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I'm a sci-fi writer who loves lifting weights and hates eating Brussels sprouts.

Mailbag #13

Anonymous asks:

I moved to a town I don’t like. What do I do?

Start planning now for how you will get away. This might involve furthering your education, applying for other jobs, or networking with friends who are willing to let you live with them temporarily.

In the meantime, look for what Anne Shirley called kindred spirits and Mr. Rogers called helpers. Sympathetic people are everywhere, and finding them makes unbearable situations easier.

Also remember that life isn’t short, it’s long. You have no idea where you’ll be in 5 years or what you’ll be doing. As overwhelming or never ending as it might feel now your current circumstances will eventually change.

I know this can be a hard thing to believe when you’re in the middle of a rough patch. At times I’ve seriously doubted it myself….but keep remembering that things can change in an instant.

The Internet is a good escape mechanism in the meantime. Just because you’re physically stuck in a town you don’t like doesn’t mean you have to emotionally dwell there as well.

Do you have a question for me? Submit it through Ask, leave a message in the comment section, or email postmaster AT on-the-other-hand DOT com. 

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After the Storm: Part Twenty-One

© Nevit Dilmen found at Wikimedia commons.

© Nevit Dilmen found at Wikimedia commons.

Just tuning in? Catch up with parts one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, eleven, twelvethirteen, fourteen, fifteensixteenseventeeneighteennineteen, and twenty of this story.

Lemon had been born in a small log cabin deep inside the Mingus mountain range. His thick coat was designed to keep him alive through long, cold winters and it was during July and August afternoons that he suffered the most. The valley rarely grew as warm as the desert, but the temperature could still get quite hot in the dog days of summer.

Watching miserable pets pant in the shade must have been what prompted the ones who came before to invent such a funny phrase Daphne decided. Her grandfather was the one who first used it with her when they’d taken in yet another dog at the end of August, and in her 9-year-old mind the dogs days of summer were meant to be a celebration of the unique bond between dogs and their humans. She quickly learned how to bake favourite treats for the dogs in her life and draw some of the water supply into a dog-sized bath for cooling off.

Which is how Daphne ended up meeting the new representative for the Arizona territories while standing in the middle of her front yard naked from the waist up as she attempted to dry off her wiggly companion. There was nothing Lemon liked better than soaking in a cool tub of water on a hot day, and Daphne had learned from experience that the only way to get him out of the tub was to climb in after him. Her knee still protested when she picked up dogs and small children, so Daphne was hoping to gently coax him out of the tub instead of tipping it over or struggling to lift him out. She was nude from the waist up because at least then one article of clothing would remain dry for the evening.

“Mrs. Loous?” the slim blond woman standing at the edge of Daphne’s property line blushed as she carefully enunciated Daphne’s legal last name. Five minutes ago Daphne had been wishing that Paige was awake or one of her sons was around to help her de-tub the dog. Now she was grateful that no one else was staring awkwardly at the ground while she hurriedly put on a shirt.

“Yes, I’m Daphne.” Overjoyed at the thought of meeting a new human friend, Lemon barked his greeting as Daphne struggled to hold onto his slippery body.

“My name is Esther Penn. I’m here on behalf of your government to take a census. Do you mind if I ask you a few questions?”

As the stranger spoke Lemon wiggled out of his owner’s grasp and rushed forward to meet his new human. When the newcomer rewarded him with a quick scratch behind the ears Daphne could have almost sworn that she saw her dog grinning.

Esther flashed a small piece of metal she called a badge in front of Daphne and was shocked when it didn’t have the desired affect. Daphne had never seen such an object before and didn’t realize that it was intended to evoke obedience and a tinge of fear into everyone who saw it. To Daphne it looked like a child’s toy not a weapon. The petite woman who wanted to know everything about Daphne’s life was a curiosity, so for the sake of learning more about the world beyond Mingus valley Daphne agreed to sit in the front yard and answer her questions.

“Mrs. Lewis, I really must insist that we stick to the script,” Esther said after Daphne interrupted her yet again with another question.

