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Wednesday Weekly Blogging Challenge: Websites I Wish Still Existed

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Several friends walking down the beach together on a foggy day. This shot was taken from far away and behind, so no facial features can be discerned. The Ooze was a Christian message board created by Spencer Burke that existed about 20 years ago when the Internet was quite different from how it is today. It was a gathering place for all sorts of people who were trying to come up with better ways to live out their faith. I met some incredible people there, including my spouse!

Even though I was a Christian back then, I generally avoided the theological discussions that took place there. I was much more interested in finding practical ways to quietly live out my beliefs as someone who had virtually no extra money to spare but who still wanted to help others in whatever ways I could.

While I am very far removed from that world now, I’d love to have a reunion with many of the genuine folks I met there. They were good people.

See also: message boards in general. I wish they would become popular again as I miss the depth of conversation that could be found in them about all sorts of niche topics. It was almost like taking a college course on those subjects.

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Wednesday Weekly Blogging Challenge: Have You Ever Attended Your High School Reunion? Why?

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Black and white photo of an empty hallway filled with sunlight in a school.

For illustrative purposes only. This wasn’t my school.

No, I’ve never attended any of my high school reunions and I never will.

Let me explain.

I was homeschooled from preschool through grade 3 and had excellent experiences with that for the most part.

In grades 4 and 5, I attended a wonderfully friendly little school in the western portion of the United States. Had I stayed there, maybe things would have turned out differently.

The summer before I began grade 6, we moved cross-country to a rural part of the midwest because a church there hired my dad as their new pastor. Most of my classmates had been together since kindergarten, if not much earlier in life, and at best the majority of them were not at all interested in welcoming new kids into the fold.

I was bullied for years, mostly emotionally although there were a few minor physical altercations as well. In retrospect, these experiences caused severe depression and social anxiety. Yes, I made a few friends along the way, but no one I kept up with after graduation.

One thing that kept me going was the thought that someday I would never again be legally required to interact with any of the people who made my life miserable for so many years.

My final year of high school only included two classes on campus which was a massive relief. The rest of the time, I was joyfully taking courses at a local college for free thanks for a dual enrolment program my school offered.

I was confused by classmates who grieved the end of high school.  Their experiences were nothing at all like mine.

For me, those years are something I will revisit in the rare blog post but that is all.

I forgive those classmates and genuinely hope they’ve become kind and accepting adults, but I never developed the deep emotional connection to that chapter of my life that I’d need in order to be willing to travel internationally and spend a substantial sum of money just to attend a class reunion. The window of opportunity for that closed many years ago. No thank you.

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Wednesday Weekly Blogging Challenge: A Story About My Best Teacher

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Empty rows of desks in a high school classroom. Linda Fetter was my best teacher. She’s almost certainly retired or maybe not even alive anymore based on her age when I first met her and how many years it has been since I graduated high school, therefore I think it’s okay to mention her by name here. I have never seen anything about her online, so I doubt she’ll ever know about this post even if she is still with us.

The first class I took with her was ninth grade Language Arts, and I loved how clearly she explained the grammar lessons she taught to us. She knew just how to use the right metaphors when we weren’t quite getting it.

Our class was the first period of the  day. If we acted too sleepy, she’d have us stand up and do a few jumping jacks to get our blood pumping which I always found amusing.

Later on I took a mandatory speech course as well as two elective courses with her that involved nothing but reading from a pre-selected list of classic novels. The latter were a nice break from the classes I took that had heavy homework loads as all she required of us was that we spend a few minutes reading every night after school. It was so much easier than conjugating irregular Spanish verbs or trying to figure out quadratic equations.

She also added little flourishes to her lessons that I will never forget. For example, she’d play classical music and give us peppermints to suck on during exams because she’d read studies that showed those things improved test scores. (Whether they are still thought to be helpful, I don’t know. She paid attention to the latest academic research of the time, though.)

Sometimes we’d go outside for class at the end of the year when the weather was really nice. That was always a refreshing break from the stuffy classrooms as our school didn’t have air conditioning and it could get rather hot and humid by the beginning of June.

I loved the care and concern she showed for her students and wished she could have taught Language Arts for grades 10, 11, and 12 as well.

