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Wednesday Weekly Blogging Challenge: Favorite Memories From My Childhood

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A spool of film that’s been unraveled. These photos probably can’t be printed now!Age 4 or 5. It’s spring and my family is walking through Goll Woods, a nature preserve in Ohio. Some parts of the preserve have dirt paths carved through them, but it is otherwise pretty close to how it would look if humans weren’t around. There’s no gift shop or bathroom. Just a gravel parking lot and a few trails that loop around for walkers. “Stay on the trail” my father said. It would be so easy to step off of it to see the new flowers in the woods, but I listen to him. The woods are one of the prettiest things I’ve seen in my short life, all covered in flowers after a long winter.

Age 7. We live in Wyoming now, and it is summer. The mountains are so filled with snow that we generally can’t drive up there between mid-autumn and mid-spring, but our summer day trips up there are mild and beautiful. I’m standing next to a crystal-clear lake in this memory and looking at the Rocky Mountains looming above the water. There is still snow up in the mountains even this late into summer, but there is no more ice or snow on the lake. It has melted, although the water is so ice-cold you wouldn’t want to swim in it even in July or August. We have a picnic lunch by the lake, and the world feels peaceful and happy.

Age 11. We have just moved back to Ohio because my father had just been hired to be a pastor there. It was a decent-sized church for a rural place, about 200 people or so. I’m thrilled to live close to my maternal grandparents again and am running around their farm to see what has changed since our last visit. The wooden swing down by the creek is gone now, probably because either the wood or the rope was too rotten to be safely used anymore, but the barn cats are still prowling around, Grandma’s garden is growing nicely, and there are a lot of pretty flowers growing in the woods and out behind the barn where my grandfather doesn’t mow due to how many old pieces of farm equipment have been stored there. In this memory I keep running until I’ve inspected every bit of the farm that children are allowed to visit alone there.

So many of my happiest memories from childhood involve nature! How about all of you?

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Top Ten Tuesday: Things That Make Up My Perfect Day

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I love it when Top Ten Tuesday goes a little off topic and asks about our personal lives!

My perfect day would include:

White towels folded up and stacked together. Lit tea light candles and a rose beside them. This sets the scene for a nice massage! 1. A full-body massage from a professional masseuse.

2. Getting a haircut. I find them quite relaxing, especially if the stylist also massages my head a little.

3. Visiting a bookstore and being able to buy as many books as I’d like to without thinking about money.

4. A walk in the park, particularly at this time of the year when the leaves are changing colour.

5. Time to write and read.

6. A hour or two of solitude with nothing on my agenda. Fellow introverts know how nice this is!

7. Lunch and dinner with my spouse and a few good friends.

8. A new dairy-free treat to try that turns out to be a favourite.

9. 30-60 minutes of more vigorous exercise: kickboxing, weightlifting, or dancing, please!

10. Falling asleep to the sound of rain gently pattering against my window.

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Top Ten Tuesday: Books that Bring Me Happy Memories

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More than once I’ve blogged about classic novels that bring me happy memories, so this time around I’m going to focus on books I’ve read more recently.

Book cover for Phases by Brandy. Image on cover shows the singer Brandy wearing a fluffy blue shirt and looking head with a contemplative expression on her face.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

1.Phases by Brandy

One of my favourite things about her memoir were the explanations of the origins of some of her early hit songs like “Best Friend.” It reminded me of how excited I was to listen to her earlier albums as they were among the first pieces of secular music my parents allowed me to buy. (I was a preacher’s kid who was also homeschooled for several years, so most of the music I heard for the first dozen or so years of my life was Christian).

Book cover for First-Time Fostering: A Practical Guide for Supporting Kids in Foster Care by Laura the Foster Parent Partner. Image on cover is a child-like drawing of a yellow house with a red roof. It’s a little off-kilter but very cute.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

2.First-Time Fostering: A Practical Guide for Supporting Kids in Foster Care by Laura the Foster Parent Partner

While I’ve never been a foster or adoptive parent, I have multiple relatives who have done this over the years. Many of their foster kids were able to be successfully reunited with their birth families, but some foster kids ended up joining our extended family on a permanent basis. My definition of normal includes the joy of welcoming new kids into the family, whether it’s for a few months or forever. Of course it’s hard for a foster family to say goodbye, but I’m also incredibly proud of my relatives who gave all of those kids a safe place to stay for a while.