“I just want to know where all of this information is going,” Daphne said. Even with Esther’s explanation of what a census was and why it was so important to know the names, ages, and occupations of everyone living in the valley Daphne still wasn’t sure why that was the only data that mattered. While waiting out the long, hot summer Daphne had begun to formulate strong ideas about what her valley needed, and government-issued ID numbers were nowhere on that list.

“Well, the algorithm tells us how to allocate resources after we input all of your information.” Esther might as well have told Daphne they were going to throw it to the moon with a slingshot when verboten terms accidentally slipped into the conversation. Daphne was still having trouble believing that anyone’s medicine could be strong enough prevent disease before it occurred. It was as preposterous as choosing when the gods sent you a child or Death carried you away.

Esther was frustrated as well. Half of the information she’d been prepped with on this family was either wrong or Daphne was a much better liar than her profile indicated she would be. Not only did she claim to have no knowledge of the Cohen brothers or where they might have moved on to after Mr. Everson allegedly broke them out of jail, she refused to say anything about her estranged husband at all.

Hopefully her sons would be more cooperative. Esther still needed to vaccinate everyone and visit three more households before dusk.

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Suggestion Saturday: August 17, 2013

Clasped_handsHere is this week’s list of blog posts, prints, quotes, and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

The Ghost Rapes of Bolivia. At least 130 women in a Mennonite community were drugged and raped for years before their attackers were finally caught. This article describes how the men who violated them were caught and what the victims have done since the trial. Trigger warning: there are graphic descriptions of the assaults in this link.

What Happens When You Hire a Craiglist Poet to Mock You?  If I ever become wealthy I’ll hire artistic people to create personalized stuff for me. This is such a funny idea.

The Case for Quiet via Dan__Bennett. My mind can be a pretty noisy place. Cultivating quiet is so much more than how many words you speak.

Marriage Without Sex is Meaningless. On the one hand, I completely understand what the woman blogger spoke to is saying about emotional intimacy. It really is the glue that holds any romantic relationship together through the rough times. On the other hand, I can’t imagine ever growing so old that sex permanently becomes less enticing than a massage or other nonsexual forms of touch from your spouse. Even the idea of it makes me chuckle.

Something More Wrong. Life in a longterm, inpatient mental health hospital. Some of the stories of these women are disturbing, but the author did a wonderful job describing how they pass their days and nights.

My Name via dlboonstra. A modern-day parable about the things we say to and about ourselves.

From The One via Moonbeam McQueen:

They didn’t have the time
that younger lovers do,
so they blazed twice as bright
and their years together flew;

From Dear Daughter: I Hope You Have Some Fucking Awesome Sex:

Look, I love sex. It’s fun. And because I love my daughter, I want her to have all of the same delights in life that I do, and hopefully more. I don’t want to hear about the fine details because, heck, I don’t want those visuals any more than my daughter wants mine. But in the abstract, darling, go out and play.

Because consensual sex isn’t something that men take from you; it’s something you give. It doesn’t lessen you to give someone else pleasure. It doesn’t degrade you to have some of your own.

 


What will future generations misunderstand about us if they only have access to a handful of random artifacts? A Canticle for Leibowitz explores this question by introducing the reader to a cloistered monk who ekes out a living hundreds of years after humanity is nearly wiped out by an atomic war.

This is speculative science fiction at its finest. The characters’ understanding of how the world works is quite different from what you or I would say about it, but it was a joy to slowly piece together the truth about what really happened to our species as we meet the people who live in this distant future.

Everything else I want to say about this book veers into spoiler territory, but I highly recommend it to anyone interested in philosophy, post-apocalyptic fiction or science fiction.

What have you been reading?

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After the Storm: Part Twenty

800px-Old_men_handJust tuning in? Catch up with parts one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, eleven, twelve , thirteen, fourteen, fifteensixteenseventeen, eighteen, and nineteen of this story.

Aunt Lucy must be immortal.

