciting. Susan Hill is the author of my favourite ghost story of all time, The Woman in Black. Until October 31 readers can enter a contest to win signed copies of all of her ghost novels.


The Midwife of Hope River kept me up late reading a few nights this week. Patience Murphy doesn’t know it yet but the U.S. has just begun to slide into the Great Depression. As the economy worsens and public funds for healthcare dry up she finds her role as town midwife expanding rapidly into social and political controversies. The boundaries between her personal and professional life also blur and some painful secrets from her past begin to worm their way into her present day life.

What have you been reading?

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This Is Why I Don’t Miss Facebook

In early 2012 I quietly shut down my Facebook profile. As much as I enjoyed hearing about the daily lives of family and friends I was disturbed by how often Facebook’s updates made my experience worse and how difficult it was to find, much less adjust, their privacy settings.

Longtime readers know that I tend to be a fairly private person. You’ll never see me walk up to an acquaintance and tell him or her the story of my life. It’s not that I have anything to hide, I simply prefer to get to know people as individuals before sharing every thought that rattles through my mind.

I’ll be honest – there have been times when I’ve really missed Facebook and have almost signed up with them again. It’s so much easier to log into one website and see status updates from almost all of my favourite people in this world than it is to email or call them individually.

A news story that came to my attention earlier today confirmed I made the right decision last winter, though. Apparently Facebook will soon be charging people to promote their posts to friends. Pay the fee and your post will be bumped to the top of everyone’s new feeds.

This is the opposite of what social media is supposed to accomplish. What I love(d) about Facebook and presently love about twitter is the element of surprise. When I log on and read tweets these days I have no idea what everyone will talk about this time: local or national news, cute animal photos, pictures of my friend’s food, rants about the frustrations of daily life from celebrities and average folks alike.

If I wanted to listen to monologues I’d read a newspaper.

99% of the time I don’t so I use Twitter instead.

Why is this so difficult for Facebook to understand?

 

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Finding Love in The Art of Racing in the Rain

When I was a little girl I had two hamsters named Cherry and Pretty.  Cherry was given to me by an extended family member shortly before my family moved cross-country when I was seven. He travelled those 2,000 miles with us to our new home out west. I believe my mom made a little nest for him in a tupperware container as I have a vague memory of peeking through some sort of breath-able lid we had on it. We bought Pretty at a pet store in Wyoming as I was convinced that Cherry was lonely.

But as Cherry was a boy and Pretty was a girl they weren’t actually allowed to spend time together. Our family had a strict no-breeding policy for everyone at that point, human and hamster alike.

They each lived a few healthy, happy years and then passed away quietly in their sleep. By the time Pretty, the younger of the two, grew old I was as ready to say goodbye as any kid could be in that situation. I loved her and would miss her but I could tell by her stiff gait she felt more uncomfortable every day.

After Cherry and Pretty died I wondered where they went and if they’d remember me if we met again. As cute as they are hamsters are not the most intelligent creatures. 😉

This unforgettable book reminded me of the bond I shared with my pets growing up.

Enzo and Denny have trudged through some very dark days together.  As Enzo nears the end of his (canine) life and prepares for the next one he does everything he can to study how men behave and take care of his human family. A TV documentary once taught him that when a dog has finished his or her canine lifetimes he or she will be reincarnated as a person and Enzo is ready for it.

Enzo would stay with Denny and Zoe (Denny’s daughter) forever if he could. Because he cannot he vows to do the next best thing – find them again in his next lifetime.

I won’t spoil the ending for those of you who haven’t read The Art of Racing in the Rain yet. Sufficed to say it left me blinking back tears and thinking about love. Is the emotion we call love the same set of feelings that some animals seem to have for the humans in their lives? I’d like to think it is as I’ve known some incredibly loyal and loving pets in my day.

But it also makes me wonder if my definition of love is the same as yours? While I’m better able to describe what I mean by the term love it’s just as impossible for you to step into my shoes as it would be for you to become a dog or hamster for a day.

What do you think?

