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Wednesday Weekly Blogging Challenge: Something I Can’t Live Without and Why

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A black and white drawing of a pair of earbuds being taken out of their case. I’m once again wishing I could peek at everyone else’s answers before this post is published!

In the meantime, I’d say my noise-cancelling earbuds are something I can’t live without.

They make it possible for me to function better in society when I feel a migraine coming on in the prodrome phase of this disease (or in postdrome as I recover) and even fairly quiet noises can be painful for me to hear.

If not for them, I’d need to either spend far more time at home on those days or be absolutely miserable if a car horn was honked, a dog barked, or the subway car squealed while turning a corner.

With them, I can do a quick grocery store run, wash a last-minute load of laundry, or make it to appointments without being in too much pain before and after a migraine hits.

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Wednesday Weekly Blogging Challenge: One of My Pet Peeves

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Closeup photo of an ostrich’s annoyed little face as it stands outside by a forest. I’ll give you an illustration of one of my biggest pet peeves and then explain why it annoys me so much because it involves a few different behaviours that often come bundled together like the world’s worst “Buy One, Get One Free” sale.

(Yes, I am currently recovering from a cold in real life as well, but I am almost entirely better now. Also, how cute is that suspicious little ostrich?)

Worried Person (WP): “How are you doing?”

Me: “Good, how about you? How’s work?”

WP, slightly more worried: “But what about your cough?”

Me, still calm but bracing for the storm: “Oh, I still have it, but it’s improving. It was just a minor cold, after all. Let’s talk about something else instead. What’s new in your life?”

WP, visibly distressed: “This isn’t good. You need to take this fistful of vitamins, get a lot of rest, and see your doctor first thing tomorrow for antibiotics. I’m really worried about you.”

Me, annoyed: “I’m keeping an eye on it, thanks. Please stop or I’ll have to end this conversation. How is your dog doing?”

WP, panicking: “No! You could die if you don’t get this treated as soon as possible and I would never be able to forgive myself. This could be whooping cough, lung cancer, or tuberculosis. Maybe you have all of them! I can’t sleep until the ER doctor says you’re not dying.”

Me, exiting the coversation deeply irritated.

Why are these types of conversations my pet peeve?

1. Unsolicited advice 

This is particularly true if it’s common sense or something that shows up on the first page of your search engine of choice. It feels condescending and smothering to me, especially when it’s a pattern of behaviour or the person doing it has a history of ignoring basic boundaries.  If I want advice, I will ask for it. Answering a direct question means I’m trying to include someone in my life, not that I need them to tell me what to do.

2. Terrible advice

Yes, a cough can be a sign of a life-threatening illness on occasion, but it can also be a perfectly normal part of seasonal allergies or of recovering from any number of mild illnesses among other possibilities.

I’d much rather talk to a professional about a problem I have than to someone who assumes the worst of everything, has zero factual knowledge on the topic, and panics over everything.

3. Making everything about themselves

I believe in the Ring Theory where you provide comfort to a person currently experiencing a crisis or problem of some sort. Instead of expecting the patient or grieving person to comfort you, you seek emotional support from others who are even further removed from whatever is going on.

So if someone hears me cough and habitually tries to get me to soothe their emotions about my medical (or other) issues, they will no longer be receiving updates about anything in my life more personal than the weather report from that day forward until or unless I see concrete evidence that they’ve changed this behaviour.

4. Assuming the worst

Having a cough does not mean you automatically need to see a doctor, much less be hospitalized or eulogized. Most coughs can be treated easily and safely at home, especially if they’re improving over time and you don’t have any other worrisome symptoms or underlying health conditions that complicate the issue.

While I have sympathy for them, people who automatically leap to the worst possible outcome for every scenario exhaust me. If something bad happens, I deal with it. I do not have the emotional energy to run around in a frenzy assuming that terrible things are in my future, though, and it is wildly unhelpful to jump to Z and start all but planning my funeral when I’m still working on possibilities A, B, and C which are much more likely to be the truth and fix my problem.