Not only had the oldest member of the Mingus Mountain community survived the fever that had claimed so many, she bounced up the stony path to Daphne’s house with more energy than the middle-aged man half her age who accompanied her. If not for her white hair and wrinkles no one would have believed she was an elder.

It was good to see that Gerald Perez was still alive. The scraps of news that had drifted back to Daphne’s house indicated that his unlucky household had seen many deaths this past spring.  He greeted her with a palm full of the Nosi that some folks liked to chew while informally discussing important matters.

Daphne shook her head and offered him a brief hug instead. She’d never learned to enjoy this particular plant, and while she was glad Gerald’s crop had been bountiful enough to share she wanted to face this meeting with a clear head. The last time she had chewed Nosi socially she had ended up craving it for days, and Daphne didn’t have the arable land or energy to dedicate to such a difficult habit to break.

Sean Reed and Ephraim followed the elders up the path to the house where Sean and the remaining members of the council gathered around the little table in the main room. Small talk had to be the worst part of meetings like this one. Daphne didn’t know if Sean’s wives had settled their longstanding feud while the children were ill or if it was ok to ask about the health of Gerald’s remaining family members. He had lost so many of them that she worried any mention of his family would reignite his grief.

Ephraim poured cups of water for everyone and sliced the last of the cheese while Lemon begged silently under the table.

“No, Lemon,” she said, secretly grateful for the distraction. She really needed to stop slipping him treats a few times a week. Lemon was beginning to assume that not being given treats was a punishment.

While the food and water were slowly eaten Sean described what had happened to Liam and Marcus Swood on the night the soldiers appeared at the Reed’s farm. Both brothers had quickly figured out how to communicate with one another despite being temporarily placed with foster families on opposite sides of the valley. Marcus egged on his little brother as the two of them made a nuisance of themselves to the visiting soldiers. At one point Marcus had claimed the soldiers were changelings, one of the most serious accusations one could make about someone who wasn’t well known to the community. He had claimed to see one of the soldiers speak to a rock and then transform into one. When Nevada Reed corroborated his story the neighbours began to pay closer attention to what was happening and one or two reputable people reported seeing equally troubling signs of blasphemy. The gods never would have concerned themselves so intimately with the affairs of mortals, and anyone who respected the gods would leave magic up to the ones who created it.

Soon after word of their findings began spreading to the larger community the Swood brothers mysteriously disappeared one night. Sean and a few other adults had gone searching for them, but no trace of either boy could be found much to the grief of their mother.

“We searched the other side of the valley as well,” Gerald said. The port wine mark on the left side of his face had grown darker after a long spring working in the sun. Daphne detected a hint of sadness in his voice as he continued speaking. “It is as if they were never born.”

“And they’re not the only ones to disappear,” Aunt Lucy said as she raised her right eyebrow and glanced at Daphne. “MacArthur is gone, too.”

Daphne made a conscious effort to keep her expression neutral as the older woman stared at her. After their last discussion on this topic the last thing she wanted to do was give Aunt Lucy any new reasons to continue digging up the painful chapters in her life. The discussion slowly drifted to what everyone thought the community should do about the disappearances, surprise inspections, and gleeful destruction of property. If Gerald or Aunt Lucy knew what else the soldiers were looking for neither one of them gave any indication of that knowledge.

So many of Daphne’s theories about what was happening were based on wisps of information. She had long-since wondered if MacArthur was involved in something distasteful. He sometimes travelled to other communities in order to buy and sell sheep or sell the blankets his wives and children wove. While she had no proof of this, Daphne wondered if that was all he carried with him.

The question was, what else could he take with him that was easily concealed? Most households produced just enough food and clothing for their own needs. In a good year there might be a little surplus for trade or charity, but no one ever had enough to justify the many trips he made most years.

A long-forgotten memory flashed into Daphne’s mind as the debate droned on around her.

As small children Isaac and Ephraim had occasionally spent the day with their stepmothers or older siblings while Daphne finished harvesting the food that would see them through the summer. One day when she went to pick them up Daphne had spotted Ephraim hiding underneath one of the large wicker baskets in his father’s yard. When she asked him what he was doing he shushed her, said he was being smuggled, and warned that it wouldn’t work if people knew he was there.

