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I'm a sci-fi writer who loves lifting weights and hates eating Brussels sprouts.

Wild Card Wednesday: Holiday Advice

This list is (mostly) for folks who celebrate the upcoming holidays, and are fortunate enough to have people and resources to celebrate with; if you don’t fit that group, skip to the bottom. If you do fit, then even if your family are your favorite people and you look forward all year to the holidays, you still may find useful hints here.

A Bit of Holiday Advice.

I love this list.

Drew and I don’t exactly celebrate Christmas but last year and this one we made a point of having a quiet day at home on the 25th.

I cook whatever we both feel like eating and we watch movies or give my parents a call. It’s incredibly relaxing and we’ve ended up following a lot of the ideas on the above list even before Laurie and Debbie posted the list. Most of the suggestions are common sense but it’s nice to see other people coming to the same conclusions about what one “ought” to do this time of year.

I hope your holidays – whatever you celebrate – are just as wonderful as ours.

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Christmas Eve 2012 Search Engine Questions

Merry Christmas (Eve)! Traffic usually slows down dramatically here this time of year so I won’t be introducing any serious topics until after the new year. Instead I’ll share search engine terms that have lead new readers to On the Other Hand. Feel free to leave your own responses to them in the comment section.

Dogs don’t care about your politics.  Nope, probably not.

Why [don’t] anthropologists wear makeup? They’re too busy figuring out why you do.

My friend is stealing my personality. Step one: figure out what topics annoy, bewilder or bore your friend. Step two: develop a sudden interest in that area of life.  Ensure that every conversation drifts back to whatever it is your friend normally dislikes. Step three: sit back and watch his or her head explode.

Should you respect your elders when they are being mean? Yes, but sometimes the most respectful thing you can do is call someone out on their bad behaviour and/or spend less time with them until things improve. Age isn’t a free pass to do anything you’d like, and actions have consequences whether you’re 5 or 105.

Does a winter solstice mean more snow? I once read that we get twice as much snow during the years in which the winter solstice fails to arrive.*

When did you first grow up?  When I was four years old mom read a book to us about how babies are made. She was pregnant with Aaron at the time and Jesse and I had a lot of questions about her condition. One of the pictures in the book showed a man and woman gazing lovingly into each other’s eyes as they embraced. I remember thinking it looked like such a boring way to spend an afternoon and wondering why adults bothered with it.

I changed my mind about that eventually but it was my first glimpse into one of the many differences between childhood and adulthood.

Can I go see a movie alone on Thanksgiving afternoon? Yes. For the sake of the people working there I’d recommend renting a movie and watching it at home, though. Movie theater employees need holidays just as much as the rest of us.

 Do quiet people get married? Only when our dark lord demands it.*

What [should I] tell extended family when asked for gift ideas for child? Depending on their budget, the kid’s age and how close you live to one another I’d recommend stuff like:

  • A day or family pass to the zoo/aquarium/museum/theatre.
  • A tin full of homemade candy.
  • An offer to teach the child a new skill – baking, fishing, woodworking, underwater basket weaving, etc.
  • A recording of your favorite childhood memories. My grandfather did this for us once. It was the best gift he ever gave to his first three grandchildren.
  • One of those obnoxiously loud musical toy…but only if you offer to keep it at your house.

Should you forgive a player?  Readers, how would you answer this one?

*not intended to be a factual statement.

 

 

 

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Suggestion Saturday: December 22, 2012

Here is this week’s list of blog posts, photographs and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

The 45 Most Powerful Images of 2012. A worldwide 2012 digital photo album. Some pictures are inappropriate for younger or sensitive readers.

Average Life Satisfaction Score By Age. 50+ readers, how accurate is this chart in your experience?

Eyewire. So apparently this game helps to map neurons. Knowing more about where and how neurons are connected will give the neuroscientists who created it a better idea of how human neural systems work. Of course, if this was the opening scene in a horror movie we’d quickly discover that Eyewire turns its users into zombies or something so I can’t be held responsible if you wake up undead tomorrow. 😛

From 10 Things I Want My Daughter to Know Before She Turns 10:

 It is almost never about you. What I mean is that when people act in a way that hurts or makes you feel insecure, it is almost certainly about something happening inside of them, and not about you.

