Suggestion Saturday: May 12, 2012

Here is this week’s list of blog posts, charts, world photography days and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

What are you doing on Tuesday, May 15? I’m going to be participating in Aday.org. On the 15th millions of people across the world will be taking a photograph of something in their lives and sharing it with everyone else. Click on the link for more information.

Yes, I’ll share my photo here as well. I hope you’ll share yours, too!

The Body Odd. It took me longer than normal to learn the difference between right and left. I don’t remember how old I was when it finally happened but I do remember feeling relieved that I finally got it.

10 Easy Ways to Lower Your Lifespan. Just in case you were hoping to die a little sooner. 😉

From Why Your Kid Isn’t Creative:

There’s nothing new about the way pragmatic concerns and conformity displace playfulness and originality as kids mature. “Every child is an artist,” Pablo Picasso once said. “The problem is how to remain an artist once we grow up.”

What’s Your Life-Ruining Secret? These aren’t exactly secrets for people who know me well but here’s my list of Stuff That Freaks (Some) People Out: bisexual, humanist, (theoretically) polyamorous, agnostic, childless by choice. What’s your list?

Today and Tomorrow. A fantastic post from my friend ‘Seph about circular reasoning.

Love, InshAllah is a collection of essays about the love lives of Muslim women. There are arranged marriages, virgin brides, LGBT revelations, and women who found lasting love the third time around. Everything else I’ve read about Muslim women has tended to portray them as victims or as superhumanly pious. It’s fascinating to see a glimpse of the lives of ordinary people.

What have you been reading?

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A World Without Sea Cucumbers

A few weeks ago an unusual search term prompted me to write this post.

A few days ago someone found this blog by doing an Internet search for a world without sea cucumbers

Strawberry has a story for you, anonymous visitor. I’ve heard it’s been passed down among sea cucumbers for generations. 😉

In the beginning the world was very different than it is now.

You could swim as far as your fins or flippers wanted to move and you’d never find the beginning or end of the sea.

You could swim as far up or down as your fins or flippers soared and you’d never scrape the muddy floor or gasp those peculiar gases that stream over the sea.

There was only water as far as anyone could ever swim. If there was, in fact, anyone around to swim.

The sea was much less crowded in those days. There were other creatures- small, rounder, and less intelligent than us – mucking about but there were no sea cucumbers.

And then the seas split. Structures that looked like reefs jutted up out of the sea, some so enormous that they ruptured one sea into two. The water surged, growing shallow in places where it had been deep and deep where it had been shallow.

Everyone living near those reefs died. How could anyone survive without water, after all?Those left behind adapted to new habitats, learning to eat new foods and find shelter behind rocks or underneath mud on an otherwise barren ocean floor.

The best of these stretched out their tails, sucked in their bellies, absorbed their limb buds and became sea cucumbers. It took many generations for them to become as intelligent and curious as us, of course, but they eventually made it.

And that is how a world without sea cucumbers became a world with them.

 

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Suggestion Saturday: May 5, 2012

Here is this week’s list of blog posts, pictures, videos and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

Dangerous Booby Traps Found on Popular Utah Trail. This is unbelievable. I’m so glad no one was injured by this foolishness.

The Baby Producer. It’s amazing to watch a small child (re)interpret his surroundings. I don’t know how they make sense of it all so quickly.

What’s Keeping You From Volunteering? Such an interesting post. I completely understand all of the reasons listed there. This is why I usually only volunteer online for organizations that are very flexible about time.

Everyone Sees What You Appear to Be. I don’t actually agree with this one. Or at least not over the long term. It’s easy to fool someone for an hour or day…but eventually the real you is going to seep through. Whether or not this is a good thing depends on what sort of person you are I suppose.

I recently finished One Big Happy Family, a collection of essays about families that don’t fit the traditional mold. It includes essays on open adoption, homeschooling, single parenthood, polyamory, same-sex couples, sperm donors, househusbands, and interracial/intercultural marriages.

If I ever own a house large enough to throw a decent party in I’ll invite every single one of these writers and their families over for dinner. I’ll invite you, too. After the table is cleared we’ll have a nice, long conversation over dessert and the drink of your choice. I suspect we’ll be pleasantly surprised to see how much we share in common. And if this doesn’t happen at least you’ll get a free meal out of it. 😛

What have you been reading?

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Open Thread: What Do You Want?

Yes, I will be releasing another official survey for On the Other Hand’s two year anniversary this summer. It will be so interesting to compare the results from last year!

In the meantime what topics would you like me to cover here? Is there anything I’ve blogged about that you really enjoyed?