At the time she had laughed at the idea of hiding a person.

Now she wondered.

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Suggestion Saturday: August 10, 2013

Here is this week’s list of blog posts, comics, and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

Someone Write Me a Book Based on This Image. My flash fiction response is below. Leave yours in the comment section!

Mabel loved her husband now more than she did when they first met sixty years ago, but sometimes she wondered what her life had been like if True Love’s Kiss hadn’t worn off after a few decades. It had been years since she’d gone dancing.

TP. It’s best if you click on this link with as few preconceived notions of what you’re about to find as possible. (Don’t worry, it’s nothing scary or disturbing!)

Friendship Never Fleeting via RantingnRaven. There’s something weird going on in this story. My theory about what is really happening is posted in the  comment section of this link.

Untitled. The Dr. Who police box I understand. The flowery ribcage, not so much. It’s beautiful, but I can’t for the life of me figure out what it represents. Ideas, anyone?

From Do Stop Believing via Dorsalstream:

 My lovely wife, to her credit and wisdom, has insisted that our kids come to these truths on their own. She believes that the various fairies and magic bunnies and nocturnal elves can give a great gift in the opportunity to discover their nonexistence.
This discovery is inevitable. Beliefs and the stories that bind them together tug at each other even as they distribute logical load. Beliefs that don’t square with the stories we tell ourselves tend not to last long. Same with stories that don’t square with beliefs we are reluctant to relinquish. Childhood myths survive until the evidence nags and the desire to know overpowers the desire to believe in their truth or what would allow them to be true.

From Knives:

I was haunted by the most chilling story in the entire Little House on the Prairie series: a chapter called “Knife in the Dark”. Wilder describes boarding with a severely depressed woman who waves a knife at her husband during a nocturnal argument, scaring the daylights out of teenage Laura peeking through a gap in the curtain partition. If the story gave me goosebumps before, now it knotted my stomach.

 

This week I’m thrilled to recommend my friend Daphne Purpus’ “The Egg That Wouldn’t Hatch.” This is her second fantasy novel and third book overall, and it’s been wonderful to see her writing style develop over time.

The Egg That Wouldn’t Hatch is a young adult fantasy novel about a girl named Lucy who has the odds stacked against her several times over again. She’s poor, motherless, physically disabled, bullied, and was raised in an abusive and emotionally cold home.

And then a chance encounter with a Dragon Rider and her dragon changes Lucy’s destiny forever. What I loved about this book was that Lucy’s past was never glossed over. She struggles to undo the emotional damage her father (and peers) cause even after her life changes dramatically for the better. It isn’t always an easy process, but I really appreciated Daphne’s realistic approach to Lucy’s character development. It was delightful to see a frightened little girl learn to express her true self.

Lucy is 7 when this story begins, but I’d recommend for kids who are 9-12 years old due to its frank discussion of abuse, neglect, bullying, and death.

What have you been reading? Have any of my other readers published anything lately? I love promoting the work of friends, so please let me know if you have anything coming out!

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After the Storm: Part Nineteen

Photo by Tammy Schoch.

Photo by Tammy Schoch.

Just tuning in? Catch up with parts one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, eleven, twelve , thirteen, fourteen, fifteensixteenseventeen, and eighteen of this story.

“What do you mean they just let him go?” Daphne’s joy at seeing both of her children return home safe was quickly becoming tinged with irritation.

“When I arrived at the camp they told me he was free to go.”

“And you turned your back on them and walked away?” In the 45 years she’d lived in the shadow of Mingus Mountain Daphne had seen more than one seemingly-peaceful meeting turn violent. Strangers couldn’t afford to give one another the benefit of the doubt in a climate where every family struggled to keep themselves and their kin alive. If nothing else her sons should know that by now.

“Well, they didn’t have any weapons pointed at us.”

“Oh, Ephraim. I’m glad you’re ok, but what in the hell were you thinking?”

“That we ought to get out of there before they changed their minds.”

