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We Need Smarter Characters

One of the things that bothers me the most about modern fiction – especially when it comes to the horror and science fiction genres – is how little common sense and intelligence many characters seem to have in these stories.

Those of you who have known me for a few years might have heard me comment on this problem before, especially when The Walking Dead or Fear the Walking Dead are currently airing. I’m an intermittent fan of both of those shows. While I love their premises, the characters in them sure do make a lot of questionable decisions about who to trust and how to behave when they’re in immediate danger. At times that makes them extremely difficult to watch.

No, I don’t expect perfection from fictional characters anymore than I would from living, breathing people. There is definitely something to be said for showing exactly what happens to people when they make the wrong decision. You can learn a lot about someone based on how they react to things going horribly wrong in their lives.

There does come a point, though, when it’s hard to emotionally connect to someone who keeps making nonsensical choices. If there is a herd of zombies wandering around in the woods outside of your home, you really shouldn’t be going for a nature walk alone. If that new person you just met makes your skin crawl,  don’t ignore that feeling and tell him where you live when he asks.

These are the kinds of things that pull me out of the plot. If the protagonists were children or had unusual backstories to explain their naiveté, I’d completely understand. When seemingly normal adult characters do it over and over again in a violent and unpredictable setting, I start losing sympathy for them.

I’ve learned valuable lessons from my mistakes. Why don’t these characters apply the things the experienced in previous seasons to what’s currently going on with them?

What originally attracted me to these genres were the questions they asked about life. A good horror story peels back all of the social niceties to expose the grey underbelly of what frightened people the most in a specific era. Who do they trust? Who or what keeps popping up as the villain? You can learn a lot about a society based on who and what it fears!

Well-written science fiction asks questions that many people don’t otherwise think about. What does it mean to be human? How do we know if we can trust our governments? What kind of life might exist on other planets? What would happen if….?

These questions only work, though, if the characters that could ask them are aware enough to actually bring them to the audience’s mind.

Have you noticed this problem in the books you read or the shows you watch? Who are some of the smartest characters you’ve found recently?

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How to Make Shy People Come and Talk to You

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Someone found this blog over the weekend by doing a search for how to make shy people come and talk to you. I thought it would make a great subject for today’s post as I’m shy in real life until I’ve gotten to know someone pretty well.

Take your pet for a walk. I often find it difficult to start conversations with strangers or acquaintances, but that hesitancy disappears when there’s an animal in the mix.  I virtually never touch them due how terribly allergic I am to cats and dogs, but I sure do enjoy seeing a happy, healthy little creature out and about with their human. Telling someone that their pet is gorgeous, smart, or well trained is a great ice breaker.

Compliment them. Speaking of compliments, people often welcome them as well. I generally praise what someone has created – a book; a song; a clever joke; a beautifully decorated cupcake – instead of stuff they only have some control over such as their appearance. There’s less of a chance of them taking that compliment the wrong way. Also, everyone has at least one talent if you search long enough.

Ask open ended questions. For example, what are you looking forward to this summer? That kind of question can be interpreted as specifically or generally as someone wants. They could talk about that blockbuster they can’t wait to see or they could mention something far more personal if they chose. I usually like talking about stuff that isn’t your typical small talk, but I also appreciate having the option of keeping things lighthearted and non-specific if I choose.

Talk about what you love. I’m never going to be the kind of person who enjoys watching sporting events or drinking beer, but I still get a kick out of hearing why other people find that stuff so entertaining. You can learn a lot about someone by listening to them talk about their passions and interests.

Be kind. I find it much easier to open up and chat with kind people. We might not talk about a lot the first time they talk to me, but the second and third conversations can be much longer and more interesting if I walk away with a good first impression of them. I really dislike it when people try to pull me out of my shell the first time they meet me. If they let our interactions evolve naturally instead, they’ll get much more out of me in the future. From what I’ve observed of other shy people, I suspect that a lot of them are the same way.

Now I want to hear what’s worked for you! Let me know in the comments.

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Suggestion Saturday: April 16, 2016

Here is this week’s list of tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

Crowd Source. I didn’t know this was so widespread. Did you?

Libertaria! A Choose Your Own Short Adventure via NinjaTheory22. This was incredibly well done.

Be Careful Who You Friend Online via TLHouchinauthor. Not only am I careful who I friend online, I’m also careful about what I share in general. There are certain things about your life that really shouldn’t be broadcast to just anyone.

Oh, Traitorous Nose! via cheryl_cch. I found this horrifying and hilarious at the same time.

What We Love About Our Moms. Mother’s Day is coming up shortly. This was such a warm and funny reminder of everything that great moms do. I really loved it, and I hope you do as well.