5. Ignoring multiple conversational cues to change the topic. 

You’ll notice that I gave this hypothetical person multiple chances to talk about literally anything else before I became too annoyed with them to continue. I don’t expect perfection from anyone, including myself, but people who purposefully bulldoze their way through social interactions are rapidly given far less time and energy from me.

Now you know about the sort of stuff that makes me grumpy. I look forward to seeing how everyone else answers this question!

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Wednesday Weekly Blogging Challenge: My Life in Photos or GIFs

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Several of my loved ones, including my spouse, don’t like having their photos shared on the Internet. Their absence in their post is a sign of my respect for their wishes and nothing more. 😊

 

A middle-aged white woman with shoulder-light, wavy and loosely curly brown hair is standing beneath a tree filled with pink blossoms on it. She has a hand on her hip and is smiling gently in the shade.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I love spending time in nature. This was taken at one of my favourite parks here in Toronto  back in May.

 

 

A yellow #2 pencil and a crumpled up piece of paper lying on an open spiral notebook.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Obviously, you all already know I spend a lot of time writing all sorts of things.

 

The same middle-aged white woman now standing in front of a pair of rainbow angel wings at a display at Pride.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We love Pride festivities  (assuming no migraines that weekend, of course). It’s such a happy and welcoming place. This was taken at the end of June during a rare quiet moment in the section of Pride where all of the booths and street food are located.

No, this didn’t happen on the same day as the park visit. Purple is my favourite colour, so I wear that shirt a lot.

 

Rows of free weights neatly lined up on a rack.

 

 

 

 

 

 

I gained some weight over the past few years while dealing with a few painful health conditions, one of which is now hopefully resolved for good.  While I still have weight to lose, I’m proud of what I’ve accomplished since last autumn when I started focusing on my health more. (My body can easily develop another migraine as a result of exercise, dehydration from perspiring more than usual, or how much I eat, so it’s a delicate balance between sticking to healthier habits and not triggering bonus migraines. Aren’t bodies fun? Ha!).

My favourite types of exercise include kickboxing, weightlifting, dancing, yoga, and walking. Swimming and cycling are great, too, although I haven’t done either in a long time.

 

A photo of myself and my mom sitting in comically oversized chairs in a park in Windsor. The chairs were made of metal. There are several large trees in the distance, and we are partially covered by shade.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Whimsical thngs often attract my attention. Here’s a photo of me and my mom sitting in two comically large chairs in a park in Windsor, Ontario. We met up there in June and had a wonderful long weekend together.

And, look, I didn’t wear the same purple shirt that day. I did still wear purple, though. Ha!

 

Screenshot from Duolingo showing that I’ve finished the first seven sections of the Spanish language and am about a third of the way through the eighth and final one.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Finally, look how close I am to being finished with Spanish on Duolingo! There are eight sections of learning for this language, each of which is divided again into many subsections of lessons. I think I’ll finish it this year at this rate.

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Wednesday Weekly Blogging Challenge: A Typical Day in My Life

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A white person wearing a light orange, long-sleeved shirt is typing on a laptop while sitting on a couch. This is what a typical day in my life looks like not counting the usual stuff like making breakfast or checking the mail:

15-20 minutes of studying Spanish in the morning either on Duolingo or by consuming Spanish media (music, tv shows, films, etc).

A 30 minute morning workout. It will most often be kickboxing, weightlifting, or a maybe a walk if I’m not feeling great. Occasionally, yoga or dancing might replace one of these activities. Evening workouts can interfere with my sleep schedule, so mornings it is.

Writing. I try to get in a few hours of writing a day on average. Due to my migraines, this means that some days are more like seven or eight hours of writing while others include very little of it.

Volunteering. This, too, varies by day. It’s done virtually and could be as short as five minutes or as long as a few hours. So much relies on how long a to-do list is and how much time I have to check things off from it!