It didn’t make sense. Everything Daphne and her neighbours had observed about their invaders pointed to a culture that had no reason to fear them. Had MacArthur or Sean Reed captured one of the invader’s people Daphne had little reason to believe he or she would have ever been released. The prospect of gaining insider information about the habits and motives of the other side would have been more useful than almost any bribe or trade. So what made them change their minds?

“They almost seemed afraid of me, Mom,” Isaac said. Daphne frowned at her short, thin, quiet son who had only recently developed a slightly more muscular frame as a result of his carpentry apprenticeship. She grew even more confused as he explained how quickly the soldiers changed their minds. Nothing her children told her today made any sense.

“Well, they know where we live,” she said finally. “There’s nothing we can do to prevent them from finding us again, but we can finish the harvesting.” Either Death was on his way or he wasn’t, but running out of food in August would be a sure way to capture his attention. The days unfolded slowly with no sign of the soldiers. Once everything that could possibly have been preserved was safely stored away Daphne and her family settled in for a long, hot summer.

The children were fully recovered by then, and Daphne spent many afternoons telling them the stories her sons had loved a few short years earlier. Even Paige reluctantly joined in, although she still preferred to rearrange Daphne’s kitchen or scold Lemon for barking when she thought she could get away with it.  Traditionally summer evenings been set aside for visiting neighbours and catching up on what was happening in the community, but this year Daphne had to rely on her sons to bring back snatches of news on the rare occasions when they met other people on the way to or back from Sparrow Creek. She could no longer take the trip herself. No one knew if the mysterious fever was still spreading, and few people wanted to take the risk of catching it when the desert released its summer miasma.

It was after one of these unexpected meetings that Isaac brought back troubling news. A midnight raid on the Eversons property had lead to the deaths of a son-in-law and two grandchildren. The invading army had finally taken MacArthur, but not before destroying his sheep paddock and setting his house on fire. Rachel and her remaining children and grandchildren were sleeping under the stars around a small campfire each night. She had taken to travelling to the next nearest creek for water in the hopes of avoiding further encounters with the invaders as the younger members of her family foraged for what little food they could find.

“Son, we might not even have enough for ourselves this summer,” Daphne said before Isaac could ask her to feed anyone else. Fishing and snaring sometimes rounded out their meals, but more often than not the Lewis and Davenport families ate watered down stews and thin slices of bread while they counted down the days to autumn.

“Every family is stretched to the limit,” Isaac said. “But the Eversons won’t make it through the summer without help. Rachel said her husband isn’t coming back.”

“She can’t possibly know that.” Daphne needed more than one hand to count the number of times MacArthur had been on trial for something. He always found a way to recover from even the most damming evidence, and she had no doubt he’d wiggle out of whatever these soldiers discovered he’d done as well.

“They’ve already sent him to Eutaw for his trial, mom. The commander said it wouldn’t be safe to keep him here, and that even if he was found not guilty on one charge he couldn’t outrun them all.”  Once again Daphne wondered who or what MacArthur had found himself mixed up in. In all of the years she’d known him he’d always had a steady supply of food and new sheep for his herd. Their wool was a valuable trading commodity, but they were more fragile creatures than the sensible goats most families relied up on for cheese and milk.

“So what do you expect me to do?”

“Call a community meeting. If everyone gives a little the Eversons can muddle through just like the rest of us.”

“Son, I don’t have the authority to do that.” The Mingus court system survived because it so rarely treaded into the daily lives of the people who  agreed to follow what the ombudsmen decided. Their jurisdiction was limited to theft, property rights, and the occasional custody or inheritance suit, and while the culture generally erred on the side of generosity it had been years since it had been this sorely tested. Would enough families be willing to reduce their already inadequate food supplies to keep such a controversial family going?

“What would you say if I told you I kind of already called one for you?”

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Personas Aren’t People

The next chapter of After the Storm is taking a little longer to write than I had anticipated, but it will be posted tomorrow evening. Today I’m responding to a blog post about public personas.