 

Book cover for The Clan of the Cave Bear by Jean M. Auel  by Jean M. Auel. Image on cover is a stylized drawing of large bushes that are partially obstructing the mouth of a medium-sized cave.

 

3. The Clan of the Cave Bear by Jean M. Auel  by Jean M. Auel

My interest in prehistory and Neanderthals started as a kid when a teacher did some lessons on those subjects, but this was the first full-length novel I read about them. It’s become a lifelong interest at this point, and I’m still waiting for someone to invent a Time Machine so I can go back and see how many of my theories about the past are true. I will always have a soft spot for Auel because of this.

 

Book cover for Beezus and Ramona by Beverly Cleary. Image on cover shows a little brunette white girl who is gleefully squeezing all of the toothpaste out of the tube as her horrified older sister looks on.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

4. Beezus and Ramona by Beverly Cleary

These were among the first chapter books I ever read that made me feel like the author really understood what it’s like to be a kid, especially when it comes to the weird stuff children sometimes do that makes sense to them but befuddles older kids and grownups.

I felt so seen and understood when I read the first few books in this series. (My school library didn’t have all of them, unfortunately, but I did get to finally finish this series as an adult a few years ago!)

 

 

 

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Wednesday Weekly Blogging Challenge: Something I Can’t Live Without and Why

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A black and white drawing of a pair of earbuds being taken out of their case. I’m once again wishing I could peek at everyone else’s answers before this post is published!

In the meantime, I’d say my noise-cancelling earbuds are something I can’t live without.

They make it possible for me to function better in society when I feel a migraine coming on in the prodrome phase of this disease (or in postdrome as I recover) and even fairly quiet noises can be painful for me to hear.

If not for them, I’d need to either spend far more time at home on those days or be absolutely miserable if a car horn was honked, a dog barked, or the subway car squealed while turning a corner.

With them, I can do a quick grocery store run, wash a last-minute load of laundry, or make it to appointments without being in too much pain before and after a migraine hits.

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Wednesday Weekly Blogging Challenge: One of My Pet Peeves

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Closeup photo of an ostrich’s annoyed little face as it stands outside by a forest. I’ll give you an illustration of one of my biggest pet peeves and then explain why it annoys me so much because it involves a few different behaviours that often come bundled together like the world’s worst “Buy One, Get One Free” sale.

(Yes, I am currently recovering from a cold in real life as well, but I am almost entirely better now. Also, how cute is that suspicious little ostrich?)

Worried Person (WP): “How are you doing?”

Me: “Good, how about you? How’s work?”

WP, slightly more worried: “But what about your cough?”

Me, still calm but bracing for the storm: “Oh, I still have it, but it’s improving. It was just a minor cold, after all. Let’s talk about something else instead. What’s new in your life?”

WP, visibly distressed: “This isn’t good. You need to take this fistful of vitamins, get a lot of rest, and see your doctor first thing tomorrow for antibiotics. I’m really worried about you.”

Me, annoyed: “I’m keeping an eye on it, thanks. Please stop or I’ll have to end this conversation. How is your dog doing?”

WP, panicking: “No! You could die if you don’t get this treated as soon as possible and I would never be able to forgive myself. This could be whooping cough, lung cancer, or tuberculosis. Maybe you have all of them! I can’t sleep until the ER doctor says you’re not dying.”

Me, exiting the coversation deeply irritated.

Why are these types of conversations my pet peeve?

1. Unsolicited advice 

This is particularly true if it’s common sense or something that shows up on the first page of your search engine of choice. It feels condescending and smothering to me, especially when it’s a pattern of behaviour or the person doing it has a history of ignoring basic boundaries.  If I want advice, I will ask for it. Answering a direct question means I’m trying to include someone in my life, not that I need them to tell me what to do.

2. Terrible advice

Yes, a cough can be a sign of a life-threatening illness on occasion, but it can also be a perfectly normal part of seasonal allergies or of recovering from any number of mild illnesses among other possibilities.

I’d much rather talk to a professional about a problem I have than to someone who assumes the worst of everything, has zero factual knowledge on the topic, and panics over everything.

3. Making everything about themselves

I believe in the Ring Theory where you provide comfort to a person currently experiencing a crisis or problem of some sort. Instead of expecting the patient or grieving person to comfort you, you seek emotional support from others who are even further removed from whatever is going on.

So if someone hears me cough and habitually tries to get me to soothe their emotions about my medical (or other) issues, they will no longer be receiving updates about anything in my life more personal than the weather report from that day forward until or unless I see concrete evidence that they’ve changed this behaviour.

