Forgotten Heroes:Fred and Cela Sloman

Forgotten Heroes is a series of posts about extraordinary men and women who are (probably) not remembered by the average person.  Previous heroes include Josephine Butler,  John Howard and Alvin Ratz Kaufman

If you know of a forgotten hero who should be included in this series let me know about him or her in the comment section or via my contact form

Forgotten Heroes: Fred and Cela Sloman

Time: September 20, 1926

Place: Northern Ontario

Fred Sloman was worried.

A dedicated teacher, Sloman knew that there were many children in Northern Ontario who did not have the opportunity to go to school because they lived in such isolated communities.

Photo by Addy Cameron-Huff

Winters in this region are long and bitterly cold. The climate is sub-arctic and there is usually some sort of snow cover between October and May. Even in 2011 travel can be dicey at certain times of the year.

Sloman approached the Ontario Department of Education. They partnered with the CN rail, converted a train car into a portable school (and home for Fred and Cela) and in September of 1926 they began travelling in Northern Ontario.

The Slomans stayed at each stop between 3 and 6 days, teaching their students English and giving them school work for the month. Most of the kids spoke little to no English and had never been to school before.

It was only in the last ten years of their service that Fred and Cela had a bathtub onboard. The space they lived in was cramped (especially once their fifth child was born), bitterly cold in the winter and covered in black flies in the summer. There were far more physically comfortable ways to earn a living at the time.

As I researched Fred and Cela for this post I wondered, “what is it that compels some people to take jobs or pursue goals that most people would find unsustainable over the long haul?”

Maybe part of the answer to that question can be found in this: parents loved the travelling school and appreciated all of the work Fred and Cela poured into it. Not only were the kids educated without having to live away from home for months or years at a boarding school, other free services like meals, medical care, bingo games, sewing classes, and lessons on hygiene and childcare were provided as well.

It can be immensely satisfying to not only help other people but to see the positive impact you’ve had on them in tangible ways every single day.

The experiment was so successful that six more travelling school cars were soon created and a thousand students graduated from the Sloman’s travelling school alone over the next forty years, including Cela and Fred’s daughters.

By the 1950s and 60s the demand for this form of education began to wane. More people were moving up north and with improved roads and larger settlements came the opportunity to build permanent schools in more communities.

Fred and Cela retired in 1965 and he lived out the rest of his days in their hometown of Clinton, Ontario.

I’ll end this post with a quote from Fred himself:

If by chance I get to heaven after I put my chalk away, I will have only one request to make. Two cheerful toots on an engine whistle please, when each old CN engineer comes through the gates after his final run.

Fred, I sincerely hope you heard those toots.

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Suggestion Saturday: September 17, 2011

Here is this week’s list of blog posts and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

The squirrel photo is courtesy of Drew.

Death of Dreams. What happens when you defer your dreams.

The Art of Clean Up. Organization taken to the extreme. It must have taken quite a while to tidy up some of the items in these photos!

Right vs. Left: Under Deconstruction. Some of you follow Naked Pastor already but this is a phenomenal discussion on the tension between unity and what you should do when someone you care about is supporting something you strongly oppose for moral/ethical reasons. I don’t have any answers here – I’m just learning from the wisdom of others.

Why We Forgive. A hint: it isn’t about or for the person who wronged us at all.

From Do We Live On?

We live on in the effects of our actions that touch other people, in our words, and in our works. We live on in our children and those who remember us, but tiny bits of us continue

on and on even without memory, as long as human culture continues, as long as people live by the examples set by others, as long as having been loved helps us to love.

So it turns out that I won’t be able to send out book recommendations through the email list after all.

This week’s recommendation is Dani’s Story. Dani Lierow was severely neglected (and probably abused) for the first seven years of her life. When her new parents brought her home she was developmentally like an infant – she couldn’t speak, wasn’t potty trained and had trouble with solid foods. This book isn’t about abuse, though. It’s about the life she and her family built after it.

What have you been reading?

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Passing Through

Craig Hart and I share remarkably similar backgrounds. We were both preacher’s kids who grew up in conservative homes and churches, home schooled for several years each, and devout Christians who eventually questioned more and more of what we had been taught.

Eventually both of us switched to other beliefs. Agnosticism for me, Energetic Universalism for Craig.

Everyone has a story. One of my favourite things to do is to listen to what it is someone believes, why they believe it, and most importantly what happened in their lives to lead them to those beliefs.

The best way I know to understand where someone is headed or why they believe what they do is to listen to these stories.

Passing Through: An Ex-Fundamentalists Pursuit of Personal Spirituality is divided into four sections. The first, by far my favourite, talks about how Craig’s experiences as a child and young adult shaped what he now believes. The church he grew up in was extremely strict – for example, women wore dresses but were forbidden from wearing makeup or jewelry and no one was allowed to watch movies. At 17 Craig goes off to Bible College at the same time that he seriously begins questioning his faith.