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Suggestion Saturday: October 20, 2012

Here is this week’s list of blog posts, videos, quotes and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

The concept of physical beauty as a virtue is one of the dumbest, most pernicious and destructive ideas of the Western world, and we should have nothing to do with it.- Toni Morrison

Principles of a Good Relationship that I Wish I Had Learned in Kindergarten. I don’t normally link to the same site week after week but Frankin Veaux had another fantastic post several days ago. Once again this link is work-safe but the rest of the site may not be.

From Darger Family is Because:

For us it is important that we are who we are and we remain responsible for who we are. It often takes courage to be authentic. Courage is to be afraid and to do it any way. Most of us when we are in fear are not in action. Where the action is we are not. We become reactive instead of activists in our own lives.

Would Having an “End Date” Help Marriage? I don’t think it would but this is a great discussion.

The world would be a better place if we had more astronomy raps:

This video makes me so grateful for legal, safe and effective birth control. A few generations ago it was much more difficult for women in industrialized countries to choose whether, when and how often they had children. I hope we live to see the day when all women have this kind of autonomy.

Shadows, the sequel I mentioned really looking forward to reading in last week’s Suggestion Saturday, turned out to be a big disappointment. The tone was much darker than I’d expected and while I’m a fan of dystopian stories I don’t like it when characters I’ve grown attached to sink into total hopelessness.


With that being said I can recommend a much better example of this type of fiction, After the Snow. Willo was born years after the ocean currents stopped bringing warm water to North America.  He’s heard a few stories about life before the climate changed so drastically but right now he’s too busy keeping himself alive after being separated from his family. When he stumbles across two orphans also trying to survive on their own the decision he makes changes everything.
What have you been reading?

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Change of Heart

I wasn’t planning to share another short film so soon after discussing The Maker with all of you last week but this was a great story. There is a more traditional post coming on Monday for those of you who aren’t interested in short films.

A quick synopsis for everyone who couldn’t/didn’t click play:

A husband and wife both had multiple sexual partners before (re)committing their live to Allah and marrying one another. When an old friend runs into them on the street the husband becomes jealous of his wife’s past and storms off. Even though he wasn’t a virgin either he feels that it’s somehow worse for his wife to have had previous lovers than for him to have that experience.

Double standards are a funny thing. What is slightly annoying if ultimately excusable when you do it becomes an obviously pre-meditated act of obnoxiousness when someone else does it.

Or at least that’s the thought process I’ve been guilty of more than once. It’s so much easier to point out what other people are doing wrong than to offer them the same grace you want for yourself.

Maybe my readers are better human beings but I still haven’t figured out how to not participate in this merry-go-round of mismatched expectations. 😉

Any ideas on how one can stop doing this?

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Behind Closed Doors

While I was growing up my father often said, “you never really know what’s going on in someone else’s life.” It was eye-opening as a preacher’s kid to glimpse what was really happening in other people’s homes.

Some of the happiest families at church assumed those roles by stuffing their darkest secrets so deeply into themselves that I don’t think most of our mutual friends ever knew what was really going on.

I think we all do this to an extent. Here in the present day I have several friends dealing with fairly serious health problems. One of them responds to it by skimming the surface of life when giving health updates. Only those of us who’ve known this individual a long time have been told more. Another friend deals with the frustration and fear by talking about it in great detail with any friends willing to listen.

I don’t know why some people are more willing to reveal what’s really going on in their lives than are others. It’s an interesting idea to think about as we slowly move closer to the holiday season, though.

One of the most frustrating things about that time of year for me is how easy it is to feel forced into the one big happy family box. Advertisements are filled with families who make the Cosbys and the Waltons look dysfunctional and there’s a social expectation that everyone loves this time of year . There doesn’t seem to be a great deal of emotional room for families who aren’t closely-knit or who don’t, in fact, all live in the same state. Or country.

Watching my friends figure out how to navigate their new diagnoses reminds me that I don’t actually know what is going on in other people’s lives. Maybe you’re just as annoyed with the impending mandatory holiday cheer and togetherness as I am?

Let me know in the comment section.

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