Atheist Census. Do any of these labels apply to you?

  • Atheist
  • Agnostic
  • Freethinker
  • Humanist
  • Rationalist
  • Secular
  • Non-religious
  • Other

If your answer is yes please fill out this census. At 5 questions it’s incredibly short and the results are tabulated almost instantly.  So far most of the respondents have been college or university-educated men under the age of 35 who live in the U.S., identify as Atheists and grew up in Christian homes.  It will be interesting to see the final results.

 

Is there a dark side to Mother Teresa’s work? In The Missionary Position Christopher Hitchens takes a closer look at the politics and ideology of a woman revered by millions. I don’t know enough about Hitchens or Mother Teresa to determine the validity of his claims but the book itself is well-written.

What have you been reading?

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Hobbits and the Nasty Business of Adventures

Last weekend Drew and I watched The Hobbit. I’ll try to review it without sharing spoilers but stop reading now if you don’t know the basic storyline.

The cinematography is breathtaking. Rivendell and The Shire in particular were amazing well done. I felt like I was standing next to the characters as they explored both areas. We didn’t pay extra to see it in 3D so I can’t contrast the two. Just know that the regular screening of it is still lush.

There are a few scenes in The Hobbit where Bilbo talks about how unsuited he is for this quest. He isn’t tall, strong and brave like his companions and his timidity and compassion definitely don’t fit the archetype of a traditional hero.

Someone whose life revolves around books, the food and the company of a few good friends isn’t the first person most of us would pick to take on a dragon. It’s easy to root for a shiny-armoured knight rolling out into battle. Even if few of us can identify with what feels like to swing a sword or walk in full body armour everyone knows knights stand a good chance of surviving fantasy battles.

Nobody expects the same thing from a  short, awkward guy who thinks adventures are too long, sweaty and dangerous. I grok this fellow and suspect he’s so beloved because far more people identify with hobbits than with the elves or dwarves. (Sorry, Thranduil!)

Yes, there were some changes made to the story as the original book does not include enough material to flesh out the plots of three movies. While I think everything could have been compressed into one or two movies I was mostly happy with how the new material was integrated with what I was expecting to see. Honestly, though, it’s better to go into The Hobbit without any intention to compare the movie to to the book. As far as I’m concerned they’re two different stories and deciding which one is better is like asking your parents which child they love the most.

The major concern I had with the new material is that some of it is so dark that The Hobbit is no longer appropriate for children. This movie truly earned its PG-13 rating and I would strongly recommend against ignoring this guideline. Even as an 11 or 12-year-old I would have had nightmares from certain battle scenes.

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What did you think of The Hobbit?

 

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Wild Card Wednesday: Zero

A short film about discrimination, bigotry…and love.

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How to Restore a Broken Relationship

On Thursday I’ll be blogging a review of the new Hobbit movie. In the meantime this search term lead new readers here recently. I’m not a psychiatrist or psychologist but I challenged myself to answer the question in exactly 50 words. What have I missed? 🙂

  • First you have to figure out what isn’t working about it.
  • The only person you can change is yourself.
  • Everyone involved must be committed to fixing it.
  • Not every relationship can or should be repaired.
  • Three words: Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. If nothing else check out a library book on it.

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Suggestion Saturday: December 15, 2012

Here is this week’s list of blog posts and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

Waiting. Trey Smith and his wife waited all day for their marriage to crumble. Click on the link to find out what happened next!

VozMe. Cold and flu season is upon us. Every time I come down with a respiratory infection I lose my voice for several days. Hopefully this doesn’t happen to my readers as well but if it does this website can speak for you while your body recovers.

From A History of Violence:

Whatever its causes, the decline of violence has profound implications. It is not a license for complacency: We enjoy the peace we find today because people in past generations were appalled by the violence in their time and worked to end it, and so we should work to end the appalling violence in our time.

The Assembly. This is quite the story. 20 years ago my mom explained AIDS to my brothers and me in such a matter-of-fact way that I barely remember the conversation. Someone we’re related to through marriage was (and is) living with this virus and she didn’t want us to be afraid. We never were.

Flexuality Test. An online sexual orientation test that’s a little more holistic than the  Kinsey Scale. I found it to be fairly accurate.