I’ve settled nicely into that review-writing gig I mentioned last month and may be able to commit more time to this site in the near future.

 

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Wild Card Wednesday: A Story in the Making

There is a short story encapsulated here.

Can you visualize the end?

(In my version he walks away from the collision with a few bruises and scratches. Hopefully that is what happened in real life as well!)

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Mailbag #6

It’s been a while since I’ve been able to update this series.  Thank you to whomever it was who thought up this question. Lurkers, please don’t be shy. I’m happy to answer anything!

Recently anonymous asked:

 What are your most strongly held beliefs?

1. Politics are useless. By that I mean that it doesn’t really matter who you vote for or which party wins. There’s only so much change that can be accomplished on a federal level.

2. It’s better to tell a story than preach a sermon. But never combine the two. You’ll only end up with the worst of both worlds.

3. A friend shared this quote with me a few years ago when I was horribly stressed out due to a series of unhappy surprises: everything will be ok in the end. If it’s not ok it’s not the end.

4.  Every beer brewed since the beginning of mankind is terminally un-drinkable. Except for this one.

5. Give others the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes they don’t know that what they’re asking or assuming is offensive. Sometimes things don’t come out the way they were intended. That’s ok. Take a step back and clarify before deciding how to proceed with them in the future.

Do you have a question for me? Submit it through the contact form or in the comment section of this post. 

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Suggestion Saturday: April 28, 2012

Here is this week’s list of blog posts, slide shows and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

From Melting Glaciers Liberate Ancient Microbes:

With that ice melting at an alarming rate, those conditions could soon be at hand. Masses of bacteria and other microbes – some of which the world hasn’t seen since the Middle Pleistocene, a previous period of major climate change about 750,000 years ago – will make their way back into the environment.

@Loveszar retweeted a great Deepak Chopra quote last week: When the caterpillar thought it was the end of the world it turned into a butterfly.

People Riding Animals Other Than Horses. My favourite was the shark.

All It Takes is a Smile. I’m so oblivious to flirtation that I have no idea how I got married. (Well, ok. I might have some idea of how that happened. 😉 ) At least I’m not the only one, though.

24 Things You Might be Saying Wrong. I wonder how long it will take for these phrases to replace the old (correct) versions of them? Language does evolve after all.

Sex. Marriage. Attraction. Lust. Romance. Our understanding of these terms have shifted tremendously over the past few hundred years. There have always been people who are attracted to the opposite sex, of course, but it is only within the last 150 years that heterosexuality was created as a cultural identity.

Straight tells you exactly how that happened.

What have you been reading?

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3 Things I’ve Learned as a Book Critic

Lajos Tihanyi’s The Critic.

About a month ago I began writing book reviews under a pseudonym for another website.

It’s been an amazing experience so far. I love combing through the review database and finding short stories and books to read. It’s exhilarating to discover new authors and even a new genre – I’m just now realizing how much I love a well-written mystery. In the past it’s always been a section of the library or bookstore that I’d overlooked.

Here are a few things I’ve learned from my first month of reviewing:

Be kind. It’s so easy to be snarky. (Or at least it is for me ;)). I’ve learned that there are many ways to effectively review a short story or novel that stirs up mixed emotions – you loved X but had reservations about Y, you don’t understand why Z happened.

Tone matters. What might come across as a light-hearted jab or playful phrase in real life can be interpreted in a much harsher light when you only have the written word. I try to sandwich even strong criticisms between praise for this reason.

Be honest. Of course sugar-coating your opinions doesn’t work either. Some stories are  more interesting or well-written that others.  There are polite ways to get this across but it isn’t helpful to pretend to enjoy something that you actually disliked.

And not liking something doesn’t mean that it’s a bad book! I refuse to read sentimental stories. I have a friend who hates science fiction and another friend who cannot stomach sexually explicit romance novels. Asking any of us to give an honest critique of these genres would be foolish. We’d have so little to recommend about them.

Be compassionate. Someday someone will (hopefully) review the short stories and book I’ve been working on. As excited as I am to share some of these things with the outside world later on in 2012 I’m also nervous. Will others like my work? Will they understand my sense of humour?

I hope that the people who review my stories remember that they were written by another human being and that I put weeks, months, or years of effort into what they’re reading. In the meantime I try to catch glimpses of the authors behind the stuff I review.

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Suggestion Saturday: April 21, 2012

Here is this week’s list of blog posts, quotes and other tidbits from my favourite corners of the web.