If only this section could have lasted longer. Craig’s bittersweet stories really resonated with me. Too often we only hear from the extremes – people who love everything about their religious tradition or those who deconverted and are still angry.

Part two is a philosophical discussion: what is religion? Why does it have such a powerful hold on people? What are the benefits of struggling with your beliefs? Why do people believe in God?

It’s easier for me to discuss philosophy in person because certain words or phrases can be interpreted in radically different ways depending on your tone of voice and body language at the time. If you read this book keep in mind that Craig doesn’t defines terms like religion and fundamentalism in traditional ways. He uses these words to describe how someone behaves or thinks, not necessarily what they do or believe.

The third section discusses issues like biblical inerrancy and infallibility. (Basically, are there errors in the Bible? Is the Bible actually the word of God? If so, how do we know these things to be true?) To be honest I find these debates boring whether the holy book in question is the Bible, Torah, Koran or some other text.

This section is a good introduction for anyone who has never studied or thought about these questions though. The arguments are easy to follow and the examples used are thought-provoking.

The final part of the book talks about how to live in a society where many others disagree with you and describes what Craig means when he says that he’s an Energetic Universalist. I definitely agree with Craig’s belief that fundamentalism is in no way limited to one particular religion or group – it’s found anywhere that someone settles into or says, “I don’t need to listen to or respect you because I have all of the answers already.”

It was also refreshing to read thoughts on spirituality from someone who genuinely respects non-theists. Too often religious inclusion is really only intended for those who believe in at least one god.

This book would be a good fit for anyone interested in taking a second look at their beliefs, Christian or otherwise.

Full disclosure: I received a free copy of this book from Craig to review.

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Wild Card Wednesday: How Music and Sound Work

This is the first time music has ever made logical sense to me.

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What Would You Do if Money Wasn’t an Issue?

Recently at a coffee shop I overheard two women talking about the future. One was trying to figure out if she should go to graduate school to earn an advanced degree. (Photo by lucidish.)

What would you do if you didn’t have to worry about money?” asked the friend. I didn’t hear her response but this is how I’d answer the question:

  • Write.
  • Read.
  • Travel around North America and Europe.
  • Visit my side of the family at least two or three times more often.
  • Move to an apartment or condo that included space for a garden.
  • Provide seed money for other people’s dreams.
  • Volunteer somewhere that would allow me to organize stuff. It wouldn’t matter if I was working with books, files, a kitchen full of dirty dishes, food/clothing donations or something else entirely.

That’s about it. My needs and desires are simple.

Some of the items on this list are easy to accomplish. Others require more money or time than I can afford to spare at the moment.

What I like most about this exercise is that it boils down your life to what really matters. My definition of the good life isn’t going to be the same as someone else’s.

Respond

What would you do if money wasn’t an issue? How many of those dreams can you accomplish right now?

 

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Suggestion Saturday: September 10, 2011

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Here is this week’s list of blog posts, charts, poetry and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

The No B.S. Truth About Popups. Popups are those annoying ads that suddenly appear in front of whatever it is you’re reading on some websites. I’m taking Karol Gadja’s challenge: I will never direct you to sites that use this kind of marketing.

Revisiting My Childhood Library. This makes me wonder about my childhood haunts. Are they as glorious as I remember them? One day I’ll take a road trip through South Carolina, Wyoming and Ohio to find out!

How to Focus in the Age of Distraction. Timeless advice for all of us.

Striking Graphics Make Philosophy Easy to Understand. There’s not much else I can add to this one. The title says it all.

The Names. In honour of the 10th anniversary of September 11. The names of those who died that day lie behind and beyond all of the politics and rhetoric that have been woven into it.

Good stuff:

When I was a kid my ears always perked up when a pastor told stories during his or her sermon.  It was even better when he or she let the audience figure out the meaning of the story for ourselves. Who Ordered This Truckload of Dung is an entire book of traditional Buddhist stories about love, forgiveness, suffering and joy.

I grinned my way through it, cover to cover!

What have you been reading?

 

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Five Word Challenge

Lately this blog has been fairly serious.

There’s nothing wrong with that but today we’ll try something else.

There is a list of five words a little later on in this post. You’re going to do something with them:

  • Write a poem or short story.
  • Make up a humorous song and sing it to the next person you meet.
  • Draw or take a picture of these items.
  • Rearrange the letters to create five new words that should be added to the English dictionary.

Or anything else that awakens your creativity.

Your words:

  1. Orange
  2. Anticipation
  3. Soil
  4. Mouse
  5. Basin

Ready, set, create!

(And then come back and leave a comment telling us what you did.)

 

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Wild Card Wednesday: A Moment of Peace

Photo by David Goehring

Grant yourself a moment of peace,

and you will understand

how foolishly you have scurried about.