From Friendly Social Coercion is Still Coercion:

It’s nice to be wanted! It’s nice to be invited! Even an “Aw man, I was really looking forward to seeing you. Next time?” would not go awry. But it’s not nice to be badgered and coerced and then told that your explanations, if you offer them, are not good enough explanations and have your attendance (or non-attendance) treated as a referendum on the entire relationship and a reason to blame you for not caring enough.

 

How would you react if a deadly disease broke out in your community? Would you flee to safety or stay behind to nurse the sick and dying? Fever Season tells the true story of a yellow fever epidemic in Memphis, Tennessee in 1878. Much of what we know about this period comes from the diaries of courageous men and women who chose to stay in the city. Some of these individuals died as a result of their decision to stay. Somehow that made this book even more poignant.

And just in case this is my last Suggestion Saturday post ever:

If the world comes to an end, I want to be in Cincinnati. Everything comes there ten years later. – Mark Twain

I, for one, think this is a great idea. If things start to get apocolypse-y next week let’s all meet in Cincinnati. 😛

What have you been reading?

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How Fear Defines You

Fellow horror fans have probably heard of Decay already. For those of you who haven’t it’s an amateur zombie flick filmed at CERN, home of the Large Haldron Collider. In the story a few dozen researchers are exposed to the Higgs Boson particle with disastrous results.

Watch it for free here if you’re interested:

Longterm readers have probably figured out that I like being scared. Out of everything in the horror genre zombies frighten me the most because they’re not bound by the same rules that affect other mythical creatures.

The undead don’t need an invitation to enter your home. They’re not lethally allergic to sunlight, silver bullets, garlic, holy water, cutting down their trees or hearing a human say that we don’t believe in them.

And  a universe that includes them changes the way we treat one another. If general-you wants to survive a zombiepocalypse the wounded must be left behind. Even the shallowest bite or scratch is a death sentence in almost every story on this topic and as soon as the afflicted person dies every other member of the group is in terrible danger.

This is a silly example, of course, but as I was watching Decay I realized that abandoning someone who desperately needs help is gut-wrenching. How could anyone abandon a friend or coworker to certain death? Would I keep running in that situation or would I risk my own life to help someone who was going to die anyway?

I’d like to think I’d be a hero in that situation but I honestly don’t know.

What do you fear?

 

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Wild Card Wednesday: Guessing Game

I couldn’t resist the urge to blog at 12:12 on 12/12/12.

Can you guess what this is before the big reveal at the end of the video?

infime from Cut And Cook Studio on Vimeo.

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Confessions of an Accidental Thief

The other night Drew and I were cuddling before bed. Somehow the conversation drifted to the types of soda we drank growing up and the silly things we did when the adults weren’t looking. In the wink of an eye I was little again.

Laramie, 1991. For the past year my family has lived in a trailer park. My favourite things about the neighbourhood are the indoor pool and recreation centre. To an eight-year-old there’s nothing better than spending an afternoon swimming or playing foosball in the rec room. When I have spare change I occasionally use it to buy soda or candy at the vending machines.

One day while I’m waiting for a friend alone by the pop machines I decide to play with the buttons on it. It’s fun to imagine that each button makes a different noise (although they don’t) and in my head I hear the ghost of a tune.

And then an orange soda tumbles out of the machine. I stop playing with the buttons and furtively look around. I don’t have any money with me and was not expecting this to happen. How am I supposed to pay for little metal can that wasn’t meant to be released?

There are no grown-ups around to tell me what to do and I have no idea how to find the adults who service the machines. Finally I decide to drink the soda as penance. I dislike the flavour but somehow it seems worse to let it go to waste. I never play with the pop machines again and for years feel a tinge of guilt for “stealing.”

Toronto, 2012. Drew laughs as I finish my tale. He grew up with kids who also figured out how to get free stuff from vending machines but he’s never known anyone who felt bad about it.

It’s funny to think about how early our personalities are fixed. 20+ years later I remain cautious about these things and still worry about taking more than my fair share…even accidentally.

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Does anyone actually like orange soda? 😛

What childhood memory reminds you of a personality trait that you carried with you to adulthood?

 

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