4. Assuming the worst

Having a cough does not mean you automatically need to see a doctor, much less be hospitalized or eulogized. Most coughs can be treated easily and safely at home, especially if they’re improving over time and you don’t have any other worrisome symptoms or underlying health conditions that complicate the issue.

While I have sympathy for them, people who automatically leap to the worst possible outcome for every scenario exhaust me. If something bad happens, I deal with it. I do not have the emotional energy to run around in a frenzy assuming that terrible things are in my future, though, and it is wildly unhelpful to jump to Z and start all but planning my funeral when I’m still working on possibilities A, B, and C which are much more likely to be the truth and fix my problem.

5. Ignoring multiple conversational cues to change the topic. 

You’ll notice that I gave this hypothetical person multiple chances to talk about literally anything else before I became too annoyed with them to continue. I don’t expect perfection from anyone, including myself, but people who purposefully bulldoze their way through social interactions are rapidly given far less time and energy from me.

Now you know about the sort of stuff that makes me grumpy. I look forward to seeing how everyone else answers this question!

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Wednesday Weekly Blogging Challenge: My Life in Photos or GIFs

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Several of my loved ones, including my spouse, don’t like having their photos shared on the Internet. Their absence in their post is a sign of my respect for their wishes and nothing more. 😊

 

A middle-aged white woman with shoulder-light, wavy and loosely curly brown hair is standing beneath a tree filled with pink blossoms on it. She has a hand on her hip and is smiling gently in the shade.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I love spending time in nature. This was taken at one of my favourite parks here in Toronto  back in May.

 

 

A yellow #2 pencil and a crumpled up piece of paper lying on an open spiral notebook.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Obviously, you all already know I spend a lot of time writing all sorts of things.

 

The same middle-aged white woman now standing in front of a pair of rainbow angel wings at a display at Pride.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We love Pride festivities  (assuming no migraines that weekend, of course). It’s such a happy and welcoming place. This was taken at the end of June during a rare quiet moment in the section of Pride where all of the booths and street food are located.

No, this didn’t happen on the same day as the park visit. Purple is my favourite colour, so I wear that shirt a lot.

 

Rows of free weights neatly lined up on a rack.

 

 

 

 

 

 

I gained some weight over the past few years while dealing with a few painful health conditions, one of which is now hopefully resolved for good.  While I still have weight to lose, I’m proud of what I’ve accomplished since last autumn when I started focusing on my health more. (My body can easily develop another migraine as a result of exercise, dehydration from perspiring more than usual, or how much I eat, so it’s a delicate balance between sticking to healthier habits and not triggering bonus migraines. Aren’t bodies fun? Ha!).

My favourite types of exercise include kickboxing, weightlifting, dancing, yoga, and walking. Swimming and cycling are great, too, although I haven’t done either in a long time.

 

A photo of myself and my mom sitting in comically oversized chairs in a park in Windsor. The chairs were made of metal. There are several large trees in the distance, and we are partially covered by shade.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Whimsical thngs often attract my attention. Here’s a photo of me and my mom sitting in two comically large chairs in a park in Windsor, Ontario. We met up there in June and had a wonderful long weekend together.

And, look, I didn’t wear the same purple shirt that day. I did still wear purple, though. Ha!

 

Screenshot from Duolingo showing that I’ve finished the first seven sections of the Spanish language and am about a third of the way through the eighth and final one.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Finally, look how close I am to being finished with Spanish on Duolingo! There are eight sections of learning for this language, each of which is divided again into many subsections of lessons. I think I’ll finish it this year at this rate.

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Wednesday Weekly Blogging Challenge: Websites I Wish Still Existed

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Several friends walking down the beach together on a foggy day. This shot was taken from far away and behind, so no facial features can be discerned. The Ooze was a Christian message board created by Spencer Burke that existed about 20 years ago when the Internet was quite different from how it is today. It was a gathering place for all sorts of people who were trying to come up with better ways to live out their faith. I met some incredible people there, including my spouse!

Even though I was a Christian back then, I generally avoided the theological discussions that took place there. I was much more interested in finding practical ways to quietly live out my beliefs as someone who had virtually no extra money to spare but who still wanted to help others in whatever ways I could.

While I am very far removed from that world now, I’d love to have a reunion with many of the genuine folks I met there. They were good people.

See also: message boards in general. I wish they would become popular again as I miss the depth of conversation that could be found in them about all sorts of niche topics. It was almost like taking a college course on those subjects.