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27 – Wednesday Weekly Blogging Challenge: Animals I Wish I Could Have As Pets

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Are we picking real or mythological animals this week, friends? I wish some of you could jump into a Time Machine to tell past me which option is going to be more popular this week.

Two rabbits exploring a hay-filled enclosure. Both rabbits are white with brown ears and a few brown spots on their soft fur. One is standing up on his or her back legs to look around while the other is looking ahead at the viewer. Since you can’t do that, I’m going to give two answers.

As far as real animals go, rabbits would be my first pick if I wasn’t allergic to them and their hay.

They are quiet and usually pretty small creatures that don’t need to be taken outside for walks like a dog does.

This means that when I’m having a migraine or other health troubles, I could still rest at home and not have to go out into the bright, noisy world.

A pet rabbit would be no bother at all on those days.

I also think they’re absolutely adorable little mammals and would love watching them hop around and play or perhaps take a peaceful nap depending on the time of day.

If we’re strictly speaking of magical friends here, I think Brownies would be a nice household companion. I would happily give them food,respect, and a peaceful home and would appreciate whatever small repairs or improvements they decided to make to my home in exchange.

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Wednesday Weekly Blogging Challenge: A Typical Day in My Life

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A white person wearing a light orange, long-sleeved shirt is typing on a laptop while sitting on a couch. This is what a typical day in my life looks like not counting the usual stuff like making breakfast or checking the mail:

15-20 minutes of studying Spanish in the morning either on Duolingo or by consuming Spanish media (music, tv shows, films, etc).

A 30 minute morning workout. It will most often be kickboxing, weightlifting, or a maybe a walk if I’m not feeling great. Occasionally, yoga or dancing might replace one of these activities. Evening workouts can interfere with my sleep schedule, so mornings it is.

Writing. I try to get in a few hours of writing a day on average. Due to my migraines, this means that some days are more like seven or eight hours of writing while others include very little of it.

Volunteering. This, too, varies by day. It’s done virtually and could be as short as five minutes or as long as a few hours. So much relies on how long a to-do list is and how much time I have to check things off from it!

Chores. This is maybe 30 minutes to three hours a day, depending on whether or not the laundry basket is full and how many loads of laundry I might need to do. Chores always include washing multiple rounds of dishes since we don’t own a dishwasher and have a tiny drying rack. It might also include going grocery shopping, mailing a birthday card to a relative, picking up a prescription or other necessary goods at the pharmacy, calling the doctor or dentist, cleaning the bathroom, dusting, sweeping, etc. You know, the typical stuff adults do to keep things running smoothly that kids don’t think about when they wish they, too, were grownups.

A short lunchtime walk, if possible. It’s good to stretch my legs after a morning of (mostly) sitting.

A focused afternoon. Anything I didn’t finish in the morning is something I try to return to and wrap up ibefore dinner.

15-20 minutes of studying Spanish in the evening. It’s a nice way to wind down, and I’m getting a much stronger grasp of that language with all of the time I’ve invested into it.

Batch cooking. About twice a week I’ll make something that keeps well like spaghetti, tacos, shepherd’s pie, or a stir-fry that I can eat for lunch or for dinner over the next 2-3 days.

Maybe an evening walk? Sometimes this happens, and sometimes it doesn’t depending on the weather and how I’m feeling.

 

Migraines are the main thing that interrupts this schedule. Screen time is a known trigger for many people’s migraines, and my medical professionals have told me to really keep an eye on it and limit screen time when I can for that reason.  It’s hard for me to focus when I’m having one anyways, so those days are meant for lying still in a room that is as dark and quiet as possible.

So if my body is anywhere in the migraine cycle, I put off everything I possibly can for a couple of days and get as much rest as I can. I’m quite fortunate to have the ability to do this, and it’s one reason why I push myself to get so much done on the good days.

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Wednesday Weekly Blogging Challenge: Something I Could Give a Speech About With No Notice

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Drawing of a person holding their head in pain. You can see their brain and a red stream of light filling their brain and oozing down their spinal column. This light is meant to represent the pain and other symptoms associated with migraines. I’ve talked about living with a food allergy previously on my blog, so the topic I’m picking for this week’s prompt is migraines.

Migraines are a painful neurological disease that can do everything from make you temporarily go blind to mimic some of the signs of a stroke if you have symptoms like trouble speaking or numbness or weakness on one side of the body.