My golden rule when looking at a celebrity is to ask myself whether or not I would like to be friends with them if I knew them in real life. I ask myself, “Would I be proud to call this person my friend if I knew them? Would I add their number to my contacts list?”

From Ellen Degeneres.

This was such a thought-provoking blog post, but I was struck by how differently the author and I think about celebrities.

One of the benefits of growing up a preacher’s kid is that I learned early on that personas aren’t people. The similarities between the expectations average people hold of pastors and of celebrities are actually quite interesting.

People in both professions are held to a higher standard than other families, and their spouses and kids are included in these inflated expectations. The problem with this is that perfection isn’t possible. Everyone makes mistakes eventually, so what families living in this fishbowl must learn to do is keep their public faces on even when they think no one is watching.

Personas can be influenced heavily by your real personality and identity, but at the end of the day your public face isn’t the real you.  By its very nature the range of emotions a persona shows is limited by what others expect of it.

I’m a fan of Ellen’s comedy routines and TV show, and I really appreciate the messages she teaches about kindness, tolerance, and playfulness. I share many of the values Ellen discusses on her show, and in no way am I insinuating anything about who she is when the camera stops rolling. There’s no way for me to know this information because I don’t know her personally.

But how well I think I’d get along with entertainers isn’t something that consciously affects what I watch or listen to. Public personas are simply another tool singers/actors/comedians use to draw in an audience, and I don’t expect famous people who are known for X to actually necessarily be X in their private lives.

Readers, do you form strong opinions about entertainers based on their public personas?

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2013 Survey Results

There have been some interesting changes in my readership over the past year.

Participant Information

In 2012, 80% of the respondents were from the U.S. This year that figure dropped to 70%, and the other 30% came from Canada. I’d still love to hear from people in other parts of the world, it just hasn’t happened yet. The U.K., Australia, and Latvia in particular send me quite a few hits.

50% of you were age 30-49, and the other half were 50-69. The survey respondents have always skewed in favour of these age groups, but  it would be quite funny to one day discover that most of my readers are actually, say, 90…or 18! 🙂

Once again, most of the respondents have been around since the beginning of this blog.

Your Responses

Your responses were overwhelmingly positive.

A small percentage of readers said they were very unlikely to recommend this blog to anyone. I wish I could ask them why. Are they like me in that they regularly read things with which they don’t necessarily agree in order to learn from other points of view? Are they keeping tabs on me for some reason? 😀

All joking aside, if any of you read this I’d love to interview you about your reading habits. It’s fascinating to (potentially) meet other people who have the same philosophy in life. Leave a message in the comments or use the contact form if you’re interested.

A lot of you are eager for me to release e-books. I know I’ve talked about doing so regularly for the past year, and I do have stories that are ready to go. What I really need is a beta reader to help me polish them up.

I can’t afford to pay for this service at the moment, but I’m happy to barter. (And I hope to pay once I start making money from my books.)

Do you need a beta reader for your work? Do you want to have your site added to Link Love? Would you like a personalized story? Do you need a guest blogger for your site? Let’s talk!

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Suggestion Saturday: August 3, 2013

Effective immediately the comment section on each post will shut down 10 days after the original publishing date.  You now have the ability to flag inappropriate messages, and I will be manually approving comments without verified email addresses.  It will always be ok to use a pseudonym here, but this blog will no longer publish anonymous comments. 

I am happy to unlock old posts upon request.

Ok, onto the fun stuff! 

Keeping Never Good Enough at Bay. I really appreciate this blogger’s transparency. It isn’t easy to admit these types of fears, although I definitely have had them.

Are the Events of“The Labyrinth” Meant to be Sarah Dreaming, or Are They Real? This is one of the most fascinating alternative explanations for a fantasy movie I’ve ever read. What we need is a blog or website dedicated to collecting and exploring this kind of imaginative work. As much as I enjoyed watching “The Labyrinth” as a kid, I liked thinking about the dark explanation for certain scenes even more.  This link is work safe, but the rest of the site may not be.

Being Human via sjhigbee. Several days ago someone asked me what makes people human. When I tweeted a link to my answer a fascinating discussion sprung up on Twitter, and this blog post was written in response to some of the points we made.

Soap-Stealing Squirrels Cause Residents to Demand Trees Are Cut Down. No, this isn’t satire as far as I can tell. I’m quite curious to figure out what the squirrels are doing with all of that soap, though. Would anyone like to write a haiku, flash fiction, or other short creative work about why squirrels need to be so clean?

Isla – a Programming Language for Children. I’m fascinated by the idea of teaching someone how to become a programmer by making it a game. As much as programming fascinates me it has always felt like a terribly complex activity.  This site makes it seem like something I could actually do.

I Never Dreamed via jdubqca. Listen to this poem after you read it. I liked it when I read it, but I loved hearing how the author interprets the pauses between each word. Sometimes how something is said matters more than the actual words that are used.

From Surviving a For-Profit School:

I spent my first few weeks back in this hole wondering what I’d gotten myself into. They had no work for me to do, because classes had just begun. Their classes, however, were only four weeks long, so it was just a short wait. In the meantime, I was meant to train. Training included a day-long employee orientation where I was driven around the strip malls on a golf cart by a man who said I had a lovely voice and should sing. He took us by the “library,” which was a room with four metal shelves mostly stacked with DVDs. He smiled at us and said, “Who needs all those books?” I wanted to tell him that I did, but kept my mouth shut.

From Celibacy at Twenty:

But every time I went
from months of hunger to those first kisses,
soon there were the last kisses, and I
felt I stood outside of life, held
back– but no one was holding me, I was
waiting….


If our species wants to avoid extinction we must Scatter, Adapt, and Remember.

So many books about the near future are grim. Climate change and dwindling natural resources are threatening the  longterm survival of the human race, but if we learn to live within our means and figure out how to build successful colonies on other planets our species has a chance to survive for a very long time.

I loved the optimism of this book. Some of the solutions it offers are far-fetched, but I hope that we will branch out into new territories and eventually evolve into a more peaceful race. Perhaps Star Trek is in our future!

What have you been reading?

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3 Years Old

Photo by David Vignoni.

Photo by David Vignoni.

Happy Blogiversary to On the Other Hand! I’m still sorting through your responses to the survey, but I will be sharing the results on Monday.  The next instalment of After the Storm will be published on Wednesday instead next week.

Once again, thank you all so much for reading my blog over the past year.

Top 10 Posts

The 10 most visited posts over the past year were:

10. R. Kelly and the Anti-Masturbation PSA. (September 2012)

9. Can You Trust Your First Impressions? (August 2012)

8. 5 Ways to Get Quiet People to Speak Up. (June 2012)

7. 5 Reasons Why You Should Stop Reading the News. (January 2011)

6. Are Most People Happy? (September 2012)

5. Why Is Violence More Acceptable Than Sex? (February 2011)

4. Has the Internet Destroyed Our Social Skills? (April 2011)

3. What the Quiet People Are Thinking. (December 2010)

2. 6 Reasons Why I Don’t Wear Makeup. (August 2010)

1. How to Forgive Without An Apology. (August 2011)

It’s fascinating to compare them to the lists I shared in 2012 and 2011. Some posts take on a life of their own and continue to receive attention years later!

Last year Sabio asked what search terms people use to find this blog. I condensed the topics down into a top 10 list, and it was interesting to see what it had in common with the most visited pages:

  • Is voting worth it?
  • On the Other Hand blog.
  • Recharge your energy
  • On-the-other-hand.com and christianity.
  • Internet and social skills.
  • Quiet people.
  • Stop reading the news.
  • Forgiving someone who doesn’t apologize.
  • I don’t wear makeup.
  • And #1 is….(not provided). Some search engines don’t allow Google analytics to share this information with bloggers. If only they would!

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So I’ve been having a serious spam problem with older posts. I’m thinking about closing comments on each post after a few weeks. Readers, what do you think about this solution? Bloggers, is there a better way to handle this problem?

What have been your favourite posts here over the past year?

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