From What I Learned About Bias From 4 Years Working at McDonald’s:

I realized this attitude was way grosser than shoveling fries. Because I am not better than a McDonald’s worker.

Sure, maybe I have different skills. I have no muscles and I fluster under that kind of pressure. I’m always going to be better at desk jobs than labor jobs. But this is not because I’m more intelligent or more skilled or worth more than a great McDonald’s employee.

What have you been reading?

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How Do You Market Your Books?

i-beg-your-pardon-excuse-me-frog-sweet-large Sometimes I give my readers advice. Today, though, I’m asking you for advice.

This isn’t only for other authors. I’m also interested in hearing from musicians, graphic designers, comedians, speakers, llama whisperers*, and anyone else who sells some kind of product or talent.

How do you market your stuff? What have you found effective? What techniques have you not found helpful at all?

I’m all ears!

*This should totally be a real occupation.

 

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Blind Man Attempts to Describe Vision

What I found fascinating about this video is that you could have the same kind of conversation about all kinds of topics:

  • The taste of peanut butter to someone living with a severe peanut allergy.
  • A phobia to someone who has never been irrationally afraid of anything.
  • How social media works to someone who lived and died ten thousand years ago.

There are some things that are extremely difficult to explain to people who have no framework with which to understand them.

These are the kinds of things I think about when I’m sitting quietly in the corner. Aren’t they interesting?

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5 More Things I Wish People Would Blog About

Lighted MatchI’ve been a blogger for many years now. During this time I’ve noticed that some topics seem to do really well in the blogosphere because of how timeless and versatile they are.

Earlier this year I shared a list of topics I wish more people would blog about. I kept thinking of more things I’d love to see my favourite bloggers tackle after I published it, though.

This post is an update to the one I posted back then.

Who knows? Maybe this will become a series one day!

Open Letters. I’ve sent out a handful of open letters on this blog. They can be used to thank people that you’ll never actually meet or to talk about issues that you’ve noticed in your community. While they can be used for unkind reasons as well, that’s never why I’ve used them.  I’d compare them instead to the short anecdotes that are often used in the first few pages of a nonfiction book to introduce the audience to the main topic of that chapter. Zooming in on a particular experience can be a friendly way to talk about a problem or bring something up that isn’t discussed very often.

Surveys and polls. I absolutely love filling out surveys and polls, especially if the person who put the survey or poll together eventually tells their audience what the results were.  There is something fascinating about seeing all of those numbers straightened out into tidy graphs and charts.  It doesn’t matter if you’re asking people to vote for which paint colour they’d like to see brighten up your living room or who we’re hoping will win the next election. If you post a survey, I will cheerfully fill it out before haunting your blog until the final tallies are shared.

Unusual events. This could be anything from an unexplained mystery from your childhood to a boldly creative photograph to a truly bizarre news story that sounds like it belongs on Snopes. I enjoy unusualness in almost any form. There’s something to be said for sharpening your mind by paying attention to things that don’t seem to make sense at first glance.

Questions, hypothetical or otherwise. I like thinking about possible for the answers to them even if that process is as simple as a quick roll through my imagination or a trip to Wikipedia to see if I remembered a certain fact correctly.

Book, music, movie, and TV show reviews. As an author, I know how important reviews are for those of us who rely on word-of-mouth marketing to find new fans. Reviews also matter to fans themselves who haven’t decided what they’ll buy or rent yet. I rely on them heavily when I decide what to buy. No, I’m not swayed by a single excellent (or negative) review. There have been many times, though, when a streak of reviewers that all have similar things to say have made the difference between me buying something and deciding to give a different author, musician, or show a try instead.

 

What kinds of topics do you love seeing pop up on the blogs you follow?

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Suggestion Saturday: April 9, 2016

SwirlHere is this week’s list of comic strips, essays, and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web. I added this photograph to today’s post because I’m mesmerized by it.

Jesska vs. Her Brain & Insomnia. Who else does this occasionally?

Why Kindle Books Aren’t Evil via EllieFirestone1. It amazes me to think that some people are still suspicious of ebooks.

Can an Outsider Ever Truly Become Amish? I have never once had the urge to join the Amish. This article was a truly fascinating peek into the lives of people who do want to do this, though.

5 of the Best Industrial Style Bathrooms via mywarehousehome. This recommendation is a little off the beaten path for my Suggestion Saturday posts, but you have to check out the photos in it. They are incredible. I want a bathroom like that!

Are You a Morning Person or a Night Owl? This quiz will tell you for sure. My results say that I’m definitely a morning person. Out of a possible 86 points, I scored a 79 in favour of waking of early. That’s pretty strong.