(Not everyone has the most severe forms of this disease or these symptoms, of course, but anyone who has migraines or knows someone who does should be aware of all of the possibilities).

I’d talk about all sorts of things in my speech:

  • When to go to the emergency room for an attack
  • How to tell the difference between a migraine (which isn’t generally dangerous unless you’re throwing up too much and get very dehydrated) and a medical emergency like a stroke or brain tumour
  • Home treatments to help avoid an ER or Urgent Care Centre visit when possible
  • Vitamin and mineral supplements that may reduce how common and how severe your migraines are
  • Which supplements don’t currently have scientific data supporting their use for this diagnosis
  • The neurological link between migraines, strokes, epilepsy, and seizures and why more people should be aware of it
  • How to help someone you love who is having a migraine
  • How to help an acquaintance or stranger who is experiencing a migraine in a public place
  • Food and drinks that are triggers for some people
  • Food and drinks that may reduce symptoms
  • How to respond to well-meaning people who think migraines are a fancy term for tension headaches
  • How to have patience with less amenable people who don’t understand invisible illnesses and think you’re being dramatic
  • Other triggers, both common and uncommon
  • Why getting enough sleep and eating meals on a regular schedule is vital for us
  • Your chances of passing this disease onto your kids if one or both parents have migraines
  • How to complete necessary life tasks when you feel another attack coming on
  • Why resting during the postdrome phase (right after the migraine ends)  is so important
  • The latest research on what causes this disease and possible new treatments for it

And so much more.

(I feel like someone else in the WWBC community has migraines, too? Was that you, George? If so, I’d invite you on stage to talk, too).

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Wednesday Weekly Blogging Challenge: Celebrities I’d Like to Meet

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Photo of several large busts of the heads of famous scientists like Marie Curie and Einstein. They are arranged in a neat line outdoors in a garden filled with grass and evergreen bushes that have been trimmed into box shapes. The existence of media training makes this week’s theme a tricky one. Just because a celebrity has developed a particular public image doesn’t mean that they are at all like that persona behind closed doors.

I think you can enjoy someone’s work without falling into hero worship. It’s so hard to tell what is PR spin and what is real. (Well, unless we’re talking about the first two people on my list. Everyone seems to love them!)

Maybe they really are wonderful human beings behind the scenes, or perhaps not. I don’t judge anyone based on a single story or assume I know a singer, writer, or other entertainer personally just because I read, watch, or listen to their stuff.

To stick with the spirit of this post, though, here are some celebrities that seem to have a lot of positive stories floating around about them. If I needed to meet someone famous, I’d start with this list and hope they were just as delightful behind the scenes as they are when they’re in the public eye.

  • Mr. Rogers
  • Dolly Parton
  • Dave Chappelle
  • Tom Hanks
  • Viola Davis
  • Patrick Stewart
  • Sean Patrick Thomas
  • Gina Rodriquez
  • Ed Sheeran
  • Julia Stiles
  • Keanu Reeves
  • Denzel Washington
  • Barack and Michelle Obama
  • Ms. Rachel

 

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Top Ten Tuesday: Things That Keep Me From Reading

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Thank you to Cristyn @ Draconic Breath for coming up with this topic in 2024. You gave me the inspiration I needed to write this week’s freebie post!

A pair of black-rimmed glasses lying on an opened book. 1. Migraines

There are at least a few other TTT bloggers who already know what this illness is like. For everyone else, Reading is difficult when I’m in the migraine cycle due to symptoms like brain fog, nausea, and pain. Staring at a screen can also trigger migraines or make them worse, so I do try to limit screen time on those days.

2. Doomscrolling 

It’s so tempting but such a time waster as well!

3. Repetitive Storylines

I love speculative fiction, but I also find myself growing bored with some of the common plot lines in this genre because of how often they seem to be repeated. This is one of the reasons why you’ll find other genres mentioned in my Top Ten Tuesday posts. Switching things up keeps me interested in reading.

4. Medical Appointments

There have been a lot of them in my household this past year or so, and they can certainly cut into the time one has for more pleasurable things like reading.