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Wednesday Weekly Blogging Challenge: Have You Ever Attended Your High School Reunion? Why?

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Black and white photo of an empty hallway filled with sunlight in a school.

For illustrative purposes only. This wasn’t my school.

No, I’ve never attended any of my high school reunions and I never will.

Let me explain.

I was homeschooled from preschool through grade 3 and had excellent experiences with that for the most part.

In grades 4 and 5, I attended a wonderfully friendly little school in the western portion of the United States. Had I stayed there, maybe things would have turned out differently.

The summer before I began grade 6, we moved cross-country to a rural part of the midwest because a church there hired my dad as their new pastor. Most of my classmates had been together since kindergarten, if not much earlier in life, and at best the majority of them were not at all interested in welcoming new kids into the fold.

I was bullied for years, mostly emotionally although there were a few minor physical altercations as well. In retrospect, these experiences caused severe depression and social anxiety. Yes, I made a few friends along the way, but no one I kept up with after graduation.

One thing that kept me going was the thought that someday I would never again be legally required to interact with any of the people who made my life miserable for so many years.

My final year of high school only included two classes on campus which was a massive relief. The rest of the time, I was joyfully taking courses at a local college for free thanks for a dual enrolment program my school offered.

I was confused by classmates who grieved the end of high school.  Their experiences were nothing at all like mine.

For me, those years are something I will revisit in the rare blog post but that is all.

I forgive those classmates and genuinely hope they’ve become kind and accepting adults, but I never developed the deep emotional connection to that chapter of my life that I’d need in order to be willing to travel internationally and spend a substantial sum of money just to attend a class reunion. The window of opportunity for that closed many years ago. No thank you.

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Wednesday Weekly Blogging Challenge: A Story About My Best Teacher

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Empty rows of desks in a high school classroom. Linda Fetter was my best teacher. She’s almost certainly retired or maybe not even alive anymore based on her age when I first met her and how many years it has been since I graduated high school, therefore I think it’s okay to mention her by name here. I have never seen anything about her online, so I doubt she’ll ever know about this post even if she is still with us.

The first class I took with her was ninth grade Language Arts, and I loved how clearly she explained the grammar lessons she taught to us. She knew just how to use the right metaphors when we weren’t quite getting it.

Our class was the first period of the  day. If we acted too sleepy, she’d have us stand up and do a few jumping jacks to get our blood pumping which I always found amusing.

Later on I took a mandatory speech course as well as two elective courses with her that involved nothing but reading from a pre-selected list of classic novels. The latter were a nice break from the classes I took that had heavy homework loads as all she required of us was that we spend a few minutes reading every night after school. It was so much easier than conjugating irregular Spanish verbs or trying to figure out quadratic equations.

She also added little flourishes to her lessons that I will never forget. For example, she’d play classical music and give us peppermints to suck on during exams because she’d read studies that showed those things improved test scores. (Whether they are still thought to be helpful, I don’t know. She paid attention to the latest academic research of the time, though.)

Sometimes we’d go outside for class at the end of the year when the weather was really nice. That was always a refreshing break from the stuffy classrooms as our school didn’t have air conditioning and it could get rather hot and humid by the beginning of June.

I loved the care and concern she showed for her students and wished she could have taught Language Arts for grades 10, 11, and 12 as well.

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27 – Wednesday Weekly Blogging Challenge: Animals I Wish I Could Have As Pets

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Are we picking real or mythological animals this week, friends? I wish some of you could jump into a Time Machine to tell past me which option is going to be more popular this week.

Two rabbits exploring a hay-filled enclosure. Both rabbits are white with brown ears and a few brown spots on their soft fur. One is standing up on his or her back legs to look around while the other is looking ahead at the viewer. Since you can’t do that, I’m going to give two answers.

As far as real animals go, rabbits would be my first pick if I wasn’t allergic to them and their hay.

They are quiet and usually pretty small creatures that don’t need to be taken outside for walks like a dog does.

This means that when I’m having a migraine or other health troubles, I could still rest at home and not have to go out into the bright, noisy world.

A pet rabbit would be no bother at all on those days.

I also think they’re absolutely adorable little mammals and would love watching them hop around and play or perhaps take a peaceful nap depending on the time of day.

If we’re strictly speaking of magical friends here, I think Brownies would be a nice household companion. I would happily give them food,respect, and a peaceful home and would appreciate whatever small repairs or improvements they decided to make to my home in exchange.

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