Chores. This is maybe 30 minutes to three hours a day, depending on whether or not the laundry basket is full and how many loads of laundry I might need to do. Chores always include washing multiple rounds of dishes since we don’t own a dishwasher and have a tiny drying rack. It might also include going grocery shopping, mailing a birthday card to a relative, picking up a prescription or other necessary goods at the pharmacy, calling the doctor or dentist, cleaning the bathroom, dusting, sweeping, etc. You know, the typical stuff adults do to keep things running smoothly that kids don’t think about when they wish they, too, were grownups.

A short lunchtime walk, if possible. It’s good to stretch my legs after a morning of (mostly) sitting.

A focused afternoon. Anything I didn’t finish in the morning is something I try to return to and wrap up ibefore dinner.

15-20 minutes of studying Spanish in the evening. It’s a nice way to wind down, and I’m getting a much stronger grasp of that language with all of the time I’ve invested into it.

Batch cooking. About twice a week I’ll make something that keeps well like spaghetti, tacos, shepherd’s pie, or a stir-fry that I can eat for lunch or for dinner over the next 2-3 days.

Maybe an evening walk? Sometimes this happens, and sometimes it doesn’t depending on the weather and how I’m feeling.

 

Migraines are the main thing that interrupts this schedule. Screen time is a known trigger for many people’s migraines, and my medical professionals have told me to really keep an eye on it and limit screen time when I can for that reason.  It’s hard for me to focus when I’m having one anyways, so those days are meant for lying still in a room that is as dark and quiet as possible.

So if my body is anywhere in the migraine cycle, I put off everything I possibly can for a couple of days and get as much rest as I can. I’m quite fortunate to have the ability to do this, and it’s one reason why I push myself to get so much done on the good days.

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Wednesday Weekly Blogging Challenge: Something I Could Give a Speech About With No Notice

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Drawing of a person holding their head in pain. You can see their brain and a red stream of light filling their brain and oozing down their spinal column. This light is meant to represent the pain and other symptoms associated with migraines. I’ve talked about living with a food allergy previously on my blog, so the topic I’m picking for this week’s prompt is migraines.

Migraines are a painful neurological disease that can do everything from make you temporarily go blind to mimic some of the signs of a stroke if you have symptoms like trouble speaking or numbness or weakness on one side of the body.

(Not everyone has the most severe forms of this disease or these symptoms, of course, but anyone who has migraines or knows someone who does should be aware of all of the possibilities).

I’d talk about all sorts of things in my speech:

  • When to go to the emergency room for an attack
  • How to tell the difference between a migraine (which isn’t generally dangerous unless you’re throwing up too much and get very dehydrated) and a medical emergency like a stroke or brain tumour
  • Home treatments to help avoid an ER or Urgent Care Centre visit when possible
  • Vitamin and mineral supplements that may reduce how common and how severe your migraines are
  • Which supplements don’t currently have scientific data supporting their use for this diagnosis
  • The neurological link between migraines, strokes, epilepsy, and seizures and why more people should be aware of it
  • How to help someone you love who is having a migraine
  • How to help an acquaintance or stranger who is experiencing a migraine in a public place
  • Food and drinks that are triggers for some people
  • Food and drinks that may reduce symptoms
  • How to respond to well-meaning people who think migraines are a fancy term for tension headaches
  • How to have patience with less amenable people who don’t understand invisible illnesses and think you’re being dramatic
  • Other triggers, both common and uncommon
  • Why getting enough sleep and eating meals on a regular schedule is vital for us
  • Your chances of passing this disease onto your kids if one or both parents have migraines
  • How to complete necessary life tasks when you feel another attack coming on
  • Why resting during the postdrome phase (right after the migraine ends)  is so important
  • The latest research on what causes this disease and possible new treatments for it

And so much more.

(I feel like someone else in the WWBC community has migraines, too? Was that you, George? If so, I’d invite you on stage to talk, too).

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Top Ten Tuesday: Things That Keep Me From Reading

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Thank you to Cristyn @ Draconic Breath for coming up with this topic in 2024. You gave me the inspiration I needed to write this week’s freebie post!