5. Nice Weather 

I know I’ve mentioned this a few times before on my blog, but when Ontario has nice weather, often in the spring and autumn, I feel compelled to go outside and enjoy it instead of read. There will be plenty of other days in the year when it’s too hot, cold, icy, stormy, or humid to enjoy a walk in the park or a visit to the beach.

6. Overwhelming Choices

There are so many amazing books out there that I don’t always know which one to read next! This is not a problem I ever had growing up as ebooks didn’t exist back then and my parents weren’t always able to take us to the library. I feel fortunate to have it now even if decision fatigue does sometimes make it hard to decide what to read next.

7. Social Media in General  

I have been trying to be more mindful of my use of it in 2026, but it can be quite easy to spend an hour watching short videos or reading stranger’s comments online instead of picking up one of the books I’ve been meaning to read.

8. Writing

Striking a balance between writing and reading isn’t always easy.

9. Meeting Other Goals

Whether it’s related to work, exercise, or spending time with other people, I do have limits on how much energy I have for reading!

10. Chores 

The dishes won’t wash themselves, after all.

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Wednesday Weekly Blogging Challenge: A Few Happy Memories From My Life

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Here are a few of my happy memories.

Age 4. My mother was heavily pregnant with her third child. Me and my toddler-aged brother sat on the couch next to her, gently touched her belly, and talked to the baby that would soon be joining us.

Age 8. Our family lived in a trailer home next to a highway that was built on a big hill behind our home. We were very low income, and I know my parents worried about how that would affect their kids. The biggest thing on my mind then was how often I’d get to go sledding down that hill. We had some lightweight plastic sleds that glided down that hill perfectly. It was my favourite thing in the entire world other than reading, and I did not care that my parents couldn’t afford to buy us fancy new toys or name-brand clothes.

Wooden library shelves filled with books. Age 18. Exams were wrapping up, and winter break was just about to begin. I sat in my college library and thumbed through the magazines they had there, paying special attention to the ones about science, literature, or history. It was neither a big library nor a fancy one, but I loved how quiet and peaceful it always was. I spent a lot of time there between classes even if I didn’t have any papers to write or upcoming tests to study for.

Adult. Recently married and living in Canada now. We couldn’t afford to travel on our honeymoon, so we explored a lot of free or low-cost stuff to do here in Toronto instead. I was amazed at how large, clean, and beautiful High Park was. Out of all of the parks in the world, it’s still my favourite one.

Adult. My first book was published, a collection of short stories. (There’s a link to it at the top of this site). I really should try to get more of my work published sometime. Writer’s block is terrible.

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Wednesday Weekly Blogging Challenge: My Unusual Hobbies/Interests

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Closeup shot of four stacks of various amounts of pennies on a wooden floor. I’ve been looking forward to this topic for months! Let’s see if our ideas of unusual hobbies and interests match up.

I’ve already told you all about my pet earthworms that horrified my mother, so let’s dig up some other interesting memories.

When I was a kid, I sometimes played with coins.

I liked stacking them up on each other as tall as I could, or making groups of them in various sizes and pretending they were little families, or of playing a miniature version of curling with them where one penny would be pushed quickly on our laminate or wood floor to see how many stacks I could topple.

It provided hours of free entertainment.

 

The Black Death was another interest of mine for years. We must have had a lesson about it in school that talked about how high the death rates were, but I had trouble wrapping my mind around how many people died during those waves of disease and read many books about the subject as a kid and teen.

 

I had another phase after my grandmother’s death where I asked my mother countless questions about what heaven would be like since the Bible wasn’t vivid enough on the topic for my tastes. When she didn’t know, she eventually bought me a book from the Christian bookstore on the topic which I quietly refused to read because I didn’t know or trust the author. Was I expecting God to come down and answer my questions personally? 😂 I don’t know, and I did appreciate the effort, but I didn’t want conjecture. I wanted proof.

 

Slipping out of church to explore was another hobby of mine because preacher’s kids spend a lot of time in such places. If it’s not our home church, it will probably be a church pastored by someone we know.  There was one church we occasionally visited that was massive and had dozens of rooms to explore.A few rooms were filled with books, religious of course.  One time I wandered up to what I think was the attic and found a door with a piece of paper on it that said something like “Protected by Angels.” I did not open that door and still have no idea what was on the other side.

 

So those are or were some of my unusual hobbies. How about all of you?

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