The Thing About [Prejudice]. This is a fantastic quote about internalized sexism. It could just as easily be about any other form of prejudice. None of us are immune.

From We Need Every Little Catastrophe:

It’s amazing how good we think we are at predicting the future when we’re predicting a gloomy one. From within a catastrophe, the easy times seem to be over, at least for now, maybe forever. The bigger ones seem to be so poised to kill you that you forget that not one of them ever has, and that at any given time all but a few of them are dead.

 Music Treatment for Dementia. My great-grandmother had alzheimer’s disease. It was difficult to watch her slowly unravel especially when she stopped communicating with the outside world. I wonder if something like this might have temporarily jogged her memory?

Good stuff from President Obama. Maybe the 2012 election won’t be as cringe-worthy as previous elections:

“I don’t have a lot of patience for commentary about the spouses of political candidates,” Obama said. “Those of us who are in the public life, we’re fair game. Our families are civilians.”

Africans Shocked by Uncivilized Antics of European Savages via Undercovernun. A satirical look at recent controversies in Europe.

Hazel is in the process of dying from an aggressive form of cancer that has plagued her for several years. And then one day she meets a boy named Augustus at a support group for teens who have cancer.

The Fault in Our Stars  is one of the funniest, most joyful books I’ve ever read. Don’t let the plot fool you – this is not your typical “kids with cancer” story. There’s no simpering, no stiff upper lips, no life lessons, no unnatural displays of courage in the face of death. Just two sarcastic, flirtatious sixteen year olds falling in love.

What have you been reading?

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Wild Card Wednesday: Spring 2012 Questions

Photo by Brocken Inaglory

Search engine queries from the last two months. 

1. What would happen if the Americans gained control of the Niagara Peninsula? They’d probably end up annexing the rest of Canada, too. The U.S. has 312 million citizens…Canada only has about 34 million. 😉

2. Is a quiet husband better than a boisterous one? Yes.

3. How much sex on tv is acceptable? As much (or as little) as the plot requires.

4. What is it with quiet people that makes them interesting? You’ll never know what we’re really thinking about.

5. How [do you] catch up with old friends and acquaintances after many years? Invite them out for coffee/beer/ice cream floats. Share your life highlights from the last X of years. Ask them about theirs. Exchange phone numbers. Probably never see them again.

6. Was life easier in the 90s? Not for me. Your results may vary.

7. What happened to “the ooze” website? It was rebooted.

8. What’s the difference between socializing today and for twenty years ago? Embarrassing photos and stories are much more likely to end up on Facebook.

9. Is sex a kind of violence? No.

10. What would you ask your ancestors?

Many generations ago there was a woman in my family tree who gave birth to a disabled child when she was young and single (which was a very shameful thing in rural Germany at that time.) One day that child walked into the woods and “disappeared.” I’ve always wondered if someone covered up a murder with that strange little story. If so, was the mother involved?

About 150 years ago another ancestor changed his name and emigrated from Germany to the United States. We don’t know what his original name was or why he changed it. I’ve always wondered who or what he was running from. Was he really even German?

11. Is there more than one type of fear? Yes. That’s why watching horror movies is fun and actually being assaulted (sexually, physically or otherwise) is traumatic.

12. Why do people react nonchalantly to violence? They’ve grown numb to it.

13. What if someone doesn’t want our forgiveness? Forgive them anyway. You don’t have to tell them about it.

14. God will heal you atheist. If that happened I’d be grateful. And then I’d wonder why anyone would heal a non-theist from a minor illness (as I have no chronic health problems) when millions of believers die every day. Wouldn’t it make more sense to look after them instead?

15. Drinking is boring. Yes it is. Especially when you’re the only sober one in the room.

16. Awkward conversations you want to avoid. Anything with an agenda attached to it. Don’t have an agenda? Not interested in converting the rest of us to your religion/political party/choice of reading materials? Then no topic is off-limits.

17. When is grace appropriate and inappropriate?

It depends on what your position is in the conflict. Are you the injured party? It’s appropriate.

Are you a bystander trying to convince someone who has been hurt to sweep their pain under the rug? It’s inappropriate.

18. How can you let someone know something is yours legally? Say, “I actually own that.” If there’s still a conflict get legal advice.

19. Everybody I meet has to become a friend. No offense but I find that attitude to be sickly-sweet and patronizing. Be friendly by all means but please don’t try to force anything. It will either happen naturally or it won’t.

20.  How many holes are there in a girl? explain the function of each briefly. I’m so grateful you’re not my kid. Go ask your parent(s) or look it up on Wikipedia.

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