A pair of black-rimmed glasses lying on an opened book. 1. Migraines

There are at least a few other TTT bloggers who already know what this illness is like. For everyone else, Reading is difficult when I’m in the migraine cycle due to symptoms like brain fog, nausea, and pain. Staring at a screen can also trigger migraines or make them worse, so I do try to limit screen time on those days.

2. Doomscrolling 

It’s so tempting but such a time waster as well!

3. Repetitive Storylines

I love speculative fiction, but I also find myself growing bored with some of the common plot lines in this genre because of how often they seem to be repeated. This is one of the reasons why you’ll find other genres mentioned in my Top Ten Tuesday posts. Switching things up keeps me interested in reading.

4. Medical Appointments

There have been a lot of them in my household this past year or so, and they can certainly cut into the time one has for more pleasurable things like reading.

5. Nice Weather 

I know I’ve mentioned this a few times before on my blog, but when Ontario has nice weather, often in the spring and autumn, I feel compelled to go outside and enjoy it instead of read. There will be plenty of other days in the year when it’s too hot, cold, icy, stormy, or humid to enjoy a walk in the park or a visit to the beach.

6. Overwhelming Choices

There are so many amazing books out there that I don’t always know which one to read next! This is not a problem I ever had growing up as ebooks didn’t exist back then and my parents weren’t always able to take us to the library. I feel fortunate to have it now even if decision fatigue does sometimes make it hard to decide what to read next.

7. Social Media in General  

I have been trying to be more mindful of my use of it in 2026, but it can be quite easy to spend an hour watching short videos or reading stranger’s comments online instead of picking up one of the books I’ve been meaning to read.

8. Writing

Striking a balance between writing and reading isn’t always easy.

9. Meeting Other Goals

Whether it’s related to work, exercise, or spending time with other people, I do have limits on how much energy I have for reading!

10. Chores 

The dishes won’t wash themselves, after all.

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Wednesday Weekly Blogging Challenge: A Few Happy Memories From My Life

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Here are a few of my happy memories.

Age 4. My mother was heavily pregnant with her third child. Me and my toddler-aged brother sat on the couch next to her, gently touched her belly, and talked to the baby that would soon be joining us.

Age 8. Our family lived in a trailer home next to a highway that was built on a big hill behind our home. We were very low income, and I know my parents worried about how that would affect their kids. The biggest thing on my mind then was how often I’d get to go sledding down that hill. We had some lightweight plastic sleds that glided down that hill perfectly. It was my favourite thing in the entire world other than reading, and I did not care that my parents couldn’t afford to buy us fancy new toys or name-brand clothes.

Wooden library shelves filled with books. Age 18. Exams were wrapping up, and winter break was just about to begin. I sat in my college library and thumbed through the magazines they had there, paying special attention to the ones about science, literature, or history. It was neither a big library nor a fancy one, but I loved how quiet and peaceful it always was. I spent a lot of time there between classes even if I didn’t have any papers to write or upcoming tests to study for.

Adult. Recently married and living in Canada now. We couldn’t afford to travel on our honeymoon, so we explored a lot of free or low-cost stuff to do here in Toronto instead. I was amazed at how large, clean, and beautiful High Park was. Out of all of the parks in the world, it’s still my favourite one.

Adult. My first book was published, a collection of short stories. (There’s a link to it at the top of this site). I really should try to get more of my work published sometime. Writer’s block is terrible.

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Wednesday Weekly Blogging Challenge: My Unusual Hobbies/Interests

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Closeup shot of four stacks of various amounts of pennies on a wooden floor. I’ve been looking forward to this topic for months! Let’s see if our ideas of unusual hobbies and interests match up.

I’ve already told you all about my pet earthworms that horrified my mother, so let’s dig up some other interesting memories.

When I was a kid, I sometimes played with coins.

I liked stacking them up on each other as tall as I could, or making groups of them in various sizes and pretending they were little families, or of playing a miniature version of curling with them where one penny would be pushed quickly on our laminate or wood floor to see how many stacks I could topple.