Learn to be silent,

and you will notice that

you have talked too much.

Be kind,

and you will realize that

your judgment of others was too severe.

Ancient Chinese Proverb

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The Deconversion Guide: Prayer

Part three of my series on life after faith. Click here for part two.

Today’s topic: Prayer.

How do you respond to prayer requests? What about praying before a meal? Is it polite to ask a well-meaning friend or family member not to pray for you?

Let’s talk about these one at a time.

Prayer Requests

Someone you care about is going through a hard time. At the end of their email or Facebook post they ask everyone to pray.

How should we respond to this? It seems dishonest to say, “yes! I’ll pray for you” if you don’t pray or believe in any gods (although getting out of that habit was really tough for me).

What is someone really asking for when they post a prayer request? Finding comfort in their religious beliefs is definitely a major part of it but I think there’s also a social aspect.

Most of the time friends and family don’t begin and end their side of the conversation with prayer. Advice or practical assistance – babysitting, bringing over a hot meal, helping with chores or errands that cannot be postponed- are usually offered as well.

Navigating the religious angle of it can be really awkward but anyone can offer to help in other ways.

Mealtime

This is probably one of the most common reasons that non-theists become a captive audience to prayer. It can also be something that is more difficult to opt out of discreetly if you are uncomfortable participating.

Usually I’m happy to sit quietly while others pray.  A notable exception to this are prayers like this:

Thank you, God, for this food. We love you so much. Please teach us how to serve you better for the rest of our lives. Amen.

because they assumes a relationship that at least one of us doesn’t actually have with the speaker’s god. Your mileage may vary but I’m not ethically comfortable being included in someone else’s relationship with their god.

Promises are also something I take extremely seriously. If I say I’ll be somewhere or do something I’m going to be or do it. The last time I broke a promise was last fall when a nasty bout of the flu left me too weak to do what I had agreed to do…and I still felt guilty for staying home that night. 🙂

So what are your options when you’re in a situation where the prayer before the meal becomes uncomfortable?

You could talk to the prayer leader about it. I wouldn’t recommend this in 99% of cases, though, especially if the meal is hosted by the person who will be praying. It’s far too easy for these things to be blown out of proportion.

In my experience people cannot be forced to understand how someone outside of their beliefs sees certain things. If it comes up in conversation I’ll share my thoughts but I haven’t seen much good come out of bringing it up personally.

Another options is to offer to host. Anyone who visits my house is welcome to pray silently or in a small group before the meal begins.

Also consider meeting at neutral locations like a restaurant or park. The more casual the event the less likely that public prayers of any kind will take place and almost everyone loves a picnic or barbecue!

Hard Times

I’ll cover this in depth in an upcoming post but one of the other most common reasons for a Christian to mention praying for you is when something bad happens. Someone dies, loses a job, is diagnosed with a terminal illness.

Some non-theists do not find this a comfort at all. I completely understand why it would bother someone. Maybe I’m a bad Agnostic ( 😉 )  but I would only find this personally offensive if it was followed up with any hint of pressure to join that person’s religion or talk to his or her spiritual advisor.

Saying “thanks” and then switching the topic is one of my favourite ways to respond to this sort of thing.

 Intent

Basically it all comes down to the intentions of the person offering or asking for prayer.

Does he or she want to convert you?

Is bringing up prayer a passive agressive act for this individual?

Is he trying to offer comfort?

Is she expressing sincerely held religious views?

Is prayer simply a habit for this individual?

There are many Christians in my life who would never cross that line. They sincerely respect my beliefs and are given a great deal of leeway when it come to these things.

Sometimes there are those who choose less respectful approaches. As I’ve mentioned in this series before, relationship history matters. You are the expert in figuring out what is happening with your friends and family.

Non-theists, theists, and everyone in-between: what have been your experiences with this?

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Suggestion Saturday: September 3, 2011

Here is this week’s list of blog posts, photos, videos and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

A Story Without Words. This is exactly what the title describes. More stories should be told this way!

How to Seem Good at Everything. There is definitely some truth to this. The trick, though, is figuring out what would be a really dumb move to make ahead of time.

Glass Beach. A century ago residents of Fort Bragg, California used this beach as a dump. When the North Coast Water Safety Board began cleaning up the area in the 1960s  they discovered that the glass littering the shore was too difficult to remove. Mother nature stepped in and what was once trash now shimmers in Glass Beach.

How to be Around People When You’re in a Crappy Mood. Another fantastic advice post.

Bridging the Gap. Sometimes what Suggestion Saturday needs more than anything are some photos of a resourceful little snail.

We need one of these in every community:

Carol Bennet McCuaig’s Encountering the Wild  makes me want to move to the country and figure out how to keep the wildlife from devouring my garden.

What have you been reading?

 

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