I moved to a town I don’t like. What do I do?
Start planning now for how you will get away. This might involve furthering your education, applying for other jobs, or networking with friends who are willing to let you live with them temporarily.
In the meantime, look for what Anne Shirley called kindred spirits and Mr. Rogers called helpers. Sympathetic people are everywhere, and finding them makes unbearable situations easier.
Also remember that life isn’t short, it’s long. You have no idea where you’ll be in 5 years or what you’ll be doing. As overwhelming or never ending as it might feel now your current circumstances will eventually change.
I know this can be a hard thing to believe when you’re in the middle of a rough patch. At times I’ve seriously doubted it myself….but keep remembering that things can change in an instant.
The Internet is a good escape mechanism in the meantime. Just because you’re physically stuck in a town you don’t like doesn’t mean you have to emotionally dwell there as well.
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Coming from a generation where the wife always moved wherever her husband took a job, I’ve experienced that feeling more than once. I agree with the search for kindred spirits. The search for them has meant I have always been sad to leave the same places I was reluctant to move to. Good people are everywhere.