It provided hours of free entertainment.

 

The Black Death was another interest of mine for years. We must have had a lesson about it in school that talked about how high the death rates were, but I had trouble wrapping my mind around how many people died during those waves of disease and read many books about the subject as a kid and teen.

 

I had another phase after my grandmother’s death where I asked my mother countless questions about what heaven would be like since the Bible wasn’t vivid enough on the topic for my tastes. When she didn’t know, she eventually bought me a book from the Christian bookstore on the topic which I quietly refused to read because I didn’t know or trust the author. Was I expecting God to come down and answer my questions personally? 😂 I don’t know, and I did appreciate the effort, but I didn’t want conjecture. I wanted proof.

 

Slipping out of church to explore was another hobby of mine because preacher’s kids spend a lot of time in such places. If it’s not our home church, it will probably be a church pastored by someone we know.  There was one church we occasionally visited that was massive and had dozens of rooms to explore.A few rooms were filled with books, religious of course.  One time I wandered up to what I think was the attic and found a door with a piece of paper on it that said something like “Protected by Angels.” I did not open that door and still have no idea what was on the other side.

 

So those are or were some of my unusual hobbies. How about all of you?

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Wednesday Weekly Blogging Challenge: What Were You Like as a Child?

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When I was a child, I was:

Quiet and shy. I still am!

Well-behaved. My friend Mei-Ling’s mother once asked her why she couldn’t be more like me. This embarrassed me as I didn’t think people should be compared like that.

Studious. I made the honour roll every semester, although I did get C grades in Spanish, Math, or Science sometimes. History the arts, and English were easier subjects for me.

Bookish. I read constantly and insatiably on every subject matter I could find.

Anxious. When I was about 8, I took a break from reading only to realize I couldn’t find my parents or siblings anywhere. We lived in a cozy trailer home at the time, and so I should have been able to find someone within a minute or two. Given that I was a preacher’s kid, my first assumption was that everyone else had been raptured but that I wasn’t devout enough to be chosen, too. I panicked and ran crying to a neighbour for help, but I was crying too hard for her to understand me. Eventually, my mother returned from running an errand, possibly paying the rent, and I realized that God hadn’t actually come back yet after all.

A drawing of a broken cloud that has been repaired with a needle and thread. You can still see the stitches in the cloud and the threaded needle beneath it. Imaginative. I was always imagining something in my mind no matter what else I was doing. Sometimes I talked to myself quietly about the beautiful stories that were going on in my mind.

Inclusive. Classmates who were left out of other groups could always hang out with me. Sometimes I was bullied for spending time with the kids that others thought were too weird or awkward to associate with. I say this not to toot my own horn or anything, just to give you a picture of what i was like on the playground.

Messy. My tidy parents somehow created a child who was not. I never left food or anything like that in my bedroom, but there were books everywhere and it could get dusty as well.

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Top Ten Tuesday: Books About Seasonal Affective Disorder


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A person’s hand holding up a very bright lightbulb that does not appear to be attached to any power source! Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is a type of depression that happens during the same season of the year every year. The winter blues are a milder condition similar to this one that has some of the same symptoms and many of the same treatment options, although some people also use that term colloquially to refer to SAD.

As someone who has SAD and struggles with winter because of it, I thought I’d use this week’s freebie post to share some books about it. Both fiction and nonfiction titles are included. I haven’t read most of them yet, but I’d like to!

1. The Girl and the Grove by Eric Smith

2. Super Chill: A Year of Living Anxiously by Adam Ellis

3. Light Boxes by Shane Jones

4. Stay and Fight by Madeline Ffitch

5. Winter Blues: Everything You Need to Know to Beat Seasonal Affective Disorder by Norman E. Rosenthal

6. Defeating SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder): A Guide to Health and Happiness Through All Seasons by Norman E. Rosenthal

 

If you have a medical condition or conditions, which books about it or them are you aware of? Would you recommend reading those books to people who want to learn more?

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