From Why I Don’t Buy Organic, And Why You Might Not Want To As Well:

My problems with institutional organic are not at all about its founding ideals or about organic farmers, but rather about organic’s self-imposed limitations and about the ethics of a sub-set of its promoters.

From Are You Worried About Making a Mistake via aford21:

Have you ever worried about putting your work out there because you might make a mistake?

People will judge, unsubscribe from your email list, leave terrible reviews, and make you wish you’d never started?

What have you been reading?

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Why You Should Buy an Apple Watch

The longer I use my Apple Watch, the more I’m convinced that it’s something anyone who has an iPhone should buy.

In all honesty, I was a little skeptical of the idea of a smart watch this time last year. While I loved the thought of tracking my workout and general body movement statistics more accurately, I wasn’t sure if I’d actually use the watch enough in other areas of my life to justify the cost of it.

Now that I’ve had mine for almost a year, I’m surprised at how much I rely on it.

By far my favorite part of owning this watch is the Health app that comes preinstalled on it. This is something I suspected would be the case a year ago, and it turned out to be true.

There is something incredibly satisfying about seeing the exercise minutes, calories burned, and standing hours rings grow throughout the day. Often I’ll walk in place while watching a TV show in the evening in order to burn those last few calories and make all three goals for the day.

The badges you earn for a perfect week in any or all of these categories are highly motivating to me. This won’t have the same effect on everyone, of course, but it is something to keep in mind if you also like getting cheerful messages when you complete a goal.

It’s interesting to check my heart rate every once in a while. I’ve learned that my resting heart rate can be as low as 55 or 60 beats per minute. Sometimes I play a game with myself where I see how low I can get it to go if I completely relax every part of my mind and body. It’s amazing to see just how much something as simple as a stray thought or a tense muscle can affect your heart rate.

Reminders are another feature of this watch that I’ve come to use every single day. I’ve set them for everything from daily routine stuff like taking medication to one time reminders about the time and place for that medical appointment I set up months or even years ago. It is really nice to have that prompt when you booked that optometrist appointment two years ago and you can’t for the life of you remember if it was for 3 pm on Wednesday the second of the month or  2pm on Thursday the third. I have a pretty good memory, but stuff like this is easy to forget after a couple of years!

It’s also been nice to have instant contact with my spouse when we’re spending some time doing separate things. If one of our phones is muted for some reason, we’ll still feel the tap of the watch on our wrist when we get an iMessage. This has come in handy for us more than once.

On a silly note, I’ve also come to love sending my husband my heartbeat or a drawing every once in a while.

In fact, I think I’ll send him one now while I publish this post!

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Senior Citizens Reacting to Rihanna’s Song “Work”

I don’t think I’ve ever shared anything from the Elders React series on this blog before. Elders React is a Youtube show about a group of older people who share their thoughts on modern pop culture. Every episode covers a different topic, and most of the ones I’ve seen were extremely funny.

This particular episode is about Rihanna’s two music videos for her song “Work.” One of the seniors in this video – I won’t say which one – reminded me of how my dad used to react when his kids blared music that he didn’t understand. Sometimes he’d imitate the singers or rappers we were listening to. At other times he’d start dancing in the living room in beat to the music.

I thought of this memory as I watched that guy struggle to understand today’s music.

Oh, and a fair warning: this includes PG-13 content.

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Dealing with Distractions

LemurThere have many loud noises coming from a neighbour’s home today. Their place is being renovated, so my spouse and I have been hearing the sound of hammers tapping the wall, tools being dropped, and all kinds of thuds and crashes that I can’t identify.

Look at the lemur on your left if you want to see the kinds of faces I’ve been making when the banging suddenly intensifies.

This is one of the few things that I genuinely dislike about living in the city.

It’s completely necessary noise, of course, but it’s also distracting when I’m trying to write. I wish I could go wrap their walls in some kind of sound-proofing material until the renovations are complete.

Until then, I’m wearing ear plugs and trying to plan my schedule in such a way that I get regular breaks from all of the sounds leaking through the walls.

I’ve also been trying to figure out what some of the most jarring noises are. Did one of the tradespeople over there pass out from breathing paint fumes? (I sure hope not!) Are they playing some kind of game that involves throwing every tool they own on the floor to see which ones bounce? Is someone challenging a colleague to a tap dance competition? Have they decided to rip out a wall or three? Did an angry dragon follow someone to work today, and is it trying to start another war with humankind? If so,  which side is winning?

The possibilities are endless.

How do you deal with distractions when you